The vet called. Smokey is the same, after 4.5 days on IV. She is not eating/drinking and is out of it much of the time. While there's always a chance she could recover, he said it's unlikely and, in fact, he's surprised she's lasted this long. If I put her to sleep I won't let her starve to death. If I put her to sleep I also take away any chance she could recover. The vet will be out of the office a lot due to holidays. He said he doesn't want to make Smokey wait til Wed if I decide to put her to sleep. So he said he'll think about it and call me back later, to tell me when I could be able to do that. I'm still feeling so conflicted and torn and heartbroken. Please, if you can send good thoughts, and hope that either she can recover or that I can at least be there with her for the end..... she and I could use all the good wishes we can.
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Carol & Yoshi
Member Since 2009
Wrapping you in big warm hugs. Any chance you can bring her home and to see if that might help her eat?
jt and trouble (GA)
Member Since 2009
You need to be with her. As hard as this is to say, you dont want her to leave this world without you being there. No one can tell you what to do. This IS a lonely journey but one we all have to make eventually. I'm sending prayers for guidance and prayers for your hurting heart.
jeanne
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Dana & Thomas
Member Since 2009
Prayers and hugs to you both. If you decide it is her time to go, I am sure the vet will wait for you to come.
Dana
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Hillary & Maui (GA)
Member Since 2009
There is no answer and nobody can tell you what to do. Only you can make this decision.
What I do suggest is that you go there, be with her, sit with her and talk to her. Ask Smokey what she wants. She will tell you.
My concern is, if you keep treating her, will someone be with her 24/7? Or will she be alone? If she will be alone, see if you could bring her home and treat her at home. This way you can be with her 24/7. You don't want her to die alone. That is the most gut wrenching thing to happen. It happened to my boy and after that, I vowed never to allow that again. It's a 24/7 place or home.
No matter what - go be with her and you will know what to do.
What I do suggest is that you go there, be with her, sit with her and talk to her. Ask Smokey what she wants. She will tell you.
My concern is, if you keep treating her, will someone be with her 24/7? Or will she be alone? If she will be alone, see if you could bring her home and treat her at home. This way you can be with her 24/7. You don't want her to die alone. That is the most gut wrenching thing to happen. It happened to my boy and after that, I vowed never to allow that again. It's a 24/7 place or home.
No matter what - go be with her and you will know what to do.
Larry and Kitties
Member Since 2009
Sending purrs and prayers. Your decision will be the right one.
nancy and payne
Member Since 2010
My prayers are with you and Smokey .... you will know in your heart if it is time, the hardest part of loving animals is having to say goodbye. The love lives on .... and she will be forever snuggled in your heart.
Hope + (((Baby)))GA
Member Since 2009
There may be something else going on with her that tests just won't show. I'm sure many of us have had to say goodbye without knowing why, just that it is time. She is living in the "present", you are projecting the future. You have to ask yourself if she is having a quality of life today, this moment, or if she is totally alone and missing you. This is the hardest part of loving a pet and knowing which is the right way to go. My heart goes out to you because it is the hardest decision to make but we make it based on what we truly know in our hearts and minds and not what we wish for and want to happen. Two of mine over the years taught me well. I no longer wait to give me more time. I would rather a day too soon than 1 hour too late. Ask yourself how deeply you would be affected if your vet called and told you she had passed away as to how you would feel being there with her, loving on her, and helping her to leave in your arms feeling your love. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and to Smokey.
chubbabubba
Member Since 2012
Sending hugs, healing thoughts and vibes to your baby!
I wrote a post before, not sure what happened to it...
I think you guys are helping me realize that I should help her cross. Even if she did survive, between the diabetes, pancreatitis, and her being still severely underweight from the DKA, she'd crash so easily and she would also need to gain weight with all 3 of these conditions, at a time when she is extremely frail. If she did survive she would come home only to die soon, probably with extended hospital stays again. I am in no position to negotiate with the vet, as it's already generous of him to make time when he is officially not having hours, so hoping he would give me tomorrow later in the day or Tuesday..... I'm supposed to have a 4 hour visit early in the day tomorrow with her when the vet tech is in. I don't want to give that up. So I'm hoping the vet's time would be after that..... she's been missing me an entire week already so 4 hours is the least I can do for her. She's very clingy with me and gets separation anxiety (which is natural, having lost two prior mommies in the past). I want to show her I will be by her side and not leave her. So if I can't work out a time I may have to abruptly bring her to the hospital to have it done, or drive her home and hope that some traveling vet I just heard about can come right when she gets home (not likely). It would be so much easier if she could stay where she is.
