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CORKY said:
If and when you adopt, are you making him/her an indoor cat? Indoor cats are safer, they have a longer life span, and they do not get the infection and illnesses an outdoor cat does that eats everything from anywhere and cat fights as well, or ran over, you can monitor an indoor cat’s health and what they eat to have a longer life span time healthy cat, and also more loving
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Indoor only
 
Rescue said ok to bring her home to see how we do. Shes very loving and sweet. But it's like my heart is numb and i can't love.
She's also hacking a lot now. We literally just came from the vet. The rescue lady said it's from stress but she keeps doing it.
I don't know if going to keep her not. Like I said, as sweet and loving as you could want. But it's like I can't love because my first baby took my heart with her. Maybe she should be my only baby and I shouldn't get cats or pets again.
 
BabyG wouldn’t want to have harmed you in that way. Your heart is bigger than you think. But if you’re not ready you’re not ready and I don’t want it to be too confusing for the new kitty to go home with you and then feel the rejection of being returned to the shelter.
 
Yes it's not fair to the new kitty at all, especially since she's perfect. That's why I feel like if I don't keep her then no more fur babies again because I never want to hurt any.
 
babyg said:
well she’s there now so just be kind to her (as I already know you will) and give her and yourself some time. I think you are selling yourself short. I believe you have love to give to another. The love you showed to BabyG was incredible. Even though we have never met in person, I know you have a big heart. Yes, it’s a hurt heart, but your capacity to love is strong (or you would not even be agonizing over this decision.) It’s a tribute to your love for BabyG.
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Quick update. She's such a perfect kitty. Still was hacking a little though and her one eye is still squinting on and off. But she's playing, napping, eating good, pottying good, looking out the window, etc.

After I lay down last night and she jumped up and snuggled next to me, I thought how could I say no?

But the anxiety of having anxiety over potential medical issues is literally making me sick. Migraine, nauseous. I loved BabyG so much but the stress and worry over her chronic health conditions was difficult. I'm scared to have those anxieties again. I know though that's part of having a pet or even another person in your life. Anyone can get sick at any time. But it's really hard and I don't want to go through that again. While diabetes and other things like pancreatitis made our bond stronger, it was also traumatizing. Anyone else go through this?
 
babyg said:
While diabetes and other things like pancreatitis made our bond stronger, it was also traumatizing. Anyone else go through this?
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Oh sure. Many times. It’s mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting to serve as wingman to a pet going through a difficult medical journey. We are loyal and committed, but it’s not an easy or free ride for us. It takes awhile to recover and regain our footing.

Take a deep breath. Then another. And allow yourself to enjoy the snuggles the kitten is offering and to laugh at the antics. Both will be healing to your soul. They say time heals, but sometimes time plus an innocent kitten heals you faster. I have no doubt Baby G is still there with you, whispering in the kitten’s ear with info to help her help you. Just accept the love openly,

Maybe you need an escape hatch to calm your mind. So even though I’m sure you won’t need it … here it is. For the next year, if you run into a medical issue that’s overwhelming for you, let me know. I’ll help you work something out or even take the kitten in until the issue is resolved if needed. We’ll reevaluate after a year to see how you feel. Does that help at all?
 
JL and Chip said:
Oh sure. Many times. It’s mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting to serve as wingman to a pet going through a difficult medical journey. We are loyal and committed, but it’s not an easy or free ride for us. It takes awhile to recover and regain our footing.

Take a deep breath. Then another. And allow yourself to enjoy the snuggles the kitten is offering and to laugh at the antics. Both will be healing to your soul. They say time heals, but sometimes time plus an innocent kitten heals you faster. I have no doubt Baby G is still there with you, whispering in the kitten’s ear with info to help her help you. Just accept the love openly,

Maybe you need an escape hatch to calm your mind. So even though I’m sure you won’t need it … here it is. For the next year, if you run into a medical issue that’s overwhelming for you, let me know. I’ll help you work something out or even take the kitten in until the issue is resolved if needed. We’ll reevaluate after a year to see how you feel. Does that help at all?
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Wow, thank you for being so kind toward me. Words can't describe how amazing you all are. Thank you.

Last night I decided to just try enjoying her and playing with her and not pressuring myself about anything. We snuggled. We played. She let me hold her in my arms while she napped. Last night she had the zoomies. And then this morning she made these little squeaks at me while fixing her breakfast. Sometimes she will pair a head boop with an adorable tiny hop. All these kind of added up until I realized I was quite taken by her.

So tonight after work I went and signed the papers and she is now officially mine.
 
Meet Marshmallow
 

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babyg said:
Wow, thank you for being so kind toward me. Words can't describe how amazing you all are. Thank you.

Last night I decided to just try enjoying her and playing with her and not pressuring myself about anything. We snuggled. We played. She let me hold her in my arms while she napped. Last night she had the zoomies. And then this morning she made these little squeaks at me while fixing her breakfast. Sometimes she will pair a head boop with an adorable tiny hop. All these kind of added up until I realized I was quite taken by her.

So tonight after work I went and signed the papers and she is now officially mine.
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Congratulations, RJ!
 
Thanks, everyone! She really is such a perfect little kitty. Tonight I was starting to grieve BabyG because it was our shot time, but when I sat down on the couch, Marshmallow came over, lay on my chest, and started giving me kisses. I think I needed her as much as she needed me.
 
I also talk to her and tell her about her big sister since I'm sure she can smell her scent on all the cat trees and toys. Both were/are perfect babies that I will always love. 💕
 
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