You guys have now given me hope. My boyfriend threatened to leave me today and is now sleeping in a different room, he basically said "i'm not going to give my life up for a cat".
Unfortunately, that's a knee jerk reaction to a stressful situation. Just to give you some perspective....
In May 2011, I came home with a very sick diabetic cat who "belonged to" my wife. A couple days later, he was also diagnosed as "DKA", and needed to stay at the ER for three days. Huge $$$. My wife said "we can't afford that. We need to put Bob to sleep". The best decision I ever made in my life was saying "no, we aren't going to do that." I used my savings, almost all of them. 10 weeks later, Bob went into remission. He lived for two and a half years longer without any vet bills other than routine shots and junk. In November 2013, I had to let him go. The diabetes came back, but something else was gone wrong too, and I don't know what or why. But he got two and a half more years of life, and a good healthy life, just because I said "no" to a knee-jerk response from my wife. In those two and half years, for reasons having nothing to do with Bob or his diabetes, my wife became my ex-wife. And from the first shot on the first day of diabetes, Bob became "my cat". I took 100% of the responsibility for his care and any expenses related to his care. Bottom line? Losing Bob was sad, very sad. A million times sadder than losing my wife of almost 30 years.
Your boyfriend isn't going to "give up his life" because Butter became a diabetic. Whatever he gives up is all on him, not on you, and not on your poor kitty. It might mean changes in your routines, it might mean some stress and sleepless nights, it might mean an occasional expense that you haven't planned for. But if he loves you, he loves everything about you and that includes Butter. There's no such thing as "just a cat". Maybe only "cat people" understand that? You can ask many of the ladies who post here what there experience has been as far as the spouse or significant other goes. I think that some of them "go it alone" at least at times, and probably more "at the start" than as time goes on. Eventually, things settle into a new routine, and both partners adjust as needed. Some people do end up doing it all themselves, but I think in just about every case there is at least emotional support. Even my ex-wife gave that much to me and Bob. So just let him digest this, and I'm hoping he'll realize that his comments today might be little more than a way to deal with a brand new stressful aspect of your lives together, and he won't be sleeping in another room for long.
And please believe me that every one of us understands your stress level right now. I know I was a basket case for at least a couple of days. I'd never given a shot before, and was convinced I was going to screw something up. I didn't have much trouble with getting blood luckily. What I did was I used the lancets, but I didn't use the device that they came with. I just used the lancet "free-hand". My suggestion? Step back and breath, just like you're doing. If you're stressed, Butter is going to feel it too. Spend some time just rubbing his ears with no "poke" so he doesn't associate the experience with stress. And treats are a fantastic "bribe". Fresh Shrimp was the key to Bob. He'd have let me cut off an ear for a couple of shrimp :lol: A lot of people will tell you this, and it was very true with Bob.... at some point, Butter will look forward to the tests. Up until the day he passed, when there was no BG testing going on for over two years, if I ever went to the drawer where the meter was stored, and I unzipped the case, Bob would come running to me from wherever he was in the house, and he would lay down at my feet waiting for the ear poke because he knew it meant "shrimp!!!". I used to do it just to make him come running, it was funny as hell. And I never did it unless I had some shrimp ready for him to snack on.
Save this thread, bookmark it. And a month from now, go back and read it over. You're going to be amazed at how far you go from "here" to "there" in just a matter of a few weeks. And I promise to not pipe up a month from now and say "Told you so!!" :lol:
Carl