Carl & Polly,
While I hear what you are trying to say, I don't find sending someone a message telling them how horrible they are, being accused of having an agenda to promote a particular food, or being told the harm they have caused another new member, or demanding they make a public apology for their wrong-doing (especially when I was not wrong in my statements) in any way well-meaning. Then having the nerve to continue to post on posts regarding my cats. Since I came on here I have repeatedly been "advised" about the food I feed my cats and how they should be switched. I looked into it and found it would not benefit my cats in any way. While remission is the ultimate goal, I choose to concern myself with my cats' overall health.
While one member may not know the entire situation and see no harm in what was said to me, the fact remains, it was not appreciated. After my Maxx crashed almost every day for weeks,( some days down to a reading of 30) the fact that he maintains numbers from 100 - to mid 100's is a God-send...so why anyone would concern themselves with suggesting I give him insulin or that my vet may not be aware of this, is beyond me. Not all situations are normal or statistical. And I was letting the folks here know that he was no longer crashing. Do I think he is in remission? No, but he is safe now and hasn't crashed since. he remains in treatment and is doing much better than he was.
The new member that hasn't been on left for the same reasons I almost did, and for the reasons I still have not done spread sheets. The over bearing of those against our choice of treatment for our cats. She writes me still so we can see how each other's cats are doing. It's a struggle for everyone, but being told you are doing it wrong, when it is simply a different approach than most on here is, not well meaning. Being repeatedly told your cats' food is not good, simple because others don't like it, or being told it is not a low carb food is ridiculous. Trying to convince a new member that a food is not designed for their cat or that it is a marketing strategy is absurd.
I chose to stay, as many on here HAVE helped, (ie; home testing). I have considered trying different approaches, but for now my cats are in the best treatment for them.
I do appreciate pointers, or advice, but NOT when it is being done in a condescending manner or a manner in which the person feels they are superior or more knowledgeable than others, including the number of highly qualified veterinarians I am working with.
NONE of us here have the absolute answer, including myself, because if we did, there would be no such thing as Feline Diabetes.....