Welcome, Gary and Gracie!
My Hershey is 10 years old, was diagnosed 11/11 and started ProZinc in Jan. I think we all have the same initial reaction to the diagnosis - surprise (if you're like me and didn't know cats could get diabetes!), fear, guilt, confusion - How in the world am I going to deal with this? Financially? Emotionally? Is this the beginning of the end for my furry buddy? etc...
I don't know all of your details, but I'll share mine. My husband, Doug, has always been the one to clip the toenails, wrangle to put in the carrier for a vet visit, assist the vet if she couldn't handle them, give baths, etc. When Hershey was diagnosed, Doug didn't want to treat...it would be costly (We had just had a $300 vet visit and she said a 2-3 day regulation/curve would be another $500. We're a one-income family of four (two are college students!)...it would change our schedules, etc. I cried and cried and cried and...you get the picture. Days went by and he said, "We'll do whatever you want to do." Well, duh! I wanted to treat!!! In the meantime, I had spent night after night reading on this forum, gathering all of the information I could to help us on this journey. I learned I didn't have to take him in for that $500 vet visit! I was seeing a light at the end of the tunnel already! Even though Doug didn't want to treat initially, he did agree to test and give shots because I thought I'd never be able to do it. Fast forward...we now both test and shoot, but I do it most often because of his work schedule. Early one, he would seem a little irritated at the schedule or Hershey not cooperating or whatever. Now, he never mentions the notion of not treating. Hershey has come SUCH a long way - it's hard to argue with results. I pray Gracie's results will be enough to sway your wife. Who knows? In a few months, she may be the primary care-giver!
Finding this place was a God-send for us. I don't even remember what I put in the search bar that brought me here, but I am thankful beyond words for all of the advice I've received and the friends I've made. You've already met some SUPER people who have given good advice and asked all of the questions that came to my mind. Since I can't really add to their thoughts/wisdom, I'll just say, "WELCOME!"
Prayers for Gracie, you and your wife -
Libby (and Hershey, too!)