very sick cat in hospital 3 hours away

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Sara and Buttercup

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wrote about her in previous post. my cat is hospitalized (4 days now) and not doing well. i had to go home to go to work and take care of my other cats. she's a three hour drive away. i feel awful because i can't get to her tonight. i'm scared she's going to die there and they are now being a-holes to me because i complained about the 1,200 dollar per day bill and i'm afraid that they aren't doing all they can for her now. i shouldn't have said anything.
has anyone here ever had to leave a sick cat in a clinic a long way away and not been able to get to them when they needed to? i't's an bad feeling. i wondered if anyone can relate to that. i feel like a terrible person because i haven't seen her for two days now and she probably thinks i abondered her in her. there is no good vet care locally and it was her only chance to take her to this specialty clinic but now i am regreeting it. i'm so scared.
 
{{{ H U G S }}}


I can't directly relate, since I don't think I've ever been able to afford that level of vet care, but that's a tough spot to be in, I wish I could give you real hugs, I have a feeling you need them right now. And gosh, I sure hope you're wrong and that they won't mistreat your baby because of something like that..... how awful to even consider that could ever happen :(

I really hope she feels better soon.
 
thank you. i feel really bad. also, i'm exhausted. i can't really afford it either. it's a nightmare on several levels. i want to sleep but i'm afraid to go to sleep.

i'm going to stay here for awhile in case i get more emails. thank you again. hugs.
 
Don't destroy your own health worrying about this..... You do what you have to do. You can help her best by taking care of yourself so that you can take care of her when she comes home.

Go get some sleep girl, don't worry yourself to death, your problems will be waiting when you wake, and you'll be better able to cope with them while you're rested.
 
that's really good advice. i am going to go to bed now. i'm starting to feel like i need to stop trying to control this so much because it is making me sick. she's an 18.3 year old cat. i love her but there's only so much i can do. i feel bad about all the money i've spent on this because it is going to have devastating consepquence for me in the near future. i think i need to regroup and try to put this into perspective or something. i mean, it has really been out of control the last few days. thank you so much for writing. you don't know how much your emails are helping me get through this.
 
:YMHUG: Sending you purrs and prayers. You are doing the best that you can for ALL of your babies!! I hope that all goes well and she gets to come home soon! :YMHUG:
 
Also wishing that your girl pulls through and gets to come home soon.
I had to go into debt for J.D. once when he had DKA and was hospitalized over an hour's drive away. I was able to visit him and that really helped me. I don't think I slept very well the whole time until he came home over 8 days later. I hope you are getting some sleep. I was able to pay off the loan within a year and I don't regret spending the money as he was in a good hospital and compared to what a human would have to pay for what he got it was way way way less.
Sending the strongest of get well wishes to your girl.
 
Hopefully you got a good night's sleep. I do think you need to factor in the financial cost and outcome for the cat, and do a cost benefit analysis.

I know how can I write that. This is your love, your heart and I'm writing to consider the financial aspect.

Well yes, you need to. You need to have an honest conversation with the vet about prognosis, treatment, outcome, can she come home and when and put emotions aside (easier said than done) to be able to decide what is best for the cat. there is no right or wrong here and a whole lot of emotion, but hopefully, the vet can be clinical with you and talk with you honestly.

Being three hours away doesn't help with the emotions. Might there be any people who are closer to the vet that could check in and visit with her? I know it's not the same as you being there, but it may help give you some peace of mind, until you can go visit.

Sending you comfort and white light.
 
she passed away tonight

thank you everybody for your kind words and prayers. i brought her home tonight and she died on my bed with me within about 20 minutes. this happened just a couple of hours ago. i feel very sad. i feel guilty that her final days were in the hospital and i wasn't there with her for most of the time. i feel really angry that she has been taken from me. i'm too tired to write more tonight. thank you everybody for your support and kindness. means so much to me. god, i miss her so much already. there's this huge empty spot spot now where her love used to be. and knowing i'll never get it back makes me feeel unbearably sad and helpless.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. Deepest condolences to you and your family. o:-)

As much as I loved the life we had and all the times we played,
I was so very tired and knew my time on earth would fade.
I saw a wondrous image then of a place that's trouble-free
Where all of us can meet again to spend eternity.
I saw the most beautiful Rainbow, and on the other side
Were meadows rich and beautiful -- lush and green and wide!
And running through the meadows as far as the eye could see
Were animals of every sort as healthy as could be!
My own tired, failing body was fresh and healed and new
And I wanted to go run with them, but I had something left to do.
I needed to reach out to you, to tell you I'm alright
That this place is truly wonderful, then a bright Glow pierced the night.
'Twas the Glow of many Candles shining bright and strong and bold
And I knew then that it held your love in its brilliant shades of gold.
For although we may not be together in the way we used to be,
We are still connected by a cord no eye can see.
So whenever you need to find me, we're never far apart
If you look beyond the Rainbow and listen with your heart.
 
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I'm so sorry that you had to lose your baby, and I'm so glad she got to be with you before the end. (for you as much as for her)
 
Sara,

I am so sorry for all that you have been through. I am very sorry for the loss of your kitty. You did the best you could to get her better. Again so sorry for your loss.

Terri
 
Sara....

So sorry for your loss. Glad that she was with you and not alone in the clinic when she went to the bridge. You did the best you could for her.

Safe landing at the rainbow bridge sweet kitty....fun times await you there.

Paw Hugs To You from Me and RumpelT.
 
I am so sorry.

Please be kind to yourself and don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could and that is what matters. She knows how much you loved her. Fly free sweet one, may you soar high and wide and land softly.
 
A ring of candles, in memory of your beloved kitty.
 

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thank you everyone for the condolences. i feel very sad and am having a hard time coping. i wanted to eat some yogurt but that was one of her favorite foods and i just couldn't eat it. it's so quiet now. i have other cats but it's not the same. 18 years together every day, since before her eyes were open, until when she had her kittens and then through her whole adult life, all the good times, all the food we ate together, sat together, carrying her around, sitting in the sun, sleeping together, ... my heart hurts really bad. i think i need to sleep because i am totally wiped out.
 
My condolences....18 years is a good long life......hoping your sadness will be eclipsed in time with happy warm thoughts of your time together rb_icon
 
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