2/26 Rocket AMPS 288 PMPS 286 +6 139

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Rocket & his Mom

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hi all,
he managed to eat better thru the night and this morning so far he's eaten so so and nibbled here and there...he is more interested in yes...going out on the balcony...it is -4C here today and the sun is somewhat out...so he is all tucked in on his bed outside...his head is sticking out and he is getting the cool breeze...i really don't like it but if he does i will let him be and so long as i think he is not cold out there we are both ok with the arrangement...

DH thinks that Rocket is doing pretty good all things considered...for now anyways...but the dynamics have surely changed here at home...but for now we are all ok with the way things are....so long as we both know and feel Rocket is not suffering or in pain then we are going to continue this road...

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i need to vent a little if i may....i mentioned my sister was not doing well...she has had a few tests and they can't seem to find anything wrong with her...her CT Scan didn't show up anything either...so now she is gonna go see a specialist of some sort...but with that said..and i know she is my sister and she is not doing well....but my mom has totally dismissed the fact that i'm in the midst of grief here with Rocket...yes i know he is a cat and yes i know she is my sister....but mom feels i have a burden with Rocket and that i should just let go of the burden...her words not mine....i'm upset at that...

each time mom calls to update me on my sister i listen...but bothers me she doesn't really asks much on how Rocket is doing...the odd time she does...and when i tell her i'm tired from lack of sleep and i am gonna have a nap or something like that...she just sighs at the other end of the phone....it is upsetting....and i told her that Rocket has been with me thru a lot and we have a history together and it isnot to be taken lightly...at least i don't...and since i have no children this is what i know....

i do hope and pray my sister will be ok....but also that my folks realize that Rocket is not and has never been a burden for me...i do all this out of love for him...

that's my venting...sorry....i needed to let it all out....

please keep us in your prayers....and as always i keep Butthead, Whiskers and Tori in my prayers....and yes i continue to pray for those who have lost their kitties and are dealing with the heartache of the loss...especially for Ele...



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Re: 2/26 Rocket AMPS 288-venting a little

Vent away, Claudia. I know it must be hard dealing with your mother at this time; maybe she is just concerned about the toll all of this is taking on you... mothers just don't always express that in the best way they could (at least i know MY mom doesn't....LOL).

Glad you and Rocket have reached detente in the balcony situation. sounds like negotiations went well for both parties. :)

As always, thoughts and prayers coming your way... ((hug))
 
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Your mom doesn't get it Claudia. It would be like convincing someone who doesn't believe in aliens that they live among us (Edit - I don't believe in Aliens or that they live among us :lol: ). Vent away. Unless she has ever had that kind of bond, she just can't empathize. She just wants you to feel better, and for some reason thinks euthanizing rocket is the answer. Which we all know isn't the answer. I would make Rocket off limits in discussion with your mom and make up other excuses. "you aren't feeling well". It is the truth. Write down some catch phrases to use when your Mom starts being Mom.

My mom tries to fix things, and I have to tell her, I called you to vent, I'm not looking for a solution. I am even direct when I have to be telling her "I have to go now, can I call you back in a bit".

Love hearing about Rocket on the balcony.

This isn't related to Rocket, but it was an interesting read: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/41763121/ns/health-pet_health/
 
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Claudia - i couldn't get the nanners from amazon either. Global Ryan's ordered it in for me. I pulled up their website and found two in Calgary:
Global Pet Foods
Cambrian Center
761 Northmount Drive NW
Calgary, AB
T2L 0A1
Contact: Mark & Tara
Tel.: 403-457-1914
Fax: 403 452 7636
[ STORE HOURS ]

Global Pet Foods
Marda Loop Village
2101, 33 Avenue SW
Calgary, AB
T2T 1Z7
Tel.: 403-452-7297
Fax: 403-452-7298
[ STORE HOURS ]
 
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Claudia: it's ok to vent!! We understand and it's possible your family may not ever understand although I remember your mom was there at Christmas when he was so sick....I'm surprised she doesn't better relate to what you are going through. You're doing the right thing by keeping in close touch with your family about your sister but if they don't know what's wrong...what are you supposed to do? My family has been dropping bombshell hints about me getting over to TX for a visit; I don't think they fully understood what it takes to care for our four cats, esp Gracie, and why we can't leave until my sister came out a couple weeks back. She actually apologized to me and said she had no idea it was like this....pretty much round the clock...and now they all understand.

