Rocky--Everything I DIDN'T want to know--

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I don't know what to say.
I don't know how this happened.

I had to leave for work this morning at 5am.
My DH had to leave at 6am. So, I invited Rocky's mom to come spend the night so she could be here in the morning and give Rocky his am dose. I reduced him down to .7u lasts night because the .9 just didn't seem to do ANYTHING. He just kinda "hung" in the 200's with it. So I thought maybe it was to much. I wanted to try the .7.
Well, I called my house at 7:25 to make sure everything was going according to plan. Rocky's mom was up, had given the insulin and breakfast (Callie Mae too) and was going back to bed.
I tested him before I left for work, didn't record it in the SS because it was so early and I figured I would update it when I got home.

Well, I was racing to make it home by 7:30. Got in the door at about 7:35.
Came into the bedroom to get set up to test. The bottle of test strips were no where. Odd. Started looking around. No meter. Humph.
Ok, maybe I am just overlooking them.
Wait, where's Rocky's food bowl. It's supposed to be right here on the long dresser with the rest of "his stuff". Maybe his "mom" moved it on top of the dryer. By the way, where is Rocky. Why isn't he here yelling at me for food?
Looked under bed, no Rocky.
Ok, something is going on. Called Rocky's "mom".
I asked "Did you take Rocky with you?"
She said, Rocky's gone.
What do you mean he's gone?
Don't worry, he's gone.
Ok, I'm starting to worry here. Where is Rocky?
"He's DEAD!'

Nothing makes sense. He was fine this morning. I loaded the syring myself. It only had .7u of insulin in it. I wanted to know what the HELL is going on. WHAT HAPPENED?

She said she found Rocky, he had pee'd on himself, his hair was falling out (???) and he was "barely" alive and his tongue was hanging out of the side of his mouth. SHe thought he had a "stroke". I don't buy that. She said she took him to a vet, and the vet said to put him down. I wanted to know what vet? She said my vet's name. She thought that is where I took Rocky for his DX and it was the only name that came to mind.
I am at a TOTAL loss.
I want to say I think he was hypo'ing, but I didn't see him, so I don't know. She never tested him. Just put him in the car and drove him. I am calling that vet first thing in the morning. I need answers. I am truely beside myself. That boy was FINE 18 hours ago.
I am so PISSED and heartbroken. What a sweet boy. This didn't have to happen. WHAT happened? 1 day. JUST 1 DAY is all she had to be there for him and she KILLED him.
I can't stop crying and I don't know what to do. Callie Mae thinks I'm a freak. She just keeps trying to headbutt me. She doesn't understand why I'm crying or what's going on. Or does she?

Please someone tell me what could have gone wrong.......................
 
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I am so so sorry! That is just awful! Of course, I have no idea. I would def call the vet, maybe they have some answers. Just know that you did the very best by him that you could. You took very good care of him since you have had him. I'm shocked...when I looked at the post I think it says OTJ...maybe I just read it wrong. You might want to check it. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong at all. Just try to remember all you did for him & he loved you for helping him! :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
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Ok, I read the whole thing again. I would definitely call the vet in the morning, and don't even try to figure it out before that. There are just too many questions. I really don't think he would hypo on 0.7, or even on 1u. If his BG was low at the vets, from what I have seen with other people here they would have treated that - even with awful hypo symptoms, from what I have gathered they would normally give glucose, and assess for long-term damage later, since recovery seems common. So it may well have been a stroke (assuming she is telling the truth, which you should be able to find out from the vet hopefully). Get the real story from the vet.
 
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I am so sorry about the loss of Rocky, you were doing such a great job with him.

Please accept the loving headbutts from Callie Mae, she knows why you are greiving and she is trying to comfort you. She loves you just like Rocky did. His last days were filled with love and comfort and feeling good and sneaking kibble with his new pal Callie.

Fly free Rocky, land ever so softly at the bridge.
 
