Help Me. J.D. passed on - it's been 8 days

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I hope the vet techs could get the impressions for you, it si so hard to be on your own for this, but we are all here for you.
 
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We are all sending you strength and comfort. All of us are holding you up as JD accompanies you on his last grand tour.


We will miss him terribly and we know your heart will always miss him so. Safe landing to our beloved Gentleman Cat.

Anne
 

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(((Dyana))), I've been sending up lots of prayers, that God will give you the strength, to get through this terrible grieving.
I can't tell you, how I'm hurting for you.
Barb :YMHUG:
 
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{{{Dyana}}}

I hope you feel all the love and support coming at your from your LL family. I know you feel alone, but you aren't. We are all there with you.

I love that you hear him purr. I'm sure that's his sign to you that he is comfortable and safe.

Sending many more hugs.... :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
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Dyana,
I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you both in my prayers so that you may find peace in the days to come.

Will

Poem For Cats
And God asked the feline spirit
Are you ready to come home?
Oh, yes, quite so, replied the precious soul
And, as a cat, you know I am most able
To decide anything for myself.

Are you coming then? asked God.
Soon, replied the whiskered angel
But I must come slowly
For my human friends are troubled
For you see, they need me, quite certainly.

But don't they understand? asked God
That you'll never leave them?
That your souls are intertwined. For all eternity?
That nothing is created or destroyed?
It just is....forever and ever and ever.

Eventually they will understand,
Replied the glorious cat
For I will whisper into their hearts
That I am always with them
I just am....forever and ever and ever.
Author Unknown
 
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((((Dyana & Ginger)))))Sending ton and tons more healing and comfort vines! Please know you are going to be in our thoughts and prayers every waking minute! :YMHUG: :YMHUG: I am glad your vet clinic will be able to do the paw imprinting for you, and that you did not have to go there alone. With my two older kitties, I had their blankets cremated, but looking back I wish I had saved 1/2 of the blankets to wrap their urns. That bothers me to this day.
 
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I am so so so sorry, Dyana. You have been a godsend to so many. J.D. was so lucky to have you. We all mourn with you. Hugs.
 
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continuing to think of you today, dyana.

I have been thinking what a gift it was that JD slipped away without making you make the decision to take him in. He was bright and happy yesterday morning and that is how you can remember him.

fly free little one.

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I have long hair, and I cut a big swath out of it, in the underneath part that is soft and not yet gray, and I tied it around J.D.'s front paw in a bow. I took his collar off to keep, and I put his bow tie on. He was cremated in his bow tie and his blanket with a mouse toy that I hope he will play fetch with me, again, one day, like he used to, so long ago. :(
I thought about bringing a frozen shrimp, but did not think they would allow it for some reason. Now, I regret that.

The place was really nice. They let us wait for the cremation and we went to a diner. They did not pressure me to buy an urn and told me to take my time and not rush into it. He came home in a nice wooden box with a metal plate on top with his name engraved in it.

The certificate I got with him says the following words:
This is to certify that the beloved J.D. cherished by The Keen Family has been individually cremated with dignity and respect. And it says the paw prints on your heart will never be forgotten.

This a picture I cherish of his paw prints in the snow, I took one year. I don't know why they are yellow.

"Farewell Master, yet not farewell. Where I go, you too, shall dwell. I am gone before your face, a moment's time, a little space. When ye come where I have stepped, ye will wonder why ye wept."
Along with The Rainbow Bridge.

Ginger has not come out of the bedroom.

I am going to my elderly neighbor's house for a beer. I had her drive me to the liquor store, and go inside and buy me a six pack like a common teenager. I could use something more than a beer :(

Um, I never took the three days off when my sister passed away and boss said I could still use them, so I think I am going to use them while I grieve for J.D. I hope you understand, and if you don't okay.
 
