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Great name :) Yes, they are. He lost weight quickly and was drinking more water, after a few days I took him to the vet. Wish I had a crystal ball to tell me what the outcome would be if I had been faster. Summers, not too shabby on Sebago! Deepest lake in Maine. Hope you get back here someday!
 
carfurby said:
Don't beat yourself up. You did the best you could for him and it's obvious you loved him very much. Hold on to the memories and know he's not in any pain or sick and is whole and healthy again. Sending prayers. :bighug::bighug::bighug:
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Thank you, after such a quick diagnosis and demise, I'm relying heavily on the people here today. Never used a forum before, glad I reached out! The most caring and compassionate people I could ask for.
 
Meredith - I'm sure this day is going to be difficult for you - how is Pogo faring? You both need each other right now - hug her tightly
 
Carol & Murphy said:
Meredith - I'm sure this day is going to be difficult for you - how is Pogo faring? You both need each other right now - hug her tightly
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Thank you for checking, Pogo is perfectly fine, she's a smart cat, and I'm surmising she realizes Smokey wasn't faring so well this past week. She is more affectionate by far, and a friend told me she is probably somewhat happy to have me all to herself. No signs of distress whatsoever, but she is staying close.
 
I'm glad you added Smokeys pic as your avatar. He was a beautiful boy and I'm sure he knew how much you loved him. Glad also that Pogo is helping you through this.
 
I'm so sorry to hear of Smokey's passing. Don't second guess yourself. You did all you could and should do. Let Pogo take care of you. I've found cats are good at knowing when their humans need extra attention.
 
Having a hard time tonight, I'm anxious for answers about his suffering, did I do enough, was he comfortable, etc.
 
Meredith I really am sorry you are going through this. I've been there and do know how you're feeling. I really think you did all you could for sweet Smokey and that he truly felt your love. I hope, in time, you will be able to let go of the pain you're feeling right now and just focus on the love and happy times you and Pogo had with Smokey.
 
Sharon14 said:
Meredith I really am sorry you are going through this. I've been there and do know how you're feeling. I really think you did all you could for sweet Smokey and that he truly felt your love. I hope, in time, you will be able to let go of the pain you're feeling right now and just focus on the love and happy times you and Pogo had with Smokey.
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Thank you Sharon, I just feel so responsible and feel terrible and albeit a great facility, he died away from home. I'm trying to focus on the good, have had a few smiles today. I come from a long line of oversensitive Pisces. Time is the healer.
 
So sorry tonight is so difficult, Meredith I realize it must be very sad without Smokey. Focusing all that love on Pogo will honor Smokey and make both of you feel better. How did you leave it with the vet? Will she call you to discuss further or was it more final? It's hard with animals, because frequently we don't know what really happened.
 
Carol & Murphy said:
So sorry tonight is so difficult, Meredith I realize it must be very sad without Smokey. Focusing all that love on Pogo will honor Smokey and make both of you feel better. How did you leave it with the vet? Will she call you to discuss further or was it more final? It's hard with animals, because frequently we don't know what really happened.
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Hi Carol, thank you, you are so right and I will honor Pogo :) The vet will call me when his ashes are ready, and I intend to email a few questions to him that I have so he can be prepared. We have a wonderful vet hospital here. I'm having the hardest time about not asking the right question, "Dr., what is your recommendation?" He was willing to try the fluids, and so was I, he was upfront there were no guarantees which I appreciated. We live in a small town and we're all very familiar, our vet and his staff are so approachable. I am mostly second guessing my decision and feel I should have had him put down yesterday afternoon while I was there and with him. I feel I made a mistake. I had so much hope, since it's such a treatable disease. Thank you for caring!
 
Oh wow, Meredith & Pogo. So sad. I've lost 4 boys so far, and I am sorry to say that it never gets easier. And all four, like your Smokey, have passed away while at the vet's when I wasn't there. The way I look at it is that I loved them enough to leave them in the care of someone that was best suited to take care of them and that I trusted.

Believe me, when you see him again, your boy will never fault you for not being there. He will thank you for the 99.9999% of his life that you were there loving and caring for him and his sister.
 
Sorry to hear about your four boys, I trust my vet/staff 100%, believe me, this is no slight to them at all. I really thought I would see him today....You have brightened my evening by reminding me I will see him again :) Thank you for that. We had a good run, that's for sure.
 
