awwww Shawna! I remember being exactly in your spot. Its tough, but as you absorb the info it will get easier.
My Latte had IBD/lymphoma. I tried grain free foods which worked for a while. We had to move to a tx for the ibd eventually (she didnt eat and vomited...also had kidney disease). I had to go with prednisOLONE (that is recommended over prednisone) due to cost. The other alternative, which many ibd kitties find success with is budesonide. It is absorbed differently thus often reducing the risk of diabetes. Some kitties also find a chemo drug, leukran to be helpful.
Here is a link with info on budesonide. Its also an educational site on IBD:
http://www.ibdkitties.net/Medications.html
I know there is a yahoo group out there. I will have to come back with that one.
Latte did great on the pred for about 9 months. Then she got an UTI. That is when the diabetes was confirmed. After much reading, posting, and going back and forth in my head I decided to stop the steroid in hopes the FD was transient. Unfortunately her IBD got MUCH worse...and yes, she stopped eating. I made a desperate attempt with leukeran, which did not work out at all for her. I then put her back on prednisolone and attempted to manage her diabetes. She did pretty well until a multitude of issues arose about 9 months later, leaving us at the age of 18.
Here are my red flags from your post:
*not giving insulin if the cat is not eating*
Sometimes that is a route you need to take. BUT, if your kitty has very high blood sugar, is not getting insulin, not eating = a set up for another problem. Ketoacidosis. The BEST way to see if your kitty needs insulin is to do home testing. Yes, that means monitoring on a daily basis, despite your vet insisting you do not need to. there are a lot of people on the board who can guide you on that and even help get you started with a testing kit!
*Not monitoring/not giving pred/giving insulin*
If the diabetes is transient, you stop the pred, give insulin, do not monitor...it could be a set up for TOO LOW blood sugar. Its similar to when people find their cats are diabetic and switch them from dry food to wet.
*low dose*
What is weight of your cat and dose recommended by your vet?
Other thoughts:
Im sorry if I missed what you are feeding. There are some grain free/low carb varieties of fancy feast (chicken pate, turkey pate, chicken/liver..would not recommend the beef for an ibd kitty). Wellness has some great grain free varieties which are lo carb and kitties eat.
IF kitty is not eating, things you can try are:
-gerbers meat only baby food (turkey, chicken, ham)
-treats
-puree food and syringe feed (last resort)
-rotisarre chicken
-appetite stimulant
-dry food only if you must (EVO and wellness core are good choices)
Kitty has to eat. There is a yahoo group with great information and tips on getting cats to eat when sick. I will come back with that link as well.
Few questions:
-what tests were done to determine iBD
-has the vet thought kitty has neuropathy and that being the reason for having difficulty walking?
-was there a sterile test done for a Urinary tract infection?
-Has kitty been checked for ketones at the vet? You can check them at home, too! Pharmacies will have ketostix you can purchase.
-since you gave insulin tonight, is there ANY way you can try and test her? How much did you give? did she have a dose of pred tonight?
-Is your vet tapering kitty of the pred or did they tell you to stop cold turkey?
As you probably know, there are a lot of topics to cover and get through to help you answer your own questions. Hopefully between the collective knowledge of the group, we can help make this as painless and stress free as possible so kitty and YOU can feel well again.