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(((Dyana)))
I've been thinking about you today and I'm glad you're taking time off work. That's a very good way to take care of yourself.
Sending you and Ginger love and comfort.
:YMHUG:
 
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I agree...
You need to take care of yourself...

and if you weren't so far away, I'd gladly sit with you and drink whatever.
I think many of us would.

Sending scritches to Ginger. Sounds like she's grieving too.


and you should be able to photoshop those snow pictures back to white.... ;-)
 
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(((Dyana))) - It sounds like you have done wonderful things for J.D. and also wonderful things for yourself. It is good that you had time with him - in a way, to spend that time saying goodbye. It is too sudden otherwise, at least for me. The paw prints in the snow is beautiful. Most people probably wouldn't do something like this, but I had my kitty's paw prints (that were taken when she passed) tattooed on my shoulder where she used to rest her paws. I see them in the morning in the mirror and I have the warmth of her loving me. There are so many little ways you can keep him in your heart.

I am so saddened and teary - you were one of the people who helped me sooo much when I first arrived here with Leo a couple years ago, and even though I don't check in much, I still have such strong feelings for you and J.D. and the wonderful condos and descriptions of his and Ginger's daily activities. You have some good and funny stuff written about him in condos going back years - a diary of memories both wonderful and challenging.

You are such a good bean through and through. I am sending hugs and prayers that you find peace growing in you each day. It is so terribly hard in the beginning and will always be a hole, but it fills with love and sweet memories. I hope that comes soon for you and Ginger.

My very best,
Lisa & Leo
 
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Thought about you all day and I am very glad to hear you are taking care of yourself by taking some time off. I lost my mom and my cat of 20 years in the same year. I would be hard pressed to tell you which one was harder. Our cats aren't just like family, they are family. Just with fuzzier feet. Take care of yourself and Ginger will be ok too. I know a Photoshop wiz if you would like someone to work on J.D.'s foot print pictures. Just let me know.
 
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((((Dyana)))

I am so sorry. My lack of words doesn't mean that I don't care. It just means that I feel your hurt and I just don't know what to say other than that I am so so very sorry. I am in shock actually and I don't know why but my deepest and most heartfelt sympathies go out to you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.



Fly Free Dearest J.D.

Much Love to you,
Caryl
 
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Dyana,

Those are beautiful pictures of J.D.`s footprints. I was a mess when my first cat Alex passed away. I took three days off of work and was a crying mess. I had a very understanding supervisor at the time.
My mom(GA) also had to come to my house because I was such a mess. You and J.D were here on the board when I first came some years ago.
Sending blessings and prayers for you and Ginger.

Terri
 
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I'm so glad your boss is being understanding and letting you take the days off. You need to have time to grieve. It is hard losing a furbaby any time, but especially one so close to our hearts as an FD kitty and an older kitty we've loved so long. J.D. will always be with you. Sending more prayers and hugs. :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
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I had to re-register, I guess if you aren't on board for a while it forgets you. I had to come back because I am heart broken. J.D was a sweetheart and he will be missed so much! Dyana, I am so sorry I could not help today. I feel so bad. Me and my stupid Drs., I wanted to be there for you. I'm glad you found someone. I hope J.D. finds Daphne at the rainbow bridge. I know she will be waiting there for him. She was always looking at the board to see how J.D. was doing and I always told her he said hi, and was doing ok.

I will be thinking of you Dyana. Don't forget to ask for a sign that J.D made it to the bridge. You would not believe the sign I got from Daphne. Someday I hope we can meet up and talk about our little babies. Till then have a beer for me!!

Oh, p.s. I just love the footprints!

Barb
 
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((((Dyana)))),
Your farewell to J.D. is a beautiful tribute to a beautiful boy.

Wishing you peace of heart and mind tonight. J.D. is watching over you and sending love and gratitude.

:YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG: , and for Ginger, cat_pet_icon

Ella & Rusty
 
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((((Dyana)))). I've been thinking of you all day and knowing how very difficult it is to deal with the cremation and getting JD back. I think it is lovely you had his bow tie on and tied your hair to his paw. When I lost my first kitty, I could not function for days and days and so I think you taking the time off is exactly what you should do. He is your child and you are grieving his loss as a member of your family. You must do whatever you need to nourish your soul at this very hard time.

How lovely that Lisa could fix the snow pawprint photo for you. His clay pawprint will always be a very special part of him that you will have. But I know he is right there with you and if you listen to the quiet, you will feel him.

I know I've posted this before in other condos but it makes my soul happy to know our babies are truly waiting for us....for their one and only mommy to meet up with them again. It might not comfort you now, but maybe in the future.

The Ridge by Carol Notermann

It’s been such a lovely summer, I’ve been napping in the sun.
This morning, other cats and I enjoyed a long long run.
We chased butterflies together. I climbed high into a tree.
And now I think what woke me up was that small bumble bee.

I’ve yawned and stretched, and still I feel that something has begun.
He’s standing there in robes of white, and telling me to come.
I always run to Him you know, when He comes across the bridge
To see if we’re all having fun and if we’ve checked the ridge.

He gives tummy rubs to all of us and pets and cuddles too
I’m glad to see Him every day, when He comes into view.
Each day He takes a different cat, and chats with them a while
Then off that kitty starts to run. I swear they seem to smile.

But now He’s stopped in front of me. He’s said a name I know.
He said to look out towards the ridge. The sun is setting low.
I start to walk out toward the ridge, and then what’s that I see.
IT’S YOU! IT’S YOU! It’s really you. You’ve come to be with me!

My goodness you are running and I am running too!
You stop to bend, but I can jump and now I am with you.
I feel your kisses on my head, as I did in long off days
You’re holding me and hugging me, and into your eyes I gaze.

And now He’s walking with us, as you carry me once more
We’ve crossed Rainbow Bridge together. We’re here at Heaven’s door.
And He has held it open, and told us to walk through
That from now on and forever, I can always be with you.
 
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J.D.'s snowy pawprints are just beautiful. I have no doubt he is playing with his mouse until you can play together again! Continued hugs and prayers....
 
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I hope you can feel all the love and admiration being sent your way. I hope you can feel all of our arms around you at this the most difficult time.
 
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Thank you. It's hard for me to attach the hugs icon smiley thingy because it is smiling...and I am not..not in my heart.. but you guys so deserve it for being here for me. The Love I have found, and the caring and support are remarkable. You guys are so much like a/my family and such loving and supportive friends, when I need you most. Thank YOU! And I know you guys know that. I have been Blessed to have you. My boss called me this evening. I told him that I just couldn't fake it, right now, and go back to work, and pretend that everything was okay. I think I might have a good boss, as he said to take it one day at a time and to take the time I need, and called J.D. a Family Member, which of course, he is.

Okay, I have to try to sleep. I hope to have some dreams of him. What a thought to have no alarms to wake up to. What a missing part of my life.
 
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i am so very sorry. we all know that terrible pain that you have right now. you just cry Dyana, as much as you need to and for as long as you need to. i will be sure to send all of my babies who are already at the bridge to meet your
J D and show him all the best playgrounds and sunny napping places. i promise they will take good care of him.
 
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{{{Dyana}}}

You are blessed. You had a long, loving relationship with an amazing being, and you have another furry creature to give you love and comfort, and you have a caring, considerate, understanding boss! I'm so glad you are able to take some days to regroup and reflect. I know it will help you to deal with your new normal. We are all here for you through it all. Lean on us and know we are thinking of you and wishing you peace.
 