Meredith - this is a tricky disease, and unpredictable - if they have ketones, the situation can turn dangerous very quickly - that's probably what happened,don't you think? There was no way to know yesterday what was going to happen during the night - I am sure the vet would have informed you if he thought there was no hope. You did everything right, and what you (and your vet) thought was in Smokey's best interest - don't beat yourself up (easier said than done)
 
Carol & Murphy said:
Meredith - this is a tricky disease, and unpredictable - if they have ketones, the situation can turn dangerous very quickly - that's probably what happened,don't you think? There was no way to know yesterday what was going to happen during the night - I am sure the vet would have informed you if he thought there was no hope. You did everything right, and what you (and your vet) thought was in Smokey's best interest - don't beat yourself up (easier said than done)
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Hi Carol, yes it is tricky, and could have opened up other problems for him down the road. You're right about not knowing what would happen during the night, I can't tell you how much I hope he didn't suffer, that's the part that's twisting me up. I cannot thank you enough for your kind words Carol. I just want turn the clock back even though I can't.
 
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Hi Carol, yes it is tricky, and could have opened up other problems for him down the road. You're right about not knowing what would happen during the night, I can't tell you how much I hope he didn't suffer, that's the part that's twisting me up. I cannot thank you enough for your kind words Carol. I just want turn the clock back even though I can't.
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I know, Meredith, I know
 
Meredith....I'm so sorry it was Smokey's time to leave you, but you mustn't blame yourself even a little. You did what you could and Smokey knows that and loves you for it

I'd like to share a fable with you, but I'll warn you.....it will make you cry!!...but as you'll read in the fable, your tears are "healing tears" and soon you'll remember the wonderful things about your dear Smokey and the pain will begin to fade.

It's original title is "The Loving Ones", but I've always called it "You Have Chosen Tears"

I hope it brings you peace
 
Chris & China said:
Meredith....I'm so sorry it was Smokey's time to leave you, but you mustn't blame yourself even a little. You did what you could and Smokey knows that and loves you for it

I'd like to share a fable with you, but I'll warn you.....it will make you cry!!...but as you'll read in the fable, your tears are "healing tears" and soon you'll remember the wonderful things about your dear Smokey and the pain will begin to fade.

It's original title is "The Loving Ones", but I've always called it "You Have Chosen Tears"

I hope it brings you peace
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Chris and China, thank you for sharing this, what a keeper. I was warned, and the piece resonated with me. Smokey LOVED to paw at water, he would move water bowls across the kitchen. I am glad to know I'm a Loving One. Always. I will pass this fable on to others. It's just the beginning for me today, I was hoping he would pull through. I hope he does, I just am struggling with the fact I wasn't there when he crossed over.
 
packerfan122 said:
Chris and China, thank you for sharing this, what a keeper. I was warned, and the piece resonated with me. Smokey LOVED to paw at water, he would move water bowls across the kitchen. I am glad to know I'm a Loving One. Always. I will pass this fable on to others. It's just the beginning for me today, I was hoping he would pull through. I hope he does, I just am struggling with the fact I wasn't there when he crossed over.
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Boy, that was a tear jerker... Meredith, to answer your question - yes, I have a kitty with diabetes- he was diagnosed 4 months ago - there seems to be three types of kitties with diabetes - some go into remission with just a diet change, or very quickly after treatment with insulin; some need insulin but are relatively easy to regulate, then there are the ones who are very difficult to get regulated. My Murphy is one of those - still not regulated and these last four months have been extremely difficult. So its impossible to know which type of diabetic Smokey would have been. I know tonight is difficult - maybe you'll feel better after you talk to the vet. Do me a favor and right now, go give Pogo a huge hug.
 
Carol & Murphy said:
Boy, that was a tear jerker... Meredith, to answer your question - yes, I have a kitty with diabetes- he was diagnosed 4 months ago - there seems to be three types of kitties with diabetes - some go into remission with just a diet change, or very quickly after treatment with insulin; some need insulin but are relatively easy to regulate, then there are the ones who are very difficult to get regulated. My Murphy is one of those - still not regulated and these last four months have been extremely difficult. So its impossible to know which type of diabetic Smokey would have been. I know tonight is difficult - maybe you'll feel better after you talk to the vet. Do me a favor and right now, go give Pogo a huge hug.
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Hi Carol, I am finding great comfort here tonight. Yes it was! Pogo has been hugged per your request :) Sorry to hear of the regulation issues, really. Are you doing the testing? I have learned so much in the last day about this, I'm guessing you're trying everything. Is he good with the injections and regular meals? I will feel better soon, it's been a huge help to be here. I will talk to the vet when I get more centered.
 