Glad to hear Rocket is still having quality time doing things he loves. Hang in there...you're amazing!
 
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Hey!!! Our cats ARE Our Children!!! WE love them as much as anyone else in the family!!!
We dont travel because of them! A FACT! We care for them as best we can, and all we ask is for a little respect!--Ours are getting older too!--So we are going to spend as much time with them as we can,
because they have given so much meaning to our lives--
And if we can go away for a day or 2 we will try, but one of us will always be here!!
Our family must accept it!--If they dont, I guess they never had an FD cat, nor felt they way we do!
I think we have a gift here somewhere, showing us Humility, Kindness, & selfless Love...
This whole experience with Moonie has made me a better person!
And has shown us Better-People--All of YOU here in Lantus Land!

So Dear Claudia, we so so so so understand!! Do what you feel as Rocket is precious to you too!
 
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Your mother is going through her own struggles; she doesn't have room for anything else, I would guess. But that's why we're here. Supporting each other in our vents is one of the things LL does best.

And love is not a zero-sum game. I know you have enough for your sister AND Rocket.
 
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Hi Claudia, It's true that "outsiders" (non FD people), even if they love animals and have cats and/or dogs in their family, don't understand. The first reaction from many of our friends--and even from my sister, who I love so much--when we told them we were going to adopt another diabetic kitty was: "oh no!" or "you must be crazy!". To their credit (and because Rusty is such a wonderful cat), they have all come around after the initial shock and understand, to a certain extent (but I know when we have to decline an invitation, or arrive late for some function, or leave early, that they still don't really "get it"). No matter. I love them too!
I'm sure your mother doesn't mean to hurt you. You are her baby and she is looking out for you!

I'm glad Rocket is enjoying being outdoors, even if it is cold. He has his coat, after all. Have a good evening, and I hope you can find a Nanner in Calgary!

Hugs,
Ella & Rusty
 
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thanks for listening guys...

i think my mom is going thru her own fear of what my sister may/may not have...it is her daughter....and i know it all too well she cares for me too...but i think she sees Rocket as having had a good long life and for me to get on with my life per se...hard to tell...i know she means well but probably doesn't understand that it hurts more no matter what she tells me to comfort me....

i have not been to visit my family in 4 yrs...my folks are the ones that come here to visit instead....and they have seen what it takes to care for Rocket...though they tell me they understand it is foreign to them...as per my siblings...i know all too well they would not be putting that much care into their dogs...cause to them their dogs are not their children...and they think i'm nuts by going above and beyond for my two fur-kids....

they don't get it....and they never will....

i once told myself when i first got Rocket that no matter what i would give him the best care i possibly could...same for Comet...and i have so far....

i got an email from a friend telling me to put Rocket out of his misery that he had suffered long enough...and that it was better now this way i can start my grieving process...perhaps she meant well...i know she is a very nice lady...but those words were hurtful...as i think i'm not putting him thru suffering nor have i ever put him thru suffering...doing subq fluids have provided him a better quality of life as his kidneys are not doing the job they're supposed to...that to me it's not putting him thru suffering...

i'd be the first one to say good bye to Rocket if i knew he was suffering as that is not what i want for him....but he right now is still doing the Rocket things he does...going to the balcony though cold outside tells me he wants fresh air and looks at the birds flying by...sees squirrels on the trees and watches people go by....if he was in pain and suffering he would not be doing that...at least i don't think he would...correct me if i'm wrong...or if i'm seeing things that shouldn't be there...

i'm venting today...sorry for doing that...but i know you guys understand....i'm already a mess knowing the outcome of his diagnosis....i just don't need people (be it friends or family) telling me he is suffering and to put him out of his misery...it hurts knowing what is coming though they may mean well they don't realize that right now i don't wish to hear stuff like that....

i count each day i have Rocket and Comet as a blessing....they have both giving me so much without asking for anything in return...and that to me is more valuable than what money can buy....i better stop cause i'm all teary now....and probably not making sense anymore
 
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((((Claudia)))) vent away, that is what support groups are for.

