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[Hazelnut16]

I am starting to think I need to make the hard decision to rehome my diabetic cat. I live with my parents and my dad recently had a stroke. My mom hates my cat and won't let her in the rest of the house so my cat stays locked in my small bedroom. The reason she doesn't like my cat is that my cat sometimes jumps on tables. My mom got so mad she hit my cat.
My cat has episodes of panting. I'm not sure if it's due to stress, the diabetes, or her heart. (Maybe all 3) But it is getting way worse when she's locked in my room.
I am finding it very hard to live like this. I am stressed out trying to treat my cats issues while they are getting worse and she is locked in my room.
I feel bad for my cat and feel that she needs a proper home to be treated in and be able to relax.
Right now I have no other options than to keep her locked away or find her a better home.
If anyone has any advise or can take her or knows someone who can take her please reply.
I live in Ontario Canada.
I found out she was diabetic after she lost a ton of weight and I brought her to the vet for blood tests and urine tests. She was neglected by a previous owner which is probably how she got diabetes and e-coli. I gave her antibiotics and changed her to Fancy Feast wet food. She gained weight back but is still panting sometimes and seems to not be herself. She is a good cat otherwise. Likes to cuddle if she is feeling ok and never goes to the bathrom outside the litterbox.
I also can't afford constant vet visits and testing. The best I can do is feed Fancy Feast and give her the blood sugar gold drops. I'm also giving young at heart drops. But I don't know if she needs more vet care to thrive. It is too expensive here for the vet.
If money was my only issue I would still try to make it work. But my cat does not have a good quality of life here. I want her to have a happy and healthy life even if it's with someone else.
Thank you

 

[Stefania S]

It is so courageous and good of you to know that your cat needs something better and be willing to let her go. I hope you find the best solution possible for Hazelnut very soon. I know cats can pant when they are very stressed out so it could be that. When I was a kid, several of our cats used to pant every time we put them in a carrier to go somewhere. It was pure stress for them.

But it could also be something else, so you may want to have her checked if you haven't already.

Being locked in a room is very hard for many cats. I had to do that with mine for several months as we were living in someone else's home, but I was often in the room with her so it eased the stress of it, still it was not a good situation for her. I also could let her go outside in the garden daily and when the other people were away at work during the day she could come out to roam around, so that helped too.

But if your cat is being yelled at and hit by your mother when she is out of the room, then really it's not a healthy situation. Psychologically Hazelnut will feel that she is living in enemy territory, trapped in a room with nowhere safe to go never knowing what will happen next. If you are there in that room a lot with her, that could offset the stress, but if you are out all day and only there a few hours a day with her, that's definitely not a good situation.

Wishing you the best possible solution and outcome.

 

[Hazelnut16]

It is so courageous and good of you to know that your cat needs something better and be willing to let her go. I hope you find the best solution possible for Hazelnut very soon. I know cats can pant when they are very stressed out so it could be that. When I was a kid, several of our cats used to pant every time we put them in a carrier to go somewhere. It was pure stress for them.

But it could also be something else, so you may want to have her checked if you haven't already.

Being locked in a room is very hard for many cats. I had to do that with mine for several months as we were living in someone else's home, but I was often in the room with her so it eased the stress of it, still it was not a good situation for her. I also could let her go outside in the garden daily and when the other people were away at work during the day she could come out to roam around, so that helped too.

But if your cat is being yelled at and hit by your mother when she is out of the room, then really it's not a healthy situation. Psychologically Hazelnut will feel that she is living in enemy territory, trapped in a room with nowhere safe to go never knowing what will happen next. If you are there in that room a lot with her, that could offset the stress, but if you are out all day and only there a few hours a day with her, that's definitely not a good situation.

Wishing you the best possible solution and outcome.

Yeah I do stay in the room with her but she still meows and pants. And meows at the door. It becomes stressful for me to be locked in a room with a meowing cat and it doesn't seems to help her. Only sometimes she will relax and cuddle. I also bring her outside and she seems to just want to go back in. She also seems sensitive to heat now so I can't bring her out on a hot day. Unfortunately all the solutions to help her stress don't work. I think if her health was better she would be able to relax and enjoy the stuff she used to. The only thing that calms her down is giving her the free range to leave the room which I can't do.
Thank you for your help though and I appreciate the nice words

 

[Red & Rover (GA)]

Contact DCIN (Diabetic Cats in Need). facebook.com/DiabeticCatsInNeed

Also look into no-kill shelters who can foster until adoption. (It can take a long time in foster care before an adoption happens.)

 

[Stefania S]

Yeah I do stay in the room with her but she still meows and pants. And meows at the door. It becomes stressful for me to be locked in a room with a meowing cat and it doesn't seems to help her. Only sometimes she will relax and cuddle. I also bring her outside and she seems to just want to go back in. She also seems sensitive to heat now so I can't bring her out on a hot day. Unfortunately all the solutions to help her stress don't work. I think if her health was better she would be able to relax and enjoy the stuff she used to. The only thing that calms her down is giving her the free range to leave the room which I can't do.
Thank you for your help though and I appreciate the nice words

I’m so sorry. You must love her very much. It isn’t good for either one of you to live that way. You are both suffering. Maybe you could find someone to foster her for a while until you find a permanent solution whether that’s a living situation for you both or just for her. Have you asked friends? Or your vet?

Some animal shelters work with volunteers who foster animals until they find a forever home. I fostered Jessi as a favor to a woman who ran a small cat shelter out of her home. Then I got attached and kept her. You could try contacting small local cat shelters. They may be willing to help you out. Of course, you should be sure to meet and get to know the foster family well, see their home, make sure you’re allowed to visit often and maybe give a time frame for how long you need to find a solution.

These are just ideas. Maybe you’ll figure out something even better, or just the right opportunity will come your way. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and wishes for that to happen.