carfurby (GA)
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I'm so sorry. You did everything you could for her and she knows that. Fly free sweet Callie. Sending prayers. 



























I am so sad to say we had to get Callie put to sleep this morning. I can't believe it. It is so surreal that my sweet little girl is gone. I am heartbroken and totally devastated. The house feels empty without her even though we still have 5 kitties and 1 dog. She was always waiting for me when I was gone for even an hour, she was the one sleeping on our bedroom chair when we went to bed, and she was the one that came in for the nighttime loveys. I'm checking the clock to see if it's time for her shot. I keep looking for her and thinking I catch a glimpse of her, and I miss those eyes following me everywhere.
The pancreatitis was severe, and she developed DKA. She was suffering terribly. I've been going over and over things I could have done differently that would have made a difference for Callie. The anti-nausea meds did work off and on, but the mirtz didn't help at all. I guess it was too late for that. I was syringing food and fluids in (and thanks for all the suggestions. I tried them all, and I so appreciate you taking the time to post them.), but this morning when I tried to get close to her with a feeding syringe she started whimpering and crying. I couldn't stand it.
We were left with the option of doing a feeding tube, hospitalization, and IV fluids, and they didn't know if that would work. It came down to not being able to afford all of it. I hate that!
I feel like we let Callie down. She didn't deserve this, and I am so sorry.
I don't want this not working with Callie to discourage anyone else from trying for their kitty.
I want to tell everyone thank you for all your help and support. Because of you all I was able to have Callie for 9 more months, and while I needed that to be years and not months, it wasn't to be. But I am thankful for those 9 months.
I will try to write something about Callie when I can later so everyone can know what a special girl she was. I didn't do that when we were first on here, and I should have.
Also I have some supplies I would like to get to someone that has a need. I don't know how to figure who needs what most, but we'll figure that out I guess. I will post that stuff as soon as I can. Thanks again and hugs to all.









We did make the decision, and I will never get over the guilt of it. I can't eat or sleep. I finally took a sleeping pill after 40 hours of being up. I so wish I would have insisted we find some way to come up with the money to at least try. After watching her suffer I couldn't stand it, but we should have at least tried. If only I could go back to Monday and get her on the right meds right away, I know she would still be here.I am so sorry to read this. It is terrible to lose her, I know this . But you did make the decision. She was in awful pain, and even with the possible and very expensive treatment, she might not have made it. I have faced such decisions two times in the last 6 months. I am so sorry you have also faced this.![]()
Thanks, Dyana, for your sweet words and thoughts.I'm so sorry (((Glennie))) for your loss of your sweet Callie. She will be waiting to meet you at The Rainbow Bridge one day. That is very generous of you to donate her supplies.
Fly Free Beautiful Callie![]()
We did make the decision, and I will never get over the guilt of it.



Thank you, Mary Ann. I will always blame myself, but thanks for the kind words and your compassion.(((GLENNIE))![]()
I am so so so sorry that Callie has crossed the Bridge. Please do not blame yourself...you did everything possible to give Callie time and quality. In the end you gave Callie the greatest but saddest gift of love any petparent can give and let her be free from pain and suffering.
I feel your pain and my heart breaks for you.
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Thanks, Tricia. You're right, she always will be with me. That quiet little girl had a place in my heart that will always be only hers.{{{Glennie}}}
It is so hard to see our beloved pets suffering, but just as hard to release them from it. Callie will always be with you, watching over you from the Bridge.
Fly free, Sweet Callie, and land softly.![]()
Thanks, Elise. I appreciate your sympathy. Today I just feel like I should have found some way to do more. It did happen fast, and she was too young. Hugs to you.I'm so sad for you. It's never easy to lose one but especially hard when it happens so fast. You did all you could and gave her that last gift we never want to give.![]()
Thanks, Carla, for your thoughts and especially for your prayers. Hugs to you!I'm so sorry. You did everything you could for her and she knows that. Fly free sweet Callie. Sending prayers.![]()
Thank you, Red. I appreciate it.I'm so sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much, Mandy.I'm so sorry for your loss.![]()
Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. Callie did have a wonderful life till this last week. She couldn't have been more loved. This last week I failed her big time. But thank you.I'm so sorry for your loss. Callie was lucky to have you to take such great care of her. Please don't be hard on yourself. You gave Callie a wonderful life and did everything you could to help her.
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Thank you, Kris. You've been so faithful to be a support through this whole sugar dance, and I appreciate it. So true--never enough time with them.Oh, Glennie, I'm so sorry you've lost your little girl. We never have enough time with them ...![]()


