Baby is gone, but never forgotten

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Yesterday morning baby showed remarkable resilience as she climbed on her foot high perch. I called the vet to cancel her echo cardiogram as I was concerned it may make her worse. Not getting him on the phone I decided to go. Two vets had said to do this as it was necessary before they would prescribe something for her. When I got there I insisted on staying with her through all testing and I did comfort her. At the same time I was bothered by their lack of gentleness I though should be applied. I tried to diffuse the situation and making her more comfortable.

When I got her home and let her out of the carrier she fell on her side finding it difficult to move. I got a sick, numb feeling in the pit of my stomach.
I stayed with her through most of the night expecting her to rally in her usual way. To my horror this morning I woke to find her gasping for breath and not moving. It was evident that this was what I had feared most.

Her usual vet said to take her to an emergency hospital an hour north of here as they were too busy to euthanize her. I found a local vet compassionate enough to check her. he announced she was in congestive hear failure. He put her down.

My terrible grief is multiplied by my guilt of submitting her to the testing torture she had to endure yesterday. Use this story to guide you. Do your research and ask a million questions like are the vet techs involved trained properly for a certain condition. And get two opinions from the very start. Don't let one vet rule your cats health.
 
Oh, I'm SO SO sorry. BIG loooong hug. Remember, bodies break but the spirit doesn't....she's not gone, you just have to hug her differently.

Fly free sweet Baby and land softly back in your family's heart.
 
Oh my goodness... How very sad. I'm so so sorry it went this way for your Baby. It just moves me to tears but it is SO giving of you to use this as a learning point for others. May peace find your heart I know Baby has.
Many tears,
jeanne
 
OMG, this is so sad to read and my heart breaks for you.
Her usual vet said to take her to an emergency hospital an hour north of here as they were too busy to euthanize her. I
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That is not acceptable and no compassion for a kitty having trouble breathing and an owner in distress.

Two of mine, over the years, taught me well that when I knew my Baby(GA) was showing some signs of either heart or lung cancer I DID NOT take her in. She always needed to be sedated for minor things and heart needs monitoring, cancer kills, so I let her be. She did well for a few months but I saw the breathing patterns changing and there was no way I was going to take her in even for an x-ray because I learned...if it is the heart and the cat is fractious and bad to handle, they may just be pushed over the edge. You get them home and the next thing you know, they are in distress or gone.

I am so thankful you were able to locate a vet to help you and you have my deepest and most heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your Baby.
 
I am so sorry for your loss of Baby and the callousness of your vet and his techs. What a nightmare! I feel your pain so deeply, having just lost my Calli on a vet's table. Nothing but time will make the pain less sharp but take some comfort in the fact that Baby knew you were trying to help her and that you loved her very much. She loved you back and now she is no longer suffering.

Hugs,
Melanie
 
Please know I am very sad for you. What a terrible thing to go through.
I just don't understand some vets. There attitudes and lack of compassion. Since I am paying a lot of money for one to treat my cat, I want that fee to include loving on him & acting like they love my cat as much as I do. It's not that complicated. Baxters vet doesn't do it & it really bothers me.

I hope the memories of Baby will comfort your heart & turn your tears into smiles.

May Peace Be With You,
Jenn & Baxter
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This story breaks my heart, and I knows yours is breaking too. I am so sorry. I am glad you found a nice vet in spite of this, though it does not make it any easier. Again, I am so very sorry.
 
I am so sad that your Baby is gone - you are so right - never, never forgotten - I'm so sorry about the circumstances - your heart must be absolutely broken.

There is no consolation except that sweet Baby is at peace and rest now - she earned her wings - and was welcomed at The Bridge by many who were waiting for her.

My heart goes out to you in your sadness - don't let the guilt you seem to be feeling override the wonderful memories and the wonderful life that you gave her. Thank goodness you found someone to help her cross over peacefully -

I am so sorry. Your tears are shared.

Emmy & Dude (& Mittsi too)
 
I am so, so sorry that your Baby is gone and that you both had to go through this.

I agree - no guilt! Baby loved you and knew you had nothing but love for her. She didn't think you did wrong by her and neither do I! You did what was best and gave her the last best gift and you should know she thanks you for that! No guilt, okay? None of this was your doing. You did for Baby out of love.

Fly free, dear Baby! No more pain and breathing the free air!
 
I am so very sorry that Baby has moved on ahead of you. It breaks my heart. I know that you know in your heart the time was right to help her move on. I also suspect that you're feeling guilt over yesterday. Please Pease don't... You were simply trying to provide one last chance that something might be done to extend Baby's time with you. Looking for helping her.... Please don't look back...

Please look forward... there will be a day in the future.... when you will be reunited... I am so very sure of this... Close your eyes and see it... Holding that sweet kitty in your arms again. Think of the wonderful times... I focus on Charlie leading me around the kitchen island prior to being tested and having his injection. Please know we are all here for you... Feel our arms around you when you need them and hugs when needed... and our tears, crying with you.....
 
Please accept my condolences on your great loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so very sorry.
Nora & Blaki
 
I am so sorry for your loss.
Please don't beat yourself up for thinking you put Baby thru anything she did't need. You HAD to do what you thought she needed, out of Love. You probably would have beat yourself up for NOT getting those tests, if you didn't. Out of Love, you wanted to do everyting you could.
I know how hard it is to witness the decline of our babies health and you did what you could. Baby is free now,happy, chasing butterflies, until you meet again.
(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
 
I'm very sorry for what you and Baby went through. It's not right that you feel guilty about what happened, because you were trying to help her. But it's understandable you feel that way because you care so much.

Fly free, sweet Baby. wings_cat
 
I am so sorry. My heart weeps for you and Baby. I agree with Hope; the vet trying to send you an hour north to an emerg vet to PTS a cat who's having trouble breathing is very callous and unacceptable. I am so sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad that you found a vet who is humane. Baby will always be with you in spirit. Please don't beat yourself up about the tests; Baby wouldn't want you to do that. She loves you and knows you tried to help her. I am so so sorry.
 
This is heartbreaking.

So terribly sorry for your grief.

Land softly, Baby...

all four of us lighting candles for your sweet girl...

Celi, Binks, Smudge, and Annie

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I am so sorry for your loss and the cold disregard you had to deal with from medical 'caregivers.'

Praying peace and comfort for you -

Libby
 
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