It is really hard for other people to understand what we are doing, and why. We love all of our pets, but there is something even more special about the bond we have with our sugar babies. I know for sure if Rocket was suffering, you would be the first to know it and you would do something about it.
 
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never thought i'd be happy seeing yellow....but this will be good for today...i take it...

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stocked up on different kinds of food today...so the flavour of the afternoon seems to be the turkey and giblets (Friskies)....see how long that lasts....

keeping WCF in my prayers on the loss of Meowzi...this year has been sad with so many losses here at FDMB...and i'd like to add that i'm keeping Chris as she still mourns the loss of both her kitties...Harry and Cleo
 
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As others have said, vent away. We get it -- maybe others who should understand don't. You're among like-minded friends here.

FWIW, making unsupportive and in some cases, down right stupid comments are not relegated to what others say about our kitties. My sister has been going through some very serious health issues and it's appalling what some family members have said to her.
 
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this is definitely the place for understanding what you are going through...

oddly enough...my sis that is going through so much is always the first to ask about Binks...and i'd be lost if i didnt have the antics between him and her two kitties to entertain her with!

as promised, i posted the links to those two funny days in Binksy's condo...I hope nobody feels it's inappropriate as it is a sad day on the forum...but i think we could all use a laugh today..

and you'll have a whole new view of Pat! :lol:
 
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Claudia,
I always go to Hawaii to see my daughter and granddaughters in the winter--until this winter, when Tessie got diabetes in November. My daughter has been really understanding about it, but some of my family think I'm crazy not to "board her" at the vets and go see my only child and grandchildren. It is difficult, but there is no way I can leave Tessie Lou right now with all she's going through. She depends on me, and we have become so close through this. I try to just take things one day at a time. Things happen for a reason, and I believe as long as we listen to--and act from--our hearts, we'll never have regrets. You are doing simply amazing, and I really admire how you are handling this. Rocket is a lucky boy to have you. I love to picture him out on that balcony all bundled up and soaking up sun and fresh air. :-D
Hugs,
Sandy and Tessie Lou
 
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Hi Claudia - there isn't much more that I can add to what others have already said - it is all true, and I agree with them all. There are those that simply do not understand what we beans go through. I wish they did, but doubt they never will. Try not to take their unkind words to heart - they just do not understand.

I loved the image of Rocket on the balcony in his bed, catching the breeze. How wonderful is that!

You have a good rest of the night. As alwasy, you are in our thoughts. I am sorry I missed you on FB tonight: the app was open, but I was away.
 
i can't believe we are seeing blue tonight....this is good and we are celebrating...and yes he wanted to go out on the balcony this late at night...it is 11:45 pm and he is out there....meaning...he is still the Rocket i know...feisty...giving me attitude...so while i type this Dh is looking out to see Rocket is ok on the balcony....i know time may be running out with Rocket but i'm enjoying EVERY MINUTE of it with him...even if he gives me attitude...

thanks guys for understanding...i know i can come here and vent away...i know my folks and family don't get it....i know you guys do...

it warms my heart knowing he wants to still go out there on the balcony....i love my boy....oh so dearly....
+6 139...he ate ok too...which is good
 
Claudia & Rocket said:
i can't believe we are seeing blue tonight....this is good and we are celebrating...and yes he wanted to go out on the balcony this late at night...it is 11:45 pm and he is out there....meaning...he is still the Rocket i know...feisty...giving me attitude...so while i type this Dh is looking out to see Rocket is ok on the balcony....i know time may be running out with Rocket but i'm enjoying EVERY MINUTE of it with him...even if he gives me attitude...

thanks guys for understanding...i know i can come here and vent away...i know my folks and family don't get it....i know you guys do...

it warms my heart knowing he wants to still go out there on the balcony....i love my boy....oh so dearly....
+6 139...he ate ok too...which is good

Wonderful news! One thing our kitties teach us is to "live in the moment." ENJOY!!!
 
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