Thanks all for the good info. The questions I was looking for was posted by an FDMB member, but I think you covered it all.
I was so lucky with my previous vet. Not only is she a board certified dentist, but she pretty much left me alone when it came to Jesse's FD. She originally started him on 2u of Lantus, told me to roll the bottle and after a couple of weeks she raised his dose to 3u and that's when I stopped lurking and asked for help here! After I told her what I was doing and the protocol that I was following she let me guide the treatment. She was totally flabbergasted when he went OTJ.

When I had her write his most recent script, I had to explain why the SoloStar pens and not the vial.
She told me that she had told her vet partner (the owner) that I was the type of client that when I had an appointment I told her what was wrong and what I needed. Well, not ALL the time, just sometimes. :lol:
The vet I'm considering (that is only a few blocks away) is my friend's vet. Her vet seems to be very open minded because when vaccines were prescribed, my friend explained that she had titer tests run instead. The vet agreed to do that. (I don't do vaccinations nor titers).
One thing about getting old(er) is that I don't take anything for face value without an explanation. Having worked at a sanctuary for 5 years I educated myself a lot about cats and their diseases and treatments. That's where I realized they were treating their diabetic cats all wrong. But I digress...
My cats are all pretty healthy (anti-jinx!!) and the two with issues are FIV+, so I just continue to support their immune systems. Most all of them have already had major dental problems, so I don't foresee anymore of that (but I am prepared to ask questions about it and whether this new vet does pre and post-op X-Rays.
Thanks again for the advice. I just stumbled onto my vet in Albany (thankfully I got lucky!), so it's been 5 years without having to think about this.