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I just don't don't understand. It doesn't make sense. i keep going over what she said. Over and over in my mind. It doesn't make sense.
She said she told my vet he was diabetic. Surely he would test his sugar. SURELY he would. He woudn't just say put him to sleep. I KNWO him. he wouldn't say that.
I'm not getting the whoole story. i can't be. I want to knwo what tiem this all happened. SHe called me at work IN A PANIC. Saying something about looking for her teeth. She had an appointment to see an apartmetn and she couldn't go with out her teeth in. I thought it odd at the time. I tried to walk through last night with her, to fihure out when she took them out, where she could have put them. Why she didn't put them in her teeth "dish" or whatever it's called. She just seemed frazzled and "had to go", she was going to be late. That was around 4pm.
 
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I am so very sorry for your loss. You did SO much for Rocky. I hope you get some answers from the vet. Such a horrible shock. I am wishing you strength. Let us know what you find out.
 
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It does all sound strange. Maybe write down what you can to have it on paper, so you can not have to keep running through it in your head, and then try to make sense of it after you talk to the vet. There are things though that can come on completely out of the blue like that, the vet should be able to tell you more. I am sure you must be completely freaked out. I lost a cat suddenly once, it is very hard to get your mind around it when something like that happens. Sending you good thoughts, and prayers for some solid answers tomorrow.
 
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I am just shocked and sick about Rocky. He was doing so well.
Something just doesn't sound right about this whole story she told you. Does she have any sign of dementia? Could she possibly have drawn up more insulin and given him a shot twice?
And if she called you at work about her teeth, why did she not call when she took Rocky to the vet or after leaving?
I mean I suppose its possible he had a stroke, but it really sounds off what she told you. I am sure if she took him to your vet they would try to save him if he was in hypo.
You gave Rocky such a good quality of life for the short time he was with you, he had gained weight and was doing well. You are not responsible in any way for what happened.
Rocky needed you in his life for the short time he was there.
I wish I could say something to comfort you more, but I am at a loss I am so shocked.
Fly free, dear sweet Rocky.
 
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I re-read your post again about Rocky and about her calling you about her teeth, etc.
Ok I am just going to throw this out...why did she take the meter and strips, his bowl, everything?
I can't remember the details but I thought she was going to try to get an apartment and she wanted to take Rocky back. I know you are calling the vet tomorrow to find out what he says about it, but without knowing what they will say, is there any way she could have taken Rocky with her because she wanted him back and was afraid you would want to keep him? I know that its late and this is far-fetched but I can't wrap my head around what she told you, the oddness of it all, missing meter, strips and bowl, the panicked call about the teeth, and no call before taking Rocky to vet, while at vet or after. Seems strange that she would let you come home to not know what had happened.
 
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Like I said, I keep going over this in my mind over and over. It is strange. I don't get it AT ALL. She knew there was no chance I wouldn't have given her Rocky back. I was getting him better for her. She KNEW this. There is just something going on here.I am thinking there was no appointment for an apartment. She made no mention of it before. And as panic stricken as she sounded, well, no one gets THAT panicked over not finding their teeth. I am thinking she didn't want to go to the vet without teeth. But why make up some story. Why not tell me something is wrong?
More to the story, driving home from work, I called her. Asked her if she made it to her appointment and she said she couldn't find the place and had misplaced the number, but when she got back to where she is staying, she located it, called the guy, explained that she had gotten lost and she didn't have his number with her, blah, blah, blah, can I come tomorrow? She is telling me all this, not ONCE did she mention anything about Rocky OR her missing teeth.
And I don't think she would mention my vet being involved. She KNOWS I am going to call. Well, she probably hopes I won't, but, HELLO, something is not sitting well with me. Everything about this whole situation just seems *off*.
This cat was all this woman had. He was her "Rock".
I don't get it.
I'm all cried out, for now.
Thank you all for your hugs, prayers and thoughts.
My sweet boy has gone off to the bridge, I just hope that it is *me* that perks his ears and causes him to break from the pack, so I can go over the bridge with him. He wasn't "mine", but I was *his*. :smile:

Fly on Sweet Rocky Boy, fly free.
Love me, and your *not so little* adopted sis, Callie Mae.
Here come the tears again. I thought I was all dried up.
Thanks again, guys. I will keep you posted.
 
