4/16 Jesse & Spock update

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Wow, Carolyn, you are certainly NO slacker! I'm new here, my cat only diagnosed jan 2 of this year, and I'm already feeling exhausted and stressed out with the whole process. you have TWO? to deal with, plus all the other stuff going on? Just know that your cats are alive BECAUSE of you and you can't beat yourself up about it all. I can't offer much advice re doses etc.etc. but it sure sounds like YOU could use a little TLC. I hope you are feeling better soon. It IS a hugely stressful deal and I agree, those that don't have cats, or don't understand what is involved, really can't understand or be supportive. That's why we have this place to come and whine and cry to. don't feel bad. The more you beat yourself up the less help you'll be for your kitties. And what a wonderful thing to do to try and help Spock. It does sound like you have rather a lot on your plate at the moment. I hope thngs settle down and you get some good advice from the more experienced people here. I hear your frustration, must be doubly so having had a cat go into remission and then relapse. Even harder when it seems like the one cat you are trying so hard to take care of, isn't really that appreciative of your efforts.

as I said, not much I can offer other than sympathy and yes, a smack up side of the head, not for being a slacker but for being so down on yourself! ohmygod_smile
 
((((Carolyn))))
I don't want this to sound harsh, but what good is holding on to all of the negatives doing for you? You have clearly been through a very difficult time. You've done everything you can to change your circumstances and move forward. Maybe it's time to let the past go, take a deep breath, and start doing what will make you feel good about yourself.

As for Mr. Spock, how about trying Rescue Remedy? You may also want to send a PM to Tena/Curry. She went through a very trying time with feline aggression with her two cats. She may be able to offer you some suggestions so at least there's detente. I also wouldn't feel badly about helping Spock to find a home where he is the only cat. You've helped DCIN better understand what Spock's needs are.

There are no guarantees that Jesse will go into remission again. However, is that your goal? If it is, the best way to achieve that goal is to follow the protocol. Climb back on the horse and do what you need to do.

Like you, I'm my cat's sole caretaker. And yes, I arrange my life around shot times. It's not always convenient. My travel has become extremely curtailed. But, that's my choice. Resenting Gabby would do no good whatsoever. I regard my cats like I would kids. I don't feel like I can change the way I care for them because it's inconvenient. They are my responsibility. But, that's me. I also suspect your feeling inconvenienced by your cats is more a reflection of all of the changes you've been undergoing. You clearly have a big heart to take in these cats and care for them. Give yourself the time and space to adjust to the changes and for you to get settled again.

How can we help? You know that the support is here if you feel that you need it. Just let us know what we can do.
 
aw, carolyn, i had no idea things were so difficult. i knew about the move and giving up your house, and was imagining something like what you've posted. you have a lot of cats and they are expensive! the commute, the move, the cats, jesse & spock's needs . . . you have a lot on your plate.

i don't think anyone's going to smack you upside the head! sienne's right, though - giving up on all of those negative feelings will make you feel lighter and will make life better in itself. doing what needs to be done will take all of those "to-do's" off of your list. that will also make you feel better.

i'd be glad to help you if i knew how. what would be helpful?

hugs from me and punkin!
 
Hey Carolyn

I'm so sorry to hear all that you are going thru. It's alot.

I'm also glad you allowed yourself the time and space to purge some of those thoughts and feelings here.

Feel free to send me a PM. Perhaps we can chat.....

Lots of hugs for you my dear
Tena
 
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