Do you need to cancel Shaak's appointment?
Sending prayers for your roommate. He seems like such a nice man the one time I saw him. He is so lucky to have you all.
If you do still go to the vet, be strong with your convictions about how you are treating Shaak but be respectful...which I know you will because I can't imagine you not. I was very upfront with my vet about FDMB. I told her that the members were extremely experienced treating diabetes 24/7 and there was always someone online to help me because I understood her patient load didn't allow her to be available whenever I needed help. I also told her that I was Gracie's advocate and caregiver and I needed to do what I felt was best to keep her safe. Further, I appreciated her input but had also learned a lot about taking care of a diabetic cat.
I think the big difference is that I had an established relationship of al out 15 years with her and she had no ego about an online FD group. Some vets get the Internet vs trained vet ego thing going and that makes it difficult to work with them.
Pls keep us posted on your roommate and Shaak's visit.