? My Beloved Saoirse has Gone to The Bridge

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Mogs, I'm so very sorry it was Saoirse's time to leave you. You both went through so much together and so loved each other. Know she is now in a place without pain. This Beatles song seems appropriate to me. Fly free Saoirse.

Blackbird
The Beatles

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these sunken eyes and learn to see
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to be free

Blackbird fly
Blackbird fly
Into the light of the dark black night

Blackbird fly
Blackbird fly
Into the light of the dark black night.

Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise
You were only waiting for this moment to arise
You were only waiting for this moment to arise.
 
Tuxedo Mom said:
Dear dear Mogs....you are exhausted and in shock...it is no wonder you feel so cold. Put on some cozy warm PJs, wrap yourself up in a warm blanket and have a hot cup of tea. Please take care of yourself. All of us here are concerned about you. :bighug: :bighug:
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Yes - this is normal. I well remember that shivery feeling when I lost my Sophie on a mid September day... Couldn't stop shivering in fact. Mogs, you do have to make a very conscious effort to take care of yourself... Please do exactly what Mary Ann suggests. And I don't know if you like music or tv but you may need some kind of distracting sound in the house.... It somehow breaks up the "stagnant" energy that we feel when we are numb from shock.
 
Got the TV burbling away in the background. Silence would be a total head-wreck.

Tried to eat something for the first time since Friday evening and it was like sawdust. Couldn't manage more than a few mouthfuls.

I am dreading the next time I wake up and it hits me that she's not here. I love her so much. She's my whole world ...

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Critter Mom said:
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My heart goes out to you even more ...

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Mogs

You are so thoughtful in the midst of your own grief but this is about you and Saoirse; I just wanted you to know that if it was peritonitis, you absolutely did the right thing by setting her free. And if it wasn't, you still did because you listened to what she was trying to tell you because your love for her is so very great.

You are right.....the first few days, there is shock and disbelief. You grieve, you cry. But when that shock wears off, it's so important that you know we are all here for you and wish we were there to give you hugs, listen, and share tears.
 
Can't think of any words of my own right now that don't sound trite in my head... But this really touched me recently as being so much in accord with my own experience of grief:
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This is one time when rubbish tv has its uses. I think The X Factor is about to start which is of less than zero interest I know but as background sound it does the job.

Eating will be a challenge but things like scrambled egg and yogurt should slip down ok.

Yes - it's those moments of waking that it will hit you all over again...sigh... You will cry and sob and grieve for as long as you need to and then after a while you may have to devise a strategy for this, eg throw yourself into some energetic vacuuming or washing up... some kind of mindless physical activity. Sounds silly but possibly more helpful than allowing yourself to think for too long. But everyone copes in their own way and you will find the way that helps you, in due course.

Grief is a process. It has no set course or rules or timeframe. We all just do what we need to... Go with the flow for now but remember your responsibility to your own wellbeing.

(((((Mogs)))))
 
Know that you gave her more love then should be possible.
The pain and shock will fade, the love and memories will last forever.
She will be watching over you now, the same way you watched over her and will be waiting with the others at the bridge.
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I'm so sorry it was sweet girl's time to cross Aine...BIG HUGE LOOOOOOOOONG HUG. Remember - she's not 'gone', you just have to hug her differently.

Soar high on your new angel wings sweet girl....landing softly back in Mama's broken heart...

More hugs and prayers for comfort....
 
Critter Mom said:
I was able to read it above using the Zoom on my browser. It's beautiful, Lisa. Thank you. :bighug::bighug::bighug:

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That poem helped me out so much when I lost my Felix in Jan of 2005. He had surgery for a urinary blockage and never recovered. He was only 2 and smoky was still a kitten then. My prayers and hugs are with you right now.
 
I am so sorry that you are hurting. Saoirse is pain free now. She is looking down wishing she could ease your pain. She loved you just as much as you loved her. She had a wonderful mom. She and all your special pets that you have loved all your life will be waiting at the bridge to shower you with love. While I have been reading all these posts, I have been remembering all the special pets that have shared their lives with me and my family. They might be gone, but never forgotten. I just wish I could give you hugs and ease your pain

Donna
 
Lisa and Smoky said:
That poem helped me out so much when I lost my Felix in Jan of 2005. He had surgery for a urinary blockage and never recovered. He was only 2 and smoky was still a kitten then.
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Oh, Lisa ... I'm so sorry you lost Felix so young. I lost Saoirse's brother two weeks before their third birthday (car). There's never a good time to lose our little ones but in so many ways it's much worse when they're so young. I truly feel for you over such a cruel loss.

