The difference between your Relion and AT2 meters will be greater the higher the BG. At low range numbers the difference won't be that big but at high readings it can be very significant looking. And as mentioned, both have a variance allowance so if the human meter reads on the low side and the AT2 on the high side, the difference can be surprising.
Neither meter is more accurate than the other. Cat blood differs from human blood. The human meter is reading cat blood as if it were human whereas the AT2 is reading cat blood as cat blood. They are two totally different measures. Picking one meter and using it is the best way forward. If you did a curve for a day and took tests with both meters, the curve would look very similar but the curve line for the AT2 would be higher than the human meter curve.
As for safe to shoot numbers, stick to one meter for decision making. On the human meter we recommend not shooting under 200 until you have lots of data. Once you have data, you can slowly back that up. So if you get a pre-shot of 190, you try shooting. If that works well, you can then back up to 175 for instance. Systematic trials are really the only way to know how low a pre-shot is safe to shoot for your cat.