So glad you could find some comfort here. It does help to be among people that understand what you're going through. I lost one of my babies a short time ago, and I still miss her.
 
Sharon14 said:
So glad you could find some comfort here. It does help to be among people that understand what you're going through. I lost one of my babies a short time ago, and I still miss her.
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It certainly does. I'm sorry to hear abour your furbaby..........she will live on in your heart, and I believe you will meet again someday. :)
 
Meredith, I saw your post yesterday, and was so hoping for a happy outcome for you and Smokey.

I am so very sorry for your loss. It is never easy to lose a beloved family member. I understand how much it hurts, and how you are questioning your actions, but you must not second-guess yourself, it will only bring you more pain. Both you and your vet had every reason to believe that you would see Smokey again today. You did absolutely the right thing! And above all, Smokey knows, still, how much you love him and that you always did the very best for him. Hold tight to Pogo, and both of you take comfort in knowing you will see Smokey again. {{{HUGS}}}

Fly free, beloved Smokey cat_wings>o
 
Squalliesmom said:
Meredith, I saw your post yesterday, and was so hoping for a happy outcome for you and Smokey.

I am so very sorry for your loss. It is never easy to lose a beloved family member. I understand how much it hurts, and how you are questioning your actions, but you must not second-guess yourself, it will only bring you more pain. Both you and your vet had every reason to believe that you would see Smokey again today. You did absolutely the right thing! And above all, Smokey knows, still, how much you love him and that you always did the very best for him. Hold tight to Pogo, and both of you take comfort in knowing you will see Smokey again. {{{HUGS}}}

Fly free, beloved Smokey cat_wings>o
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Hi Squalliesmom, thank you for your kind words. Rough day without him today. I was hoping the fluids would bring him around, my vet was clear it wasn't a guarantee. I appreciate your hope for a happy outcome. So glad Pogo is here with me :) Lot of caring people in this group, huge help! Do you have a cat with diabetes now?
 
packerfan122 said:
Hi Squalliesmom, thank you for your kind words. Rough day without him today. I was hoping the fluids would bring him around, my vet was clear it wasn't a guarantee. I appreciate your hope for a happy outcome. So glad Pogo is here with me :) Lot of caring people in this group, huge help! Do you have a cat with diabetes now?
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Meredith, my heart just breaks for you. I lost a beloved kitty 4 years ago, and still grieve for him. My situation was sort of the reverse of yours, the vet convinced me to let him go, against my better judgement, and I found out later I was right, he could probably have been treated and spent several more years with me.

Yes, I have a sugar cat, my senior boy Squallie. I have learned so much from this site, and been helped by so many kind, knowledgeable people!

Keep Pogo close, you need each other right now. Pogo will miss Smokey as much as you, so it's good that you can comfort each other.

Sending prayers, love and strength,

Lucy :bighug:
 
Squalliesmom said:
Meredith, my heart just breaks for you. I lost a beloved kitty 4 years ago, and still grieve for him. My situation was sort of the reverse of yours, the vet convinced me to let him go, against my better judgement, and I found out later I was right, he could probably have been treated and spent several more years with me.

Yes, I have a sugar cat, my senior boy Squallie. I have learned so much from this site, and been helped by so many kind, knowledgeable people!

Keep Pogo close, you need each other right now. Pogo will miss Smokey as much as you, so it's good that you can comfort each other.

Sending prayers, love and strength,

Lucy :bighug:
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Hi Lucy, I am glad you understand. My heart goes out to you too, big time. May I ask what you found out later? If you're not comfortable sharing I understand. I am trying to empower myself with knowledge. Pogo is close, but to be honest, she was always the more affectionate cat and seems perfectly fine right now. I'm glad you have been able to treat Squallie, how is he doing?
 
Sharon14 said:
Good morning Meredith, how are you doing?
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Good morning Sharon, um, a bit better thank you. Haven't rounded the corner yet, but it's coming. I appreciate you're asking. I'm a home health aide, was on a 24 hour shift and had Smokey with me when he had his first round of fluids and needed his first and second insulin shots. He stayed in my car that night where I could check on him often, and I had plenty of blankets for him. I am just praying he was warm enough, had his cat carrier covered with blankets and insisde too. Did I do the right thing by keeping him with me that night? It was a bit chilly out, but I took a heating pad out to him.
 
