I miss Judy

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Gator & H (GA)

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I miss Judy already. I started missing her and S like even yesterday. :cry:

And the Buzz thing kind of wiped me out too. I very much miss Sarah too.

My healing thoughts are with them both.
 
I miss her, too. Squamee is the first fd kitty the I "knew" to cross the rainbow bridge. I hope Judy is going to be surrounded by her family, friends, and grandbabies for Christmas to help her heal.
 
Hi guys,
Thanks for the message, Gator. It made me feel good. I do lurk a little (you guys are a hard habit to break!) but find it hard to post.

We are leaving today for a small place we have in upstate NY on the Hudson RIver (it is very small and swimmable up there). We will be there till after New Year's. My husband is really looking forward to it, and I am not. We always took Squamee with us, and it is a small place, so she was always around us. We thought she liked it better there because she had so much more access to us. So I think I am going to miss her even more, with none of my kids or grandkids around to distract and hug me. But we have the internet there so I can still be on the board.

Have a good day, all.
 
Sad week. :sad:

Judy if/when you are up to it, if you want to you should definitely post to help out the newbies. There are so few on PZI I'm sure your support would be invaluable to many. Hope your trip goes well and is not too overwhelming. Maybe you will find that you feel like Squamee is there with you in spirit and that will bring you some peace.
 
Hi there,
Am upstate and really missing Squamee.
I have realized that one of my problems with posting is that I find it very difficult to see her picture. I have not figured out what to do. I can't bring myself to remove it, but it is very hard to see.
Hope you have a good weekend.
 
I hope you can find a way to enjoy your Holidays, Judy. I know its a sad time, but Squamee is with you in spirit. I understand about the photo and I think in time it will get easier. Sending you peace and comfort. :YMHUG:
 
It was Sarah who told me something approximate to, "We all handle grief differently" when I had asked her about H's picture. For some reason that really struck home with me - something I don't think I will forget easily.

I couldn't touch any of H's stuff around here for a good week. Then when I did clean things up it was very upsetting. But Ele is right, time did help and the next day I was feeling [at least a bit] better.

Sarah's words mean a lot of different things to me: that we all heal at different rates, we all express that grief in different ways and we all have different touchstones of that grief that we try to avoid.

So the best thing I have to share with you are actually Sarah's words. :smile:
 
Hi Gator,
WHat did you ask Sarah about H's picture? So far I have been trying to post without looking at the picture.
I gathered up all the extra supplies I had at had at home and brought them with me up here. I am going to try to get to the PO on Monday and see about packing supplies. I want to be able to send them to Venita or anyone who might need help in dealing with a diabetic cat. Doing that is making me feel good.
 
I had noticed that some take down their picture after their kitty passes. At that time H's picture was kind of a good omen/charm to me - but I didn't want it to seem weird to anyone else if I kept it up for the time being. That was the nature of my question.

DCIN is a good cause. Newbie Kits is a good cause. Then I think I threw away too much other stuff around here without calling around to see if any cat shelters could utilize any items. On the other hand I don't think I had that many items.
 
:YMHUG: You could do something like put up a temporary different picture in her honor - so it's not like taking her pic down, but just putting up something that is a tribute that you might feel good about - maybe a big heart, or a candle or rainbow, or something that has a nice quote in it or something. Leave that up for a while as a picture, and then at some point if you are feeling more comfortable with it you could put her picture back up if you wanted, or keep it as a tribute icon, either way. I hadn't thought about the picture aspect before - I know when I have lost kitties, it has been weeks before I could bear to pull out photos of them and look through them - even now years later it can be hard to look at their pictures. So I can really see how that might be tough here. Anyhow, just a thought...
 
:YMHUG: Just sending love and holiday hugs-

You learned so much , so fast, I hope you can hang around to help newbies. It does feel good to pay it forward.

