I'm with Robin here. Not to overwhelm you (I know you've got all this going on with the testing and everything else!) but I think a new vet might give you more support and make you feel more comfortable. I'm not even saying bring Hershey in for a visit. Just maybe call and see if you can do a quick phone interview or visit and do a quick interview? Or even email? That way, before getting locked in to a visit, you know if they will be supportive. I managed Gypsy without much help from my vet...however, that was because my vet was so comfortable with me doing so. She encouraged me to home test, encouraged a human meter, saying pet meters were too expensive, and encouraged me to visit this board to get help after I told her about it. She never tried to get me to bring her in for testing or anything. She and I disagreed on prescription foods, but that was our only thing, and I just told her Gypsy wouldn't eat it. Beyond that, I knew she was supportive of my choices, and that made taking the advice of this board SO MUCH EASIER for me. I knew my vet wasn't going to try to tell me differently. It's hard to ignore the vet's advice EVEN with all the people on here who know better since they live it. Possibly a more supportive vet would make you feel better?
I know it's a lot to think about with everything else going on. If you do choose to go vet shopping, don't feel rushed. Take your time checking out vets nearby, calling them, getting answers and then meeting the ones you like to see if they are the right fit. Don't stress over this, but I honestly think it might help ya. If you are interested, you might start by posting on health and asking for vet recommendations in your area. Someone might live nearby!