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Oh NO Mogs!!! I've been following along with your posts, sending vines and prayers for your dear Saoirse and to get online and see this news is heartbreaking.

I'm so sorry that she had to leave you, but if it was peritonitis (which from the sound of your description of the pain she was in, is a very good bet) it was a kindness that she went to the bridge. No more pain....she'll only feel love

Have you ever read the fable "The Loving Ones"? That's it's original title anyway....I've always called it "You Have Chosen Tears"....because from the time they enter our lives, we know we will lose them, but as the fable says, even a moment of their love is worth the pain we feel later.

Sending you a big, long virtual hug and wishing it could be in person :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Dear Mogs, I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that a faraway stranger is thinking of you and wishing you comfort through your pain. Here is a poem that has helped me in the past.

If I should ever leave you whom I love
To go along the Silent Way,
Grieve not,
Nor speak of me with tears,
But laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you there.

( I'd come - I'd come, could I but find a way!
But would not tears and grief be barriers? )
And when you hear a song
Or see a bird I loved,
Please do not let the thought of me be sad...
For I am loving you just as I always have...
You were so good to me!

There are so many things I wanted still to do -
So many things to say to you...
Remember that I did not fear...
It was Just leaving you that was so hard to face...
We cannot see Beyond...
But this I know:
I love you so -
'twas heaven here with you!

(By Isla Paschal Richardson)

Rest in paradise, sweet Saiorse. :bighug: :bighug: :bighug:
 
I don't know if anyone posted this yet, but here's a poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye that helped me some after I lost my dad:

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
 
((((Mogs)))) I am so sorry. Saoirse could not have had a more loving, wonderful mom than you. :bighug::bighug::bighug: There are people world wide weeping for your loss. Wishing we could physically wrap you in our arms and support you.

I hope she sends you a sign soon that she made it to the Bridge. A bright new kitty angel star will be shining in the sky tonight.
 
I'm so so very very sorry! :bighug::bighug:
I understand when it's just you and your fur babies. And to lose one is so very hard - words can't describe how much I'm feeling for your loss right now.
Remember this, as long as they live in our hearts and memories they are still alive in some way.

Soairse (freedom) is now free from pain and suffering, running free across the rainbow bridge, waiting and watching and loving you from there, but always always loved by you, and kept safe in your heart. :bighug:
 
Chris & China said:
if it was peritonitis (which from the sound of your description of the pain she was in, is a very good bet) it was a kindness that she went to the bridge. No more pain....
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That she was in pain tore me apart, Chris; I don't know how many knives pierced my heart today. If I had my way not one whisker of her would ever have known even mild discomfort for all of her days. I lost my dad to peritonitis and subsequent pneumonia and he was in an awful lot of pain so I was bracing myself for the worst even before I got to the vets today.

I couldn't bear to see my girl hurting. As heart-shreddingly awful as it is to be left behind, it was a kindness to both of us - and the last bit of love I could show to her directly - to set her free of it. And her last gift to me was to leave me free of any doubt over whether I might not be making the right decision. I am dealing with a number of 'what ifs' but mercifully that isn't one of them.

Chris & China said:
... "You Have Chosen Tears"...
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I read that fable when you posted it before quite some time ago, Chris. Consequently, it has been running through my head all day and it gave me some badly needed borrowed strength, support, and an extraordinary amount of comfort as I worked to get through making sure that my beautiful Bonnie Munchkin got what she needed at the time when she needed my help more than at any other time in our precious and wonderful life together. I am glad you introduced it to me; it rings so true and I, too, have always found it deeply moving and comforting. The staff at the vets were trying to soothe and reassure me, but I told them that I had Chosen Tears and I was completely at one with myself having unreservedly embraced that choice so many, many moons ago.

Chris & China said:
Sending you a big, long virtual hug and wishing it could be in person
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Ditto. :bighug::bighug::bighug:

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I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this. I can't imagine the agony you feel. I wish that I could do something to make this less painful. I'm new here, but this group is full of such amazing people with huge hearts. Please know that you are not alone; there are so many people here that have you and Saoirse on our minds and in our hearts. My hear breaks for you.
It may be hard to believe right now, but letting her go was an incredibly selfless gift and the most loving thing you could have done for her. I hope to have that strength if the time ever comes. You are an amazing kitty mom. <3
 
Oh Mogs, I am so, so sorry to hear that you have lost your beloved Saoirse. I hope, someday soon, you can reflect on your marvelous life together. You worked so hard over the years to give her the best possible life. She knew you loved her unconditionally. What else can a sweet kitty ask for in life? And that you were able to give her the last, greatest gift, relieving her pain.

