How to deal with putting my cat to sleep :(

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As some of you know i have been struggle with my cat jinx chewing his belly and dealing with sore and lesion that kind of healed only becaue i put a t shirt on him. His behavior has changed alot. He is laying around a lot more not coming to lay by me anyone. He has been pooping on the couch which is old so we are getting rid of it, but now he is peeing on the floors. Luckily it is hardwood and not carpet but it is still a major problem. I literaly have to put him in the litter box so he will pee in it. I can tell when he starts walking around that he needs to go. Sure enough the minute i put him in the box he pees and poops. I still notice some blood in his poop as well. I am currently unemployed and cant afford all the tests that they would want to do. I know something is not right with him because his personality changed. I feel bad because i dont have the money. It make me feel like i have failed him but the fact that he i peeing around the house is not normal for him at all. Im just trying to prepare my self for this but every time i think about it i cry. Just curious what people think. If i am making the right decision or i just dont want to deal with it. Any advice would be appreciated.

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Heather and Jinx
 
I don't know what to say. :sad: I came close to having Midora put down - I had an x-ray done on her and it showed one kidney shrunken & the other enlarged. translation: her kidneys were giving out. She was hanging around the LR miserable that night; I spent the night on the floor with her and intended to have her put down the next morning at the age of 13. she died at 5am, saving me the heart ache of haivng it done. I cried the whole morning :sad:, I cried at the vet where I took her to be cremated, I cried at mass, I couldn't go to work that day.

You are in a tight spot. I am not sure what I would do in your situation, being unemployed. The only time I was ever on unemployment was in 1995 when I was laid off. It was only for about 6 weeks. Times are much harder now. I ended up with about $15k in debit over a period of about 1990 (after I got our of school) to 2004. I moved to FL (no state tax!) and started paying down that debit. Yes, I have 2 jobs (f/t & p/t), which is what did it.

I guess if I was in your shoes, I might try a 2nd opinion on the problems (if I remember correctly, the sores have been an ongoing problem you have been discusing with your vet). Questions like is this something that can be cured or is this a life threating problem? I can't remember how long you said this has been going on.

I know Dr. Lisa says that she will do consultes via phone, but I don't know what the cost of that might be.

Sorry I can't be of more help. The best help I can give you is some prayers, especially to St. Francis (patron saint of animals).

Hugs to you both from Cedric & me. :YMHUG:
 
I'm so sorry that you and Jinx are struggling. I don't know your situation, so I can't form an opinion on your plan to pts. Have you done everything in your power to help him? Have you asked around if anyone who is in a better financial position would be willing to adopt him? If you did pts, could you look at yourself in the mirror the next morning knowing that you made the right choice for Jinx? I'm not judging you, just keep in mind that pets (like children) are inconvenient at times, but by brining them in to your home, you have made a commitment to them to do your very best for them.
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I'm glad the t-shirt was of some comfort. You need to do what you need to do - for both of you - and only you know. It seems to me you've tried a lot, especially considering your circumstances. If you can spend at least some time today cuddling and soothing Jinx and deep breathe to clear you mind, I'm sure you'll come to peace with whatever. HUGS :YMHUG: Kathy, Maisey and crew
 
I'm sorry you are going through this with jinx. Some vets have care credit which basically pays the vet and you pay them back with monthly payments. My thoughts and prayers are with you in whatever you decide.
 
Hi, reading your post breaks my heart for you & Jinx. I would encourage you to find a way to get him examined by a vet, part of being a responsible pet parent is getting their medical needs addressed. I understand you are unemployed, I would look into Care Credit, relatives, friends, odd end jobs, just whatever you can to swing it. I hope you can see what is wrong & he may not need to be put down, maybe you could adopt him out to a family member or friend? I am a faith based person & believe in the power of prayer too.. I will keep you & Jinx in my thoughts & prayers :YMHUG:
 
Dearest Heather, and, of course, you too, precious Jinx,

Loving a kidimal involves the Olympics of emotions. There is such great joy! And, then, there is your question...

If you truly feel Jinx isn't enjoying life, then you have your answer. If you feel he can enjoy life, there are places (dcin and imom) who can financially help you help Jinx.

This is an intimate conversation you need to have with Jinx.

Please know, Heather, I'm keeping you and Jinx close in my heart and prayers.

Much love and countless hugs for you both,
Deb and Nikki -- and, Giz, who taught me how to dance and how to be brave...
 
Heather,

I just want to wrap you in a warm hug and let you know that whatever it is you decide to do....I know it will be the right thing.
Please don't feel bad about the fact that money does not grow on tree's.
I believe it is Carol's signature that says 'A cats life should not be measured in years, but in the amount of love shared'
I know you will not make the decision lightly. At some point for most all of us this decision must be made.

Hugs and Understanding,
Your NOT a bad mom,
Lori
 
In my opinion, this is definitely the hardest part of being a responsible pet owner. And the right answer is the one that's right for you and Jinx. There are no wrong answers.

Deb said an important thing - this is the subject of an intimate conversation between you and Jinx. After he's been to the litter box and is comfortable, sit down with him and talk. Crying is fine. And then listen - this is the hardest part. They often tell us things, but we find it hard to hear them sometimes. If you can truly open your heart to hear, he will tell you.

I hope that you and Jinx find peace in your decision.
 
Thank you for all the responses and advice :) . I actually just applied for the care credit and got approved for $500 even though i am unemployed. I am looking into a few of the other sites that help out people with animals who need medical attention but have financial issuses. I would have never had known this was out there. Unfortunetly i keep busting jinx peeing on the floor or the couch. I am hoping that it is because there is something wrong. It is becoming a big issuse in the house. But i figure if a vet is willing to at least look at him and listen to me about everything that has been going on it will help me make a decision. I dont want to have to put him down if i dont have to. But we cant keep putting up with the peeing and pooping around the house. Hopefully i can find out some kind of answer to what could be causing him to act this way.

Thanks

Heather and Jinx
 
Heather,

I am so glad that you are approved for Care Credit. Keep us posted. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. This is the hardest part of being a pet parent. The best of luck to you and Jinx. :YMHUG:
 
Dearest Heather, and, of course, you too, precious Jinx,

I, too, have been, and am a person in-transition job wise. Took on a long-term free-lance gig that required 4 to midnight a couple of years ago. Nikki really didn't care for it. Started peeing pretty much anywhere she happened to be...

My nose doesn't smell. It's basically for decoration and holding up my shades. It took a dear friend, whose nose does work, visiting to tell me the "it's like a little old lady who has 15 cats" smell description... I was horrified.

Did the black light deal and countless treatments of Nature's Miracle on the carpet. (She'd been busy...) And set up an extra litter box downstairs. Apparently all she wanted was the extra litter box downstairs... Okay, and me finishing the 4 to midnight free-lance gig...

When I adopted Nikki, or she rescued me (the jury's still deciding...), I was still gainfully employed. Then the economy tanked and I was let go after 20+ years... It has been beyond difficult keeping a roof over our heads since... Nikki is DCIN sponsored as a result.

I'm just telling you this, Heather, because I feel your pain. I know you love Jinx.

Try setting up an extra litter box... Listen to Jinx... Listen to your heart...

Much love and countless continuing hugs,
Deb and Nikki -- and, Giz, who taught me volumes...
 
I wish you the Best Of Luck Heather and Jinx (((Hugs))). I'm so glad you got the Care Credit.
 
Dearest Heather, and, of course, you too, precious Jinx,

Just checking in and letting you know we're keeping you both close in our hearts and prayers.

Much love and countless continuing hugs for you both,
Deb and Nikki -- and, Giz, forever dancing in my heart...
 
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