It does tear our hearts apart, doesn't it, Mary Ann? But you can know that you waited till Trixie told you he was too tired to go on. I hope that comforts you a bit, but I know it probably doesn't. We waited too long with our dog. We didn't mean to, (and she was on pain meds) but because we didn't want to lose her, we did. It's so hard to know. Hugs to you.You made a decision based on what was best for Callie . I made the same decision just over 4 months ago. My boy and I fought and fought and fought, until he finally looked at me one night and "told" me he was worn out and didn't want to fight any more. I let him go 2 days after that. Maybe I could have kept him going for a little longer, but there was no quality of life left and it would have been for me rather than for him. I actually had more tests booked for a few days after I released him, but it was time to let him go. Sometimes the biggest regret is that a person waited TOO long to let them go.
You gave Glennie the ultimate gift of love even though it tears your heart apart.![]()



Thank you, Marje, for your prayers, condolences, and all the time you gave to Callie and me. Hugs to you.My very deepest condolences and prayers.
Fly free, sweet Callie.
Thank you, Christie. Yes, heart wrenching! The decision was definitely done out of love and compassion--and desperation to get her away from the suffering. She was on pain meds, but she couldn't even sleep. But I will always wish we had tried. Thank you so much for your kind words. Hugs back.Glennie, I'm so very sorry. These moments are heart wrenching, you did absolutely everything you could have, please don't second guess yourself. There is no way of knowing when our babies are sick, there often is so much else going on we never see. I have always felt that there is no wrong choice when it is done out of love and compassion, which is exactly what you did for Callie. Hugs to you![]()
Thank you, Kris. Even when we were with the vet (the same poor new vet that we had to call in to put our dear Berit to sleep) I was questioning. She gave us all the time we needed, but I will still always question. At this point it's too late--the finality is staggering. I'm not trying to wallow here; it's just so hard. I so appreciate the support.No, Glennie, you didn't fail Callie. You did what you thought was the right thing.![]()
Yes, when you're really attached and love them so deeply, especially the special ones, the pain is so much more devastating. I'm trying not to feel guilty, but it's a losing battle right now. With both the pain of having her gone and the guilt, I'm a mess. Thank you, Elise, for your concern. I'm so sorry you've had to go through this will all your kitties.I've had to make the decision for all my cats so far. One vet told me it was because we were so attached. You gave the final selfless gift. Please don't second guess yourself or feel guilty.![]()
You should not feel guilty, Glennie. Even if you could have bought her more time, what would her quality of life have been? I know you wouldn't prolong her suffering just to keep her with you. I made the mistake with two of my cats - keeping them going, trying everything, when with hindsight I can see they had already told me they were done and I refused to listen. I learned that lesson and didn't make the mistake with the next four. It's better to do it a little too soon than too late, trust me! THAT is when you feel guilty!! Miss her and feel sad that she's not here, but don't second guess your decision. You made it with love, which is always the right way to do it!With both the pain of having her gone and the guilt, I'm a mess















it just hurts to try..
I try to hold onto the truth that I did what prevented Gussie from moving from where he was, to more pain and hurt.... I think that you chose the same thing for Callie..what lay ahead was not a path I think as a cat she would have chosen if it meant more procedures and pain..it is far easier to say to be gentle on yourself than it is to accomplish..especially right now when you feel as if your heart has been ripped out and shredded and nothing is normal....I can't in any honesty say that feeling goes away, at least I'm still waiting, but it does sneak off now and then with time and then the memories bring smiles rather than tears...