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I am in shock and my heart is breaking for you. Something is definitely wrong with her story. Did you ever find the missing meter, bowl, and test strips? Is the insulin gone? Weird. I hope you're able to find the answers you need today.

Fly free sweet (((Rocky))) and land ever so softly at the bridge. wings_cat
 
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As far as tears go---I found them coming by surprise for months after I lost Squamee. Even now(and she is gone since Dec.).
I wonder if Rocky's mom accidentally overdosed him and is ashamed to tell you.
 
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Oh no. I hope you get some answers today. She seems unstable at best so she may have panicked in some way.

Don't lose sight of the fact that you gave him some peaceful wonderful days full of love and care. You did a good thing and you worked hard to help him. I hope that can bring you some peace.
 
Got off the phone with the vet's office about 30 minutes ago.
I guess you don't always know someone, even when you think you do. I believe this is a breaking point with Rocky's "mom' ( I use that term LOOSELY.)

She had him pts for NO REASON. She made the appointment on the 11. THE 11th~!!!. She sat at my house all night, eating my food, enjoying the comfort of my home, watching movies, knowing THE WHOLE TIME she was going to put him down the next day.

The vet's said he was "lethargic" and had pee'd on himself and was panting. WELL, that's how he gets OVER A CAR RIDE!!! I am PISSED. I mean PISSED. She concocted some BULLSHIT STORY and tried to pass it off as the truth. I am moved beyond words. Rocky is at the Bridge because of some heartless liar.
I will never get over this one.
 
This is heartbreaking. I suppose from the vet's point of view, she has "guardianship". Not much comfort, but if he had gone back to her, his life might have been a horror. At least, for a few weeks, he had a loving home with you. I know that isn't much solace.....

People can be so disappointing and it can be so disillusioning. But there will always be people like you willing to take a chance to do something good. I am so sorry, in Rocky's case, things went so badly wrong. You did all you could do. You were trusting and kind. That can never be a bad way to be.
 
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You have my deepest sympathy on this tragic loss of Rocky. You can add my rage to yours........I would have a few strong words with this lady and then I would never lift a finger to help her or even talk to her ever again. I don't care if she is old, she knew Rocky was loved and safe.

R.I.P. Rocky wings_cat
 
The sad part is, I would have "kept" him for as long as it took. Even if that meant furever. I didn't want another kitty, but sometimes we don't always end up with the way "we" plan them. A power far greater than me has the ultimate control.
It's makes me so mad. He was doing SO GOOD. He was better than ever.
I never even got to say goodbye. I just went off to work like any normal day.
 
I just checked in and saw this for the first time.

How awful.

Please take comfort in the care you provided Rocky. You were his angel.

As far as your Ex-friend....I will mostly likely get banned from the board if I express my true feelings. What a cunning mean spirited person.

RIP Rocky...
 
I feel the same way.
And I don't want to banned form this place. I love it to much.
So, I think I will step back for a few hours. Go take a stroll on the beach or something.
I just wanted you guys to know what I found out. My heart is ripped wide open. In all my thoughts last night, going over every word in my head, over and over and over, never ONCE did this come to mind. Not once.
How calculating.
What an evil, evil..........................

gotta go now.
 
I just can't help it. She is a evil evil evil &$@!#% and deserves to -&$$@"}#%. Such calculated destruction is very hard to forgive. Oh what I would like to do with her teeth!!!
 