I think you guys are helping me realize that I should help her cross. Even if she did survive, between the diabetes, pancreatitis, and her being still severely underweight from the DKA, she'd crash so easily and she would also need to gain weight with all 3 of these conditions, at a time when she is extremely frail. If she did survive she would come home only to die soon, probably with extended hospital stays again. I am in no position to negotiate with the vet, as it's already generous of him to make time when he is officially not having hours, so hoping he would give me tomorrow later in the day or Tuesday..... I'm supposed to have a 4 hour visit early in the day tomorrow with her when the vet tech is in. I don't want to give that up. So I'm hoping the vet's time would be after that..... she's been missing me an entire week already so 4 hours is the least I can do for her. She's very clingy with me and gets separation anxiety (which is natural, having lost two prior mommies in the past). I want to show her I will be by her side and not leave her. So if I can't work out a time I may have to abruptly bring her to the hospital to have it done, or drive her home and hope that some traveling vet I just heard about can come right when she gets home (not likely). It would be so much easier if she could stay where she is.
Dana & Thomas
Member Since 2009
I am so sorry. When we decided that it was time for Thomas to be helped to the bridge, I opted for a mobile vet, and she came the same day we contacted her. Considering what she came for, it was a very peaceful passing, and I would reccomend it to anyone.
Dana
Dana
Wendy&Tiggy(GA)
Member Since 2011
My heart is breaking for you. I hope you get to spend the time with her tomorrow and she can let you know what to do.. If she is ready.. If you are ready... Honestly it sounds like she may be happier at home if you can do that somehow. Remember she loves you and you are a great mother. Any decision you make is the right one. You have already gone way beyond what many people would do. ((Hugs))
Jean and Charcoal
Member Since 2009
Dear May,
My heart goes out to you and what you are going through with this time of decision making on what is best for Smokey. She has been through an awful lot, and she is probably very tired.
I agree with Hope about the part where she said "I would rather a day too soon, than an hour too late". And that is so true. I have struggled, as we all have here, in making that gut wrenching decision, but we really have to think about the cat, and what they must be feeling. We never want to lose someone that we love so much, but it always seems that it will be inevitable that we have to.
Last month I took my 11 year old May-Belle tuxedo cat to the vet's, and she was such a sweet girl, but she had more wrong with her than I had known. Right then and there, I had to make that decision, and my vet helped give me the courage to do so. May-Belle was not going to get better, only worse. I did not want her to suffer any longer.
Now I am dealing with my tortie, Ketchie, and I feel that this is one of the hardest cats I have to lose, since she was born in my bathroom on August 1, 1995, and I have lost the rest of her family. She is like a little person to me, but she is withering away, and I have to stop thinking of myself, and my loss and try to get the courage to give her the freedom she so rightly deserves.
Take care, and God be with you and know how many of us are sending thoughts and prayers to you during this very difficult time. Never feel guilty about the decision you will make. But in your heart, know that you will have released her from her terrible suffering and pain.
((((HUGS)))),
Jean and Charcoal (GA) cat_pet_icon
My heart goes out to you and what you are going through with this time of decision making on what is best for Smokey. She has been through an awful lot, and she is probably very tired.
I agree with Hope about the part where she said "I would rather a day too soon, than an hour too late". And that is so true. I have struggled, as we all have here, in making that gut wrenching decision, but we really have to think about the cat, and what they must be feeling. We never want to lose someone that we love so much, but it always seems that it will be inevitable that we have to.
Last month I took my 11 year old May-Belle tuxedo cat to the vet's, and she was such a sweet girl, but she had more wrong with her than I had known. Right then and there, I had to make that decision, and my vet helped give me the courage to do so. May-Belle was not going to get better, only worse. I did not want her to suffer any longer.
Now I am dealing with my tortie, Ketchie, and I feel that this is one of the hardest cats I have to lose, since she was born in my bathroom on August 1, 1995, and I have lost the rest of her family. She is like a little person to me, but she is withering away, and I have to stop thinking of myself, and my loss and try to get the courage to give her the freedom she so rightly deserves.
Take care, and God be with you and know how many of us are sending thoughts and prayers to you during this very difficult time. Never feel guilty about the decision you will make. But in your heart, know that you will have released her from her terrible suffering and pain.
((((HUGS)))),
Jean and Charcoal (GA) cat_pet_icon
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