Wow! It sounds like you did more than most people would have done. I'm sure he wasn't too cold, he probably enjoyed being with you. How long have you had Smokey and Pogo, since they were kittens?
 
Sharon14 said:
Wow! It sounds like you did more than most people would have done. I'm sure he wasn't too cold, he probably enjoyed being with you. How long have you had Smokey and Pogo, since they were kittens?
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You should have seen it, I had a tray in the car and put some litter in it, he had food and water, like a biosphere in there! Smokey and Pogo were littermates, got them from niece, there were four in the litter, Smokey was the only male. Three kittens were left, she brought them in the crate, and I told her I would take the first two that came out. I remember it well. Thanks Sharon, I wasn't quite sure I had done the right thing, I just home he was warm enough, I checked on him a lot that night and gave him his shots. Picked him up and held up a lot. It was hard for me to get coverage on short notice for me to leave and go home to give him his shots, so I thought this was the next best thing, but he was noticebly worse Friday morning. I can't thank you enough for caring, pet loss just shatters me.
 
packerfan122 said:
You should have seen it, I had a tray in the car and put some litter in it, he had food and water, like a biosphere in there! Smokey and Pogo were littermates, got them from niece, there were four in the litter, Smokey was the only male. Three kittens were left, she brought them in the crate, and I told her I would take the first two that came out. I remember it well. Thanks Sharon, I wasn't quite sure I had done the right thing, I just home he was warm enough, I checked on him a lot that night and gave him his shots. Picked him up and held up a lot. It was hard for me to get coverage on short notice for me to leave and go home to give him his shots, so I thought this was the next best thing, but he was noticebly worse Friday morning. I can't thank you enough for caring, pet loss just shatters me.
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I'm sure he enjoyed that extra special time with you. It is so hard to lose them, but the love we share makes it all worth it. Sending more prayers. :bighug:
 
packerfan122 said:
Hi Lucy, I am glad you understand. My heart goes out to you too, big time. May I ask what you found out later? If you're not comfortable sharing I understand. I am trying to empower myself with knowledge. Pogo is close, but to be honest, she was always the more affectionate cat and seems perfectly fine right now. I'm glad you have been able to treat Squallie, how is he doing?
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Hi Meredith. I hope you're doing a little better tosday. It's so hard, I know.

I don't mind talking about it, it's kind of a catharsis, I guess. Until I joined FDMB I never had anyone who understood to talk to. My Beezie started losing weight, and lost interest in his food to a great extent, so I took him to my (then) vet. She felt his abdomen, said he had en enlarged kidney and there was nothing she could do for him, and essentially told me I would be making him suffer if I didn't euthanize him. I had terrible doubts but, she being the one with the "knowledge", I let him go; I didn't want him to suffer. He died horribly anyway; she decided to sedate him first so she wrestled him down to shave his leg and injected a sedative, he was terrified and struggled terribly against it. I couldn't comfort him. All I could do was to hold him after the sedative finally took affect (when he no longer even knew I was there) and tell him over and over how much I loved him as she put him to sleep. It broke my heart, and I don't think I'll ever get over it. I feel like Beezie must have thought I caused him so much awful fear and and confusion. It is very hard to live with and I cry every time I think of him.. And then I found out later that he very likely could have been treated successfully, and still have had years more with me. That pain just crushes my heart. Never again will I blindly accept that a vet knows what they're talking about. I would give anything to have those minutes to do over, much differently.

Squallie is having ups and downs, hoping we're headed for more ups :), thanks for asking!

Hugs,

Lucy
 
Squalliesmom said:
Hi Meredith. I hope you're doing a little better tosday. It's so hard, I know.