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Dyana said:
Okay, I have to try to sleep. I hope to have some dreams of him. What a thought to have no alarms to wake up to. What a missing part of my life.
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This is no way the same thing, and maybe you might identify. I can have multiple alarms on my iPhone. One was always to wake up for work and one was always in the middle of the night for Leo's PM+5. So it was set at 1:15 am near the end. I didn't delete that alarm, and I still see it every day. True, Leo is still with me so it's really not the same. But that alarm represented some close bonding time between us - and even thought he didn't feel like it, he somehow knew I was taking care of him and it was making him better. Somehow he just knew there was a reason mommy did this (I'd like to think it wasn't just for the little treat!). But, when I see that alarm, it reminds of our closeness and personal relationship and that he cared for me caring for him.

Dammit, I'm starting to cry again. So many hugs, dear.
 
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It's been almost 2 years since Mario crossed The Bridge, and I still miss all the parts of taking care of him. They just become part of who we are - they make us better people, and that is something we can carry with us for the rest of our lives, even though we aren't together at the moment.

More hugs to you, Dyana....
 
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Thank you, ladies. I really appreciate the caring and kind words and someone to talk to.

Ginger has been wearing J.D.'s jacket when she goes outside, which is very little in this cold.
 
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Dyana, what a tender and beautiful send off for J.D. on this, his next big adventure. I got all weepy again when I read about the lock of hair tied with such love around his paw.

You and your amazing gentleman cat are in my thoughts. And, of course, as always, vines.

Marilyn and Polly
 
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Thank you, Marilyn. You've always been there sending us vines. I really appreciate it. :YMHUG:

I hope the other kitties don't laugh because J.D. is wearing my hair and a bow tie, and I hope he keeps that mouse I sent him with and will play with it with me, when I go to be with him again, someday.
 
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Good Morning, Dyana,

I'm very sure that J.D. will take good care of that mouse until that wonderful day when you meet again.

Thinking of you!

Ella & Rusty
 
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It made me smile to think of J.D. arriving at the Bridge in his bow tie. I think the other kitties will be impressed and wish they had a lock of their mamabean's hair to sniff and remember her.
 
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Zener said all the kitties are a tiny bit jealous of J.D.'s bowtie because he is so very handsome in it. Hugs to you, Dyana. These first few days are so hard. We are thinking of you and holding you close.
Liz
 
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(((hugs)))

So sad to hear of JD's passing. I'm so glad you were able to bring him back home so quickly.

Those snow paw prints are adorable. <3

(((DYANA)))
 
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Oh (((Dyana))) I'm just seeing this now. I'm so very very sorry for your loss of sweet handsome J.D. You were always so dedicated to his care. I don't post much here, but I do lurk, and your condo is one I always read. I love the send-off you gave him. What a great idea to tie your hair to him. I'm sure he'll be forever grateful to have that reminder of you so close to him. Tears are streaming down my face for you both. My deepest and sincerest condolences to you. I'm sure Muffin was there to meet him at the Bridge, as were so many others. I just don't know what to say. Know that I am thinking of you. Fly free dear J.D. Such a legend here.
 
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Thank you Anne. I didn't think of this at the time, but he did always sleep on top of my head, so maybe my hair means something to him. BIG tears here :cry:
 
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This is my vision of what it must be like at the rainbow bridge for all of our GA kitties. Now, I will imagine a bow tie on one of these beloved kitties.

Thinking of you today Dyana and sending love.

Anne
 

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Thank you, Anne :|

I'm off to pick up his paw prints from the vet, in a little bit. I miss him so. My neighbor just came by to say he was sorry (I don't know how he heard) and gave me a bottle of wine. That will help me sleep tonight, but it normally makes me cry more, too :roll: but I guess that is okay.

I told Amy that if that little kitten she found was still available that I might think about it. Is it too soon?
 
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Tears are okay. In fact necessary in my opinion. No, it is not too soon. Janna from the FPS is so glad that you got the kittens after she lost MA. It doesn't mean that she loved MA any less. She also sees signs of them in the new kitties. To rescue a kitty is a testament to your love for JD and vice versa. That being said I got Max and Tiffany a month after losing Mandie and it was really hard at first. I was back in the ER the night after I got them with Max. I saved him. Hugs.
 