Wow. I'm sitting here in complete shock. Just know that you did everything you possibly could for both of them. It is almost like she was jealous of the fact that you were getting him well, and this was her way of sticking it to you -- and of course you didn't deserve that sort of treatment, and neither of course did poor sweet Rocky. You did the best you could for dear Rocky and gave him much love and comfort in the short time he spent with you. Some people are unbelievably petty and selfish. I would not have any more contact with this woman, period. If you can't or won't take care of an animal, giving them to someone else who can care for them well is loving behavior. Putting them to sleep because you don't want to share them with anyone else is selfish and mean. Rocky deserved better than that, and so did you. I am so sorry. :cry:
 
This is exactly what I was thinking last night, she was jealous of you in some demented way; jealous of the love and care you gave Rocky, jealous that he was doing better in your care. I really picked up that she had done something out of jealousy, but I thought maybe she took him and hid him somewhere. How could she do this to an innocent spirit who was not terminally ill that she claimed to love? It is beyond anything I can comprehend. I hope she will NEVER be a caretaker to another innocent animal.
I know this makes it doubly hard for you to learn the circumstances. He will surely run to meet you and Callie Mae first at the bridge. You gave him most likely the happiest and healthiest days of his life and he won't ever forget that.
She is SICK and EVIL.
I am so very sorry.
RIP dear Rocky.
 
What a cold, heartless B****!! I understand when someone can't take care of a pet anymore for whatever reason but you had taken him in & he was doing well. It makes me wonder how she had been treating him before. I hope you get the chance to talk to her & tell her what a POS she is. You gave Rocky a good home & took very good care of him. He knew who really cared for him. I'm just so sorry this happened. :YMHUG:
 
Oh wow I am stunned. I thought something seemed off with her, but I had hoped it was nothing so awful and that it had been an honest accident or unknown health issue. I don't think there is any way to understand what she must have been thinking to do that, it makes no sense at all.

I don't know that there is much recourse available sadly, but I would research SOME way to report her somewhere. Like I have seen others say at other times, if someone is capable of premeditating something like this, who's next, grandma? Of course she is older and it doesn't quite apply, but still, something is really off with her if she thought this made sense as a way to handle a situation she apparently thought was a problem, even if none of us see a problem.

I don't know if it would be any help to you, but I recall someone fairly recently who posted on Health whose petsitter killed her cat, and perhaps it would help to have someone else who has been through something similar to talk with? I would be happy to find the thread and PM her if you would welcome that.

I can't even imagine all the emotions you must be feeling right now, it is just beyond comprehension.

I didn't want to say it last night and give you false hope, but I was secretly hoping she had just taken him home with her and didn't want you to know that and so made up the whole story. :YMSIGH:

Fly free sweet Rocky. You are loved and missed. rb_icon
 
I am so sorry to read this. Just absolutely makes me sick to my stomach :cry: I hope that you can find peace soon cat_pet_icon
 
There are no words to express the sorrow I feel for you
Just try to know that you made his last few weeks so very happy..
I am truly sorry for your loss..
As for people, no matter how well you think you know someone...you truly dont..

Stay strong and fly free Rocky!
you were so very loved!
 
So horribly sad. My heart breaks for you. May peace find you in the days ahead. Rest in peace dear Rocky. rb_icon
 
Beachin, I just stumbled upon your post. Read it feeling all the while....this just doesn't sound right, something is wrong here.
I can't help but compare this to the casey anthony thing. lying, stealing your comforting care, no concern for the feelings of others, killing the cat out of jealousy or inconvenience. there is no doubt this woman is a very sick and lost individual.
i am so sorry you were victimized by her...that rocky was victimized.
if she made the appointment the day before it was so damn premeditated....
if it were a child she would be facing the death penalty!
so sorry,
Lori
 
I am so shocked and saddened', that someone could be so two faced. Know that you did your very best for Rocky and he will be waiting to greet you some day, with lots of love. Can someome like that be BLACK listed on at all animal shelters and vets, so they never get another animal?
Bless you for all you did.
Avoid this crazy person from now on.
HUGS
 
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