I don't mind talking about it, it's kind of a catharsis, I guess. Until I joined FDMB I never had anyone who understood to talk to. My Beezie started losing weight, and lost interest in his food to a great extent, so I took him to my (then) vet. She felt his abdomen, said he had en enlarged kidney and there was nothing she could do for him, and essentially told me I would be making him suffer if I didn't euthanize him. I had terrible doubts but, she being the one with the "knowledge", I let him go; I didn't want him to suffer. He died horribly anyway; she decided to sedate him first so she wrestled him down to shave his leg and injected a sedative, he was terrified and struggled terribly against it. I couldn't comfort him. All I could do was to hold him after the sedative finally took affect (when he no longer even knew I was there) and tell him over and over how much I loved him as she put him to sleep. It broke my heart, and I don't think I'll ever get over it. I feel like Beezie must have thought I caused him so much awful fear and and confusion. It is very hard to live with and I cry every time I think of him.. And then I found out later that he very likely could have been treated successfully, and still have had years more with me. That pain just crushes my heart. Never again will I blindly accept that a vet knows what they're talking about. I would give anything to have those minutes to do over, much differently.

Squallie is having ups and downs, hoping we're headed for more ups :), thanks for asking!

Hugs,

Lucy
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Hi Lucy, thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry it turned out the way it did, sounds like Beezie had some fight in him, but the important thing is that would you were there with him to help him cross over. Please, if you can, try to remember all the time you had with him leading up to that day. He knew you loved him and you were able to tell him the whole time..it really is a gift if you can try to see it that way. Also, repeated visits to the vet can really be the pits for cats and that may have been what you would have faced. I believe in my heart of hearts he knew you were there no matter the sedative. Were you happy with your vet before this? Big hug to you, together we stand! :)
 
packerfan122 said:
Hi Lucy, thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry it turned out the way it did, sounds like Beezie had some fight in him, but the important thing is that would you were there with him to help him cross over. Please, if you can, try to remember all the time you had with him leading up to that day. He knew you loved him and you were able to tell him the whole time..it really is a gift if you can try to see it that way. Also, repeated visits to the vet can really be the pits for cats and that may have been what you would have faced. I believe in my heart of hearts he knew you were there no matter the sedative. Were you happy with your vet before this? Big hug to you, together we stand! :)
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Thank you for your kind words. :) I was "content" with my vet prior to that. Once Squallie was diagnosed with diabetes we had some vastly divergent ideas regarding his treatment (she told me I was going to kill him with low-carb food and home testing), so I decided it would be better for me to move on to a different vet. My new vet shares my thoughts on the importance of diet, home testing, etc, that my former vet did not support.

Standing together always helps carry the burdens and lighten the load, thank you! :bighug:
 
Squalliesmom said:
Thank you for your kind words. :) I was "content" with my vet prior to that. Once Squallie was diagnosed with diabetes we had some vastly divergent ideas regarding his treatment (she told me I was going to kill him with low-carb food and home testing), so I decided it would be better for me to move on to a different vet. My new vet shares my thoughts on the importance of diet, home testing, etc, that my former vet did not support.

Standing together always helps carry the burdens and lighten the load, thank you! :bighug:
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Hi Lucy, you bet. Hope it helps. You were smart to shop around for a vet who shared your philosophy on treatment. Great decision! There is so much information out there, and it's important to trust your vet, but getting on boards like these, a lot of experienced people have valuable information to offer.
 
One week ago tonight, I was feeling unsettled and worried, my cat, Smokey had been admitted to the vet clinic overnight. I want to thank each and every one of you who cared to reply, make suggestions, offer support, encouragement, and hope. Vegetable, carfurby, Bobbie & Bubba, Chris & China, Squalliesmom, Carol & Murphy, Woodsywife, Melissa 24, Larry & Kitties, Sandi & Whisper , Sharon14, and billysmom. It meant so much to be communicating with you all after his diagnosis. I'll pass along this wonderful site to all I know and I wish you and your sugar babies, remission/regulation and a good happy quality life. I should be getting Smokey's ashes back soon. I appreciate you all sharing your story. Take care and thank you!
 
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Oh Meredith - getting those ashes back are so tough - I am glad to hear from you - we all felt your pain - kiss that other kitty of yours and hope your heart heals soon - all the best to you !!!
 
Carol & Murphy said:
Oh Meredith - getting those ashes back are so tough - I am glad to hear from you - we all felt your pain - kiss that other kitty of yours and hope your heart heals soon - all the best to you !!!
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Thank you Carol, I know you did and I feel for anyone else, big time with anyone just getting the diagnosis, along with the ones who are having trouble with regulation/side effects, although I was a newbie, I got it. Kudos to the people who make a difference every day and are committed to treating their sugar babies. It will, I can feel myself turning the corner soon :)
 
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