Vicky & Gandalf (GA) said:
Did you realize someone not knowing how you got your cats might think Beau & Jeddie were mom & dad???
You mean because of the coloring? I am assuming you mean they would think Jeddie is dad, Beau is mom and Ariel (and Leanne - also a dilute tortie) are the kids? I have never thought Beau looked like a female cat. He's skinny now, but he was a hunky cat up til 4 years ago and has the bigger facial features of a male - but I have lived with cats all my life so I am rarely mistaken about the gender of a cat :mrgreen:
As for things getting less amicable as they age, I think there is an instinctual "need" to run-off the old, weak, and sick members of the pride so they don't attract predators. Leanne, and Beau sometimes, were really mean to Charlotte (and Leanne JUST ran after Jeddie and swatted him :roll

. I was going to say she is fine with all the others now that Charlotte is gone..... but they all get along, play, cuddle, etc. and there is definitely less tension in the house since Charlotte died. I've had other cats where the oldest one got picked on. The morning of, or the day before, I had to PTS one of my cats who was 16 and had cancer, I was making coffee and heard her scream (if you have never heard that before it is bone chilling) and ran out to find my 1 year old with her mouth around her throat! Makes me wonder what would have happened if I hadn't been there. Yet, that 1 year old ended up being the sweetest cat and took Beau under her wing, socialized him to other cats and was his best buddy.
So, is there anything you can do about it? I think you can get to where the offending cat knows you don't like the behavior, but it won't totally stop. Prozac might help, but I doubt feliway will. This is my experience. Feliway, and other products like it, did not help at all with Jeddie's inappropriate peeing or OCD behavior - or with the harassment of Charlotte. I use a water sprayer when one of the cats is doing something "bad" like chewing on a plant or chasing the elderly (after telling them "no!"). That usually works and, yes, I have heard people say that you should never do that, but I don't think my cats would consider themselves abused by it.
The only thing that worked for Jeddie was the prozac. Yes, I think it helped him to become a "love-bug" because to dampened his anxiety enough to let that part of him be expressed. I think it was there all along, and it was one thing his former owner said about him, "he is very loving". I did not try giving prozac to Leanne or even to Charlotte, who was always a bit on the high-strung side. The night I brought her home as a kitten, every time she saw Murphy, she freaked out and just hissed and spat and literally flipped out. One time she ended up upside down in the corner of the litter box - and Murphy was only sitting outside the door, 5 feet away, looking at her. I think giving prozac to Leapold is worth the try, but it might not work. Tigget is old and sick (hyperT) and that isn't going to change.