Adoption

[Sienne and Gabby (GA)]

RJ -
I've been following along with your post. It made me think of this fable that I sometimes share with members here. It's called The Loving Ones. It captures some of what you've been struggling with. Have some Kleenex near by.

 

[CORKY]

RJ -
I've been following along with your post. It made me think of this fable that I sometimes share with members here. It's called The Loving Ones. It captures some of what you've been struggling with. Have some Kleenex near by.

That is beautiful

 

[babyg]

If and when you adopt, are you making him/her an indoor cat? Indoor cats are safer, they have a longer life span, and they do not get the infection and illnesses an outdoor cat does that eats everything from anywhere and cat fights as well, or ran over, you can monitor an indoor cat’s health and what they eat to have a longer life span time healthy cat, and also more loving

Indoor only

 

[babyg]

Rescue said ok to bring her home to see how we do. Shes very loving and sweet. But it's like my heart is numb and i can't love.
She's also hacking a lot now. We literally just came from the vet. The rescue lady said it's from stress but she keeps doing it.
I don't know if going to keep her not. Like I said, as sweet and loving as you could want. But it's like I can't love because my first baby took my heart with her. Maybe she should be my only baby and I shouldn't get cats or pets again.

 

[Suzanne & Darcy]

BabyG wouldn’t want to have harmed you in that way. Your heart is bigger than you think. But if you’re not ready you’re not ready and I don’t want it to be too confusing for the new kitty to go home with you and then feel the rejection of being returned to the shelter.

 

[babyg]

Yes it's not fair to the new kitty at all, especially since she's perfect. That's why I feel like if I don't keep her then no more fur babies again because I never want to hurt any.

 

[CORKY]

Indoor only

That is awesome news, take a leap, don’t think about it any more, go for it, your fur baby is waiting to love you and be loved

 

[Suzanne & Darcy]

well she’s there now so just be kind to her (as I already know you will) and give her and yourself some time. I think you are selling yourself short. I believe you have love to give to another. The love you showed to BabyG was incredible. Even though we have never met in person, I know you have a big heart. Yes, it’s a hurt heart, but your capacity to love is strong (or you would not even be agonizing over this decision.) It’s a tribute to your love for BabyG.

 

[Suzanne & Darcy]

Sorry for the above. I can’t seem to get my text out of the quote box no matter how many times I try.

 

[babyg]

Quick update. She's such a perfect kitty. Still was hacking a little though and her one eye is still squinting on and off. But she's playing, napping, eating good, pottying good, looking out the window, etc.

After I lay down last night and she jumped up and snuggled next to me, I thought how could I say no?

But the anxiety of having anxiety over potential medical issues is literally making me sick. Migraine, nauseous. I loved BabyG so much but the stress and worry over her chronic health conditions was difficult. I'm scared to have those anxieties again. I know though that's part of having a pet or even another person in your life. Anyone can get sick at any time. But it's really hard and I don't want to go through that again. While diabetes and other things like pancreatitis made our bond stronger, it was also traumatizing. Anyone else go through this?

 

[Lara & Luciole (Lu)]

I have found that taking up a practice of gratitude helps still anxious thoughts