Your holiday get-a way sounds cozy- cherish your time with hubby
 
judy beleive it or not it makes me sad too when i see the pic's of kitty's who've passed. don't know what i'll do when it's our turn.
i like the idea of putting a different pic of squamee up and honoring her and feeling pride is what a wonderful cat she is whenever you see it. kind of like pschologically changing your mindset on the new pic. just a thought. a different pic... a different perspective on her passing. still loving and missing her just the same.
 
What a great, happy picture. I hope you're enjoying the peace and solitude of your getaway. I hope that happy memories of Squamee are warming your heart.
 
Awww, I love your new picture.

I hope you and DH are relaxing and healing during your getaway and I hope the blizzard isn't getting you.
 
Thanks, guys. Nice to hear from you and glad you like the new picture.
No blizzard up here---just a few inches at most. My daughter and her husband were disappointed! And I was pleased that they liked the idea of getting snowed in with us!
Trying to figure out how to be a part of the board. I like the contact with you, but really can't give dosing advice (it still makes my head swim when I read your answers) and there doesn't seem to be a need for much else. Maybe I have to start a "hello from Judy" post! I am only half joking.Last night I had another dream of Squamee. She was happy and running around, but only I could see her, my husband couldn't.
Take care, all!
 
I like the new pic too, it is very sweet.

I think there is a need for lots of stuff! You had a great post on a thread I just read, telling a newbie how you found things confusing too, and some tips on how to deal with that. I thought it was really helpful, and gave a perspective that no one else had, and that was likely more "relatable" than those of us who tend towards wordy & head-spinning posts. :oops:

I think there is definitely a need for moral support, tons of tips that may not be dosing but are still helpful, and also daily contact. Sometimes people can go hours without getting much response, so the more people who can check the board regularly, the higher the odds that everyone gets SOME response.

Just for perspective, when I first started giving advice I was really uncomfortable with it, and only did so b/c the board was pretty empty at that point and I didn't want people going without getting answers. I did a lot of "I can't really help you, but just wanted to say hi & give you some encouragement" type posts. Then I would go PM someone with more experience, and ask them to post if they could. When I started to see that what I was thinking in my head about dosing matched what those with more experience were posting, and also being able to keep Bix regulated, that gave me the confidence to start tentatively giving people dosing advice. I think it's good actually to feel uncomfortable with it, when I start feeling too comfortable it makes me nervous - too easy to give someone the wrong advice, and then not be around to deal with the consequences. :oops: That's why I feel a lot better when several people are chiming in - higher odds hopefully that the advice will be "QC'd" by others. And you can play a role there too even if not giving advice yourself - just seeing if what others have said makes sense, and asking questions if it doesn't.

Anyhow, no pressure or anything, I wouldn't blame you at all if you didn't want to keep posting, but I do think you have lots to contribute if you have the time & energy & inclination to do so. You probably know a lot more than you realize too and can give advice on things that you know, but take for granted because they seem obvious now.
 
judy the board is kind of like a family after awhile. it is very hard to find a place after working hard with your kitty and then having to let her go. i remember 4 years back when tomtom was otj after 28 days i did'nt want to leave but did'nt know what my purpose was. i hung out on community and made friends. but i only had 28 days...you have alot more experience.
you may not think you have much to offer...but consider how much more you know than a bean showing up with a kitty just dx'd. these are the folks that soooooo appreciate a reply. they are as scared and sad as can be and just want to know they are not alone with this. you can always visit health and look for a newbie. they are easy to find. they are crying out for help.
as for here on pzi, you do know alot. please pick a kitty or two and follow along and put in your 2 cents. it is always appreciated.
of course if you need/want a break it's understandable. gator took off for about a month after H passed.
but i'm sure we all would love to have you here.
lori
 
I've tried not to be shy about calling in help for kitties too. I know I don't mind getting PMs to bring my attention to posts. I can't speak for the other folks here but I've noticed most here have been really super about responding to my PMs asking to take looks at different sitches.
 
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