My civie boy Remy went to the bridge yesterday. :-(

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Susie and Elian

Susie and Elian

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So unexpected - totally took me by surprise. It all happened so fast and I feel like I'm in a whirlwind. And the guilt has taken over. I keep thinking that I was so focused on Elian and his diabetes that I didn't notice that anything was wrong with Remy. But other than sneezing, which he has done for years, and was treated but it never stopped - there were no signs..... until two days ago. The weight loss was a good thing since he was so overweight. But after Elian's diagnosis I put all four boys on FF and off kibble so they ALL lost weight. But two days ago he had trouble jumping into tub to get to his litterbox so I moved it to the floor. Then yesterday he didn't eat and was kinda wobbly/weak walking and his breathing was strange. So I rushed him to our vet. I had to wait a while and he just slept and his breathing was shallow. I told the receptionist (who I've gotten very friendly with) that I was really stressed and scared so they rushed us right in. Oh - I also noticed just yesterday that his tummy looked distended. Didn't look like that the day before. They immediately xrayed and showed me that his stomach was filled with a huge cancerous mass and his chest was filled with fluid which was causing his breathing problem. She assured me there was nothing that could be done and that he was suffering. If he went home he'd surely die soon (my last little girl died in my arms at home less than 2 yrs ago) and even if we drained the fluid it would surely fill again. So I hugged him and kissed him and told him how much I loved him as I cried hysterically and the dr (who also has become a friend over the years) assured me I was doing the right thing. And Remy peacefully went to sleep in my hug. :-(
 
(((((Susie)))))
I am so sorry for your loss. Fly Free Dear Remy....
It is difficult when it is so sudden. But, you did the right thing for Remy....and just think...he didn't suffer very long. That is a blessing for him. I hope that thought will be of comfort to you....
And may your memories of Remy bring you comfort. Sending deepest condolences to you....hugs....
 
Susie, I am so sorry to hear of Remy's passing.

Remy was well loved and will be sorely missed.

You gave him the best final gift possible, one last cuddle in your arms.

Fly free little Remy. You have earned your wings. wings_cat
 
Thank you - it's just so hard to know if it should be our decision. The worst part is that I had my oldest daughter with me - youngest was at work with phone turned off. She knew nothing until 4 hrs. later - by text. I wasn't there for her and she never got to say goodbye. I was told by a co-worker that she's been crying at work all day. :-( I feel so awful.
 
Go to the bridge and run free

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We are so sorry to hear you lost you fur baby wings_cat
 
I have agonized over this same decision myself, twice in the last year. You have to think what is best for your cat. Are they acting like they are still enjoying life or are they no longer here in spirit, only here in their body.

My Madeline passed due to oral cancer. It crept right up on us, little warning to let us know anything was wrong. She will be in my heart forever. I simply hug her differently now.

Some said they would not miss a single step of this dance, even knowing what goes at the end, saying goodbye to our beloved best friend.

It is so hard. Crying with you on your loss of your boy Remy.
 
Thank you so much everybody. It's so difficult losing our best friends/loves of our lives. I don't know what I would've done without my five at the time of my divorce. Hard to believe its now just three. :-(
 
((((((Susie))))))))
I'm so sorry.
I've never been able to decide if it's better for it to happen quickly or to have time....
It's just plain difficult no matter how it happens. Tell your daughter that Remy knows she loved him and she can still whisper goodbye to him all the same.

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Fly Free Remy....
 
Thank you Rhiannon. I'm so glad he didn't suffer but I'm beside myself that he went from the carrier to an X-ray table right to the final goodbye. It was all so fast. But I know he was having trouble breathing and I would never want him to suffer. But I'm beating myself up over the times I pushed him away when focusing on Elian and his tests/shots. And Remy was my earlobe sucker - he would push his way to my earlobe no matter what - especially first thing in the morning. He could be a pest. Now I'm regretting any time he was pushed away and would love to have the hug and nibbled ears again. I'll never have another one that does that.... and only with me. Sounds crazy/gross but I felt like he really loved ME since he never did it to anybody else over the 12 years he was a part of the family.
 
Susie, I am so sorry for your sudden loss of Remy. He passed in the arms of the one he loved most, and is in a wonderful place now. You made a loving decision, I wish you peace.
 
Dear ((((Susie)))),

Our kitties are very perceptive and I'm sure that Remy knew that you loved him unconditionally and that it was the challenge of diabetes that sometimes required you to spend less time with him. Please do not feel guilty. You did your best. And you gave your Remy a precious gift when he most needed it: a peaceful, loving crossing. Now he is at the Bridge, surrounded by our GAs, free of pain, and able to run and jump and chase butterflies again. Fly free, sweet Remy. You are much loved.

In deepest sympathy,

Ella & Edward, Rusty, and Stu (GA)
 
(((Susie))),
I'm so sorry.
Remy was a special guy. Please don't beat yourself up over anything.
He loved you ~ so much. And you will always love him.

Sending you and your family much love and light.
 
((((Susie))))
I'm so sorry. Cats are so good at hiding their discomfort. Remy didn't want you to worry.

Fly free little one and land softly.
 
I am so sorry. (((((Susie))))) It's never easy to lose one of our babies, whether it's sudden or whether you see it coming for a long time. Remy had a great life with you, what a lucky boy. You did your best for him and that is a wonderful gift. Thinking of you and your daughters as you mourn your sweet boy.
Liz
 
Oh Susie, I am so sorry. You did the most loving and caring thing a person can do when their furchild is suffering. How sudden. Again, I'm so very sorry. ((((Susie & Family))))
 
Oh Susie, I am so sorry to hear about your sweet Remy's passing. Remy had a good life with you and Elian...take comfort in that. Fly free, sweet Remy and continue to watch over your mama bean and family. They miss you so much.

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Susie - I am so sorry. It is so difficult when it is so sudden. I know on my heart that you made the right choice. Remy does thank you for it. I hope that the memories of Remy will be of comfort to you. Fly free little one, you will never be forgotten. wings_cat
 
(((Susie))) I am so sad to read this - what a shock, and I can understand how you can feel guilty because you have been so focused on Elian. Kitties hide when they don't feel well oftentimes. He loved you best and you were there for him when he needed the most love of all. You are lucky that you have all the ear lobe sucks and nip to remember him by - it sounds like he gave you so many! No regrets - it sounds like you both had a wonderful 12 years. Many hugs and prayers, and fly free sweet Remy.
 
((((Susie)))))

You should not best yourself up. This would have happened regardless of Elian and cats are such masters at hiding illness until it is too late. Your vet was right about the fluid.....it comes back and faster each time. You did the right thing and thought of your sweet baby's QOL. You were a great momma to him.

Fly free Remy.
 
Thank you all so, so much for the very kind, reassuring words and pics! I can only hope he really truly is healthy again and is with his sissy Jenny who left us less than two years ago.
 
I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet Remy. Our time together is always too short....many prayers for you and your family, Susie.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. Having had two cats develop cancer, I can tell you that cancer can just creep up and you not realize it. Don't beat yourself up. You gave Remy a loving home and gave him the greatest gift by choosing to not let him suffer. Fly free Remy.
 
(((Susie))) - I'm so sorry to hear about Remy. Try not to feel guilty, though, because kitties are so good at hiding when they don't feel well. You were a great mom until the end.

Prayers and hugs -

Libby (& Hershey, too!)
 
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