Please take care of yourself, giving yourself time to grieve while eating well, sleeping when you can. We care about you!
 
I'm so sorry to hear your beloved Saoirse has passed, Mogs. I can't image the heartbreak you must feel. She'll always be with you and she knows how much you love her. :bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Oh, no! Mogs, I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Saoirse. I know how much she meant to you and how close the two of you had become, always there for one another, through thick and thin. You were a part of each other, your souls were entwined. My thoughts and prayers are with you. If you need a shoulder to cry on, please don't hesitate to PM me. I'm there for you. Sending hugs to comfort you and prayers for peace. Saoirse is in the heavens, now. Look upward and you will see her.

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Oh Mogs, I am so very very sorry to hear of the loss of beautiful Saoirse. You have been the most amazing bean a kitty could wish for and to give her your final gift of love letting her go is a wonderful thing........and so very hard to do.:bighug:

Fly free Saoirse and land softly at the rainbow bridge where so many of your FDMB friends will be waiting to greet you.:rb_icon:cat_wings>o

Please take care Mogs ...this is such a hard time for you. Lean on us here and let us help you through this time:bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Mogs I sit here barely able to see to type, know that you have done everything you can humanly do for your precious fur baby. Also know that you have given her the hardest gift possible to give. This is the gift of release and the end of pain, also know that she is as close to you as your very breath and that she will stay with you as long as you need for she is now your guardian angel. I ope that this gives you some small measure of comfort and ease.

Norse Legend of the Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.

The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
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Dear Mogs,
I'm so sorry to hear about your serious struggles to keep Saoirse healthy, I'm beating myself up for not sending prayers earlier on as you really needed them! I was so absorbed with Rocky's health problems.
I do hope you and Saoirse will get better soon, you are so amazingly proactive when it comes to dealing with Saoirse's health crisis, please give yourself a credit for it.
I'm sending lots of prayers and healing vines, thinking of both of you, keeping my fingers crossed for improvement.
Lots of love and hugs
Marlena and Rocky
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Oh Mogs, I'm so so sorry to realise now that you lost that battle!
In times like that it is difficult to find ways to give you some comfort but I would like to say that I think of you right now and I'm sending the strongest healing vines to help you go through this very tough time.
My heart goes out to you.
Marlena:bighug:
 
Dear Mogs, I so hope you managed to get at least a little sleep. Hard though it is to wake again to reality, you need to get as much rest as you can to restore some of the energy - physical and mental - you have expended recently. You are exhausted, I'm pretty sure. If you find after a couple of days that you can't sleep, it might be an idea to get some assistance for that. Everything will feel so much tougher without sleep.

Please let us know if there is anything any of us can do. You are among real friends here who sincerely care.

Thinking of you.

HUGS

Diana
 
(((Mogs))) I am so terribly sad to read of the loss of your darling girl. My heart breaks for you, I know the pain it causes to have to take the decision to end the suffering of a beloved kitty. You gave Saoirse the greatet gift of love you could, and she is at peace now. In the dark days ahead hold onto the wonderful memories you have of her and the love you shared :bighug::bighug::bighug:

When my mum passed a friend sent me this poem. It brought me comfort and I pray that it gives you some small comfort also.

You can shed tears that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived
You can close your eyes and pray that she'll come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that she's left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see her
Or you can be full of love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her and only that she's gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind,
Be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she'd want; smile.
Open you eyes, love and go on.

with deepet sympathy, fly free little Saoirse and land softly. :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
Suki x
 
Dear Mogs, I know you are exhausted and in shock. I just wanted to remind you to please please take care of yourself. Saoirse would want you to do that. Eat a little something every day, make sure you are drinking water or tea, and be kind to yourself.

Remember that you have SO many people here who love you and care about you!
 
I have such a massively powerful feeling that Saoirse's still here in the house with me. I keep going to where she should be, expecting to see her and longing to caress her and my heart sinks and shrivels to find she's not there ...

My beautiful, darling girl; my beloved baby; the last of my family; my best friend; my raison d'être ...

(((Saoirse)))

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((HUGS)) Mogs. I thought about you this morning as soon as I woke up.

Saoirse's spirit...the part of her that made her such a special girl...will always be around you and in your heart. Her spirit is on a different plane of existence now, but still remains with you. I am sure Saoirse is watching over you, while you grieve and trying to let you know that she is released from all the pain and treatments. The connection between you two surpasses the physical world and while you grieve for your terrible loss, remember to celebrate the deep love and special bond between you and your beloved Saoirse.

Sending many, many hugs and strength for you.

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