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Dyana said:
Is it too soon?
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The heart wants what the heart wants when the heart wants it.
Sometimes it is clear, sometimes it is not.
But I agree that J.D. would want you to welcome another cat at some point.

MJ
 
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Dyana,

When my cat Alex passed away I went to get another cat at the rescue. I ended up with not one but two kittens, one was my avatar my Siamese mix Lilly who was my diabetic cat and her sister Ally. They were 8 weeks old, I was blessed every day that I had them on this earth.
That kitten Amy had was SO cute. Let us know what happens.

Terri
 
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(((Dyana)))

It is never too soon to find love and comfort. It is never too soon to open your home and your heart to a creature in need.
 
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When I lost my first cat (almost 25 years ago), I became obsessed with the idea of saving another cat in his memory. I thought I wanted a kitten, but, on my way to the kitten cage at the Humane Society, I passed a cage that I didn't even look at. This little calico paw reached out from that cage and snagged my sleeve. I turned and looked -- and fell in love with a little calico and her orange tabby brother.. They were 10 months old. Hobie had a heart attack when he was only 5 years old and I was heart-broken. But my little calico, Katie, lived to be 20 years old and she was a joy every single day.
 
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It's never too soon, if you're ready. I love what Sienne wrote. Best get 2 (especially if you get kittens) otherwise poor Ginger will have no peace.
Liz
 
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I think it is the perfect time, when you decide that it is time. There is no such thing as too soon or too long....it is too perfect, because you know when it is right. I would also say two if getting kittens....

My friend Rebecca lost her beloved Sunshine at age 21 and she said she wouldn't be able to get another cat for quiet some time. She had just had food surgery. The following weekend we drove about 2 hours into WI and she found a kitten that she just had to take home with her....


I have kept you and Ginger in my prayers and cry everytime I read new comments...You are a fantastic cat mom and if/when you decide to bring new furbabies into your home, they will be truly blessed and lucky to have such a wonderful mommabean.
 
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I don't think it's too soon. You have lots of love to share. It doesn't mean you love J.D. any less. You just love the other kitties in a different way. I have a multi-cat house. It has always helped me to have other kitties to share my love with when I lose one of my furbabies. But you don't have to rush to get another kitty or kitties. You'll know when the time is right. :YMHUG: :YMHUG: Scritches to Ginger. I hope she's doing okay.
 
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I hope Ginger's doing okay, too.

I was beginning to prepare my dinner, and she followed me into the kitchen and meowed, and acted friendly. She was hungry and I fed her.
I may be delusional, but I got this slight message from J.D. at that time, to be nice to Ginger. How do you be nice to a cat that pretty much just ignores you?

Maybe, I'll go to my elderly neighbor's house again and bring Ginger with me. When we are there together, Ginger is really nice to my neighbor and lets her pet her and scratch her and then she either sits next to me or my neighbor, like a nice kitty. Maybe, somewhere inside her, there is this nice kitty, if only I could bring it out when we're home alone.

I guess I need to try extra hard. For J.D.

You know, I have still been known to cry crocodile tears for the passing of my beloved horse 20 years ago, and I can still feel exactly how Zak's neck and shoulder felt on my hand. I think I will remember J.D.'s soft mink like fur forever, too.




Soon, I'm afraid, they're going to kick me off of this thread, and tell me to go someone else to post, as it's getting long. I hope not.
 
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{{{Dyana}}}

I seriously doubt anyone would kick you off the thread, but you can always start a new one! Perhaps Ginger ignored you before because she knew how special J.D. was to you and felt she couldn't compete. Maybe this is your chance to develop a relationship with her. Might be a good idea to explore that before you add another kitty to the mix.
 
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Hi, Dyana!
You can open another condo in memory of JD and just chit-chat!
(((((((hugs))))))
 
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