Tricia, I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner to your kind words. It's been too hard. I did make many mistakes, but it is what it is at this point. I'm thankful I had her for the 9 years I did. Having her love was really special. I'll always miss her.You should not feel guilty, Glennie. Even if you could have bought her more time, what would her quality of life have been? I know you wouldn't prolong her suffering just to keep her with you. I made the mistake with two of my cats - keeping them going, trying everything, when with hindsight I can see they had already told me they were done and I refused to listen. I learned that lesson and didn't make the mistake with the next four. It's better to do it a little too soon than too late, trust me! THAT is when you feel guilty!! Miss her and feel sad that she's not here, but don't second guess your decision. You made it with love, which is always the right way to do it!![]()
Julie, thank you so much for your kind words. I'm second guessing my whole stupid week. She did know she was loved though. She never had to guess about that. Thank you so much for your condolences. I appreciate your sympathy and wish for peace. Hugs to you!I think it is common, and normal, to second guess our decisions when we are in these situations. You did your very best for your Callie, and she knows. She knew and knows how much you loved her, and you made a decision to take her pain away. So sorry for your hurting heart and wishing you peace.
Thank you for your comforting words. I know that Callie loved me as much as I loved her. I appreciate your condolences. I am so sorry for your loss of Yum's mother. I'm sure it was hard for Yum to adjust, but I'm glad her death was easier. It's all just so hard. Hugs!I put down Yum's mother last year. I was at peace with the decision and then I second guessed it. She was the first pet I ever put down. She had a far easier death than those I watched die without intervention. Maybe I could have kept her alive a few more days, but it would have come at the cost of more suffering. Callie loved you with all her heart. You ended her suffering. She is at peace. I am so sorry for your loss.
Thank you, Darrah. I appreciate your kind words and your sympathy. I'll try to write a tribute to her someday when I can so everyone can know how special she was. Hugs to you!Glennie, please don't beat yourself up. You worked so very, very hard to help Callie. I could feel your determination and dedication and love for Callie in every post. You said that she was suffering terribly. Letting her go was an act of great love and compassion. You were a great, great mom! Callie was so lucky to have you. I am so, so sorry for your loss....
Fly free, sweet Callie![]()
There isn't usually the right moment. But a moment chosen with so much love and compassion isn't the wrong moment. Wishing comfort and serenity for you, and sending love to the spirit of Callie.
((((Glennie)))))
I am so very very sorry.
I know that self doubt and "could I have? Should I have? Would it have?" Back and forth agony that you are going through....I am still struggling with it....but we can never really know the answers to those questions as much as we try to find them.it just hurts to try..
I try to hold onto the truth that I did what prevented Gussie from moving from where he was, to more pain and hurt.... I think that you chose the same thing for Callie..what lay ahead was not a path I think as a cat she would have chosen if it meant more procedures and pain..it is far easier to say to be gentle on yourself than it is to accomplish..especially right now when you feel as if your heart has been ripped out and shredded and nothing is normal....I can't in any honesty say that feeling goes away, at least I'm still waiting, but it does sneak off now and then with time and then the memories bring smiles rather than tears...
The choice you made for Callie was a choice of action that came from a place of deep, unconditional love..it was an unselfish gift
Fly free Callie, chase those sunbeams.....![]()
((((Glennie)))))
Yeah, Leslie, the should'a, could'a, would'as are agonizing. I'm sorry you are still struggling with it, but I so understand. I know the hurt over losing her won't go away. That was such a special way to put it--"it sneaks off now and then with time and then the memories bring smiles rather than tears". Thank you for your sympathy, your understanding, and your kind and comforting words. Hugs!
Thank you, Ella. I will try to hold onto that vision of her waiting for me. I appreciate you taking the time to send your condolences. Hugs!Dear (((Glennie))),
You listened to your sweet girl and helped her to fly free. At the Bridge Callie is "in good paws", surrounded by all our GAs until that wonderful day when you will be reunited. Please don't feel guilty. You gave Callie a loving gift. She trusted you and she will always be with you.
Fly free, dear Callie, you are much loved,
In deepest sympathy,
Ella & Edward, Rusty, and Stu (GA)
((((Glennie))))
So sorry to hear that Callie has left you, but as others have said, please don't blame yourself. We give our furkids everything we can, but in the end, the last gift any of us have to give is a peaceful release from a body that has failed them.
Something I've heard that can be helpful is to make a list with 2 columns.....In the 1st column, write down all the reasons why you should have held onto Callie
In the 2nd column, list all the reasons for releasing her.
I'm betting that the first list will be much shorter than the 2nd.....and will contain a lot of words like "might have", "could have" and "maybe"
Fly free sweet Callie and land softly.....Send your mama a sign that you're at the bridge, happy and whole and waiting for the day when you'll be reunited and be together forever![]()
Barbara, I didn't know about you losing Uncle this past weekend. I am so sorry for his loss. Same thing here--so caught up with Callie I didn't know about Uncle. I think we cross-posted. Please know I am thinking of you and praying for you. I wish someone could whisk the what if's out also, but I'll have to deal with them, and I will. Sending hugs and thoughts back to you. Thank you so much for sending condolences to me in the midst of your own pain and hurt. Hugs!Oh Glennie, I am so sorry to read this. I know your grief is immense and we would all love to whisk the burden of "what if" out of your mind and away from your heart. I didn't know until now Callie was so sick because I was preoccupied with Uncle.
Thinking of you and your family and sending many many hugs![]()