2/14 Ruben pmbg 129 +3 126

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RubenTheCat

RubenTheCat

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so happy valentines everybody
amps 122 best valentine i could ask for
i have to get a +3 or +4 and hope and pray it is a nice green or blue number!!
so just to keep everybody up to date...bf lost it last night when i went to post ruben pmps (why i didnt get a +3, we were to busy fighting)
long story short, he wants out of the relationship, he sick of me being in my own world..(meaning ruben)
who knows if he's serious, i honesly think he is, we do not play the make up brake up game and have been together 14yrs. i'm not ready to make this change but i can confidently say i will choose ruben over him every single time, i thought he knew i would, but when when push came to shove i think he thought i wouldn't.
this will be hard and sucks this is happening on valentines day, but ruben is the best valentine i could ask for. ruben constantly teaches me lessons, thank you ruben for not letting me waste another 14yrs spinning my wheels with a man who doesnt really love me.
i hope everybody has a great valentines day, please send some good vines this way, all my focus is on ruben so good numbers this afternoon would be healing not just for him but for me too. if i have to move out i need him well enough to handle the stress of it.
thanks guys for letting me vent.
 
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Sending you good thoughts:) I hope everything works out and hope you and Ruben have a good day and good numbers!
 
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Bummer that your EX bf is a jerk - especially after 14yrs. That's quite an investment! If he can't understand your bond with Reuben then good riddance - maybe he's jealous that he's not getting all that attention? You get what you give, I always say. Be strong - there's other fish in the sea and they don't all stink!
 
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Very nice start for Ruben today!

I'm so sorry about your BF, and it's easy for an outsider to say this, but even though it will be hard and complicated, it does sound like moving on is the best move for you, Ruben, and Maple. You deserve someone who loves and appreciates you, and sees how much you love those who can't help themselves. Compassion like that is rare, and if BF can't see and appreciate that, then he doesn't deserve you.

Take care of yourself and your kitties, Sam. You've got all the strength you need with their love!
 
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Maybe the BF just needs some TLC. You know how men are and their egos (lol). Sometimes they need to feel they are the center of your world.. even if they arent ;)

Lovely blue numbers BTW. Hows his appetite?
 
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thank you guys, i dont have a big social nework and these votes of confidence helps very much. very afraid of the unknown but just have to have faith. any prayers for me, please use for ruben, he is my ultimate strength. i find i can fight for him more than i can for myself sometimes. ((((((((((((fdmb))))))))))))))))
 
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this is all new to me, Sabrina, kids (24 & 22) & hubby....we'll be married 25 yrs & together for 40 ohmygod_smile Hubby is outright annoyed my allmost full attention is on Sabrina now :cry: We were supposed to go away for presidents day weekend, but he says I'm too involved with Sabrina......I'll be making a nice Valentine's dinner to smooth things over & maybe, just maybe he'll start to understand :!: Hang in there & my best to you & Ruben cat_pet_icon Cindy & Sabrina cat_pet_icon
 
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Happy Valentine's Day, Sam,
In case you haven't already been told that this morning.

I could understand if he were jealous over some other guy, or maybe felt you were spending too much time at your job or some other thing that kept you away from home.

But jealous over a cat? That's messed up. Screams "insecurity" to me. If he'd take part in this, it would bring you closer together, not tear you apart. After 14 years, he should "know you" and be able to figure that out.

I will tell you just what I told my daughter far too many times before she met and married my son-in-law, and some idiot broke her heart....
"Boys SUCK!!! But someday, you will find a man".

I'm sorry he had to pull this crap the night before V-Day.

Hugs,
Carl
 
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Sorry to hear about your boyfriend not understanding. It can be difficult for your s.o. to adjust to the demands of a sugar kitty. My DH, while always supportive, was annoyed at how care taking would consume my life at times. I've backed out of several social events because I needed to stay home and test, called in sick to work (I am a professor so this is a big deal) and he couldn't understand what the big emergency was. He is much better now, and though he probably still thinks I am an obsessive cat lady, he doesn't say anything. If I stay up late testing, he doesn't pester me to go to bed anymore, etc.

I hope you are able to work things out! 14 years is a long time to be with someone and a huge investment to walk away from. However, if there are other issues within the relationship, then perhaps this is just the proverbial straw? I admire your positive attitude, though, and can tell you will make the right decision for you!
 
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thank you guys, just waiting it out, my gut tells me leaving is the right thing to do, but my own fear of the unknown has kept far longer than i should have stayed. one day at a time for now, all that matters is ruben stays on this healing path, think it would kill me at the moment if something happen to ruben, he is my strength. my love for him will get me throught this, send big vines for his recovery and that he stays in low numbers.
carl a special :YMHUG: for you. you have that fatherly quality that makes me feel better inside. you touch that little girl inside that just wants safety, comfort and love. your daugher is lucky to have you.
can you and marje adopt ruben and i? ;-) :-D you guys make it all better, what ever it is.
thank you all for investing in this ridiculous post, its about the kitties here and for all of you to take time to encourage me means a lot to me. ultimately this is about ruben, i choose him and need him well in order to make a move.
 
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+3 95 ( but didn't eat much at breakfast. still happy tho, tried to feed him at +3 only ate a little again offered treat and he ate that so maybe he's just not that hungry gonna monitor him. have to go to moms for about 3-4hrs. leaving both cats out so won't be able to see who ate what but trying to feel ok about it
 
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came home not sure if he ate, but offered treat and he took it so that made me feel a bit better. talked to my mom about moving in, she's ready when i am all i have to do is say the word. we'll see how tonight goes :YMSIGH: keep sending healing and eating vines to ruben, its all riding on him, i will not move out if he is not stable enough. all i do know is stress can be a big cause of pancreatitus and i do not want to uproot him and cause illness or have his diabetis go haywire. plus all my symptoms get worse when he's not well.
focusing on good things and trying to see all the positives in my life.......((((((((((((((fdmb)))))))))))))))))))) being one of the biggest, love you guys
 
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Healing vines for poor Ruben! I am so sorry you are going through all of this, especially on V day. :YMHUG: Try to get some rest and have a great night!
 
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Silly boy (the BF, not Ruben). Doesn't he realize that what he's seeing is how you care for those beings that mean something to you? If he were ill, you'd give him attention, too.
 
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you guys are all so supportive and i cant tell you the strength i draw from knowing you guys are behind me and see the person i am. i tried to tell him my love for ruben is an example of how i would be for him if he got ill and he just threw out some stupid comment about how i wouldn't notice if he was cause i'd be wrapped up in my own world w ruben. just all more reason of why i put all my love in ruben. he'd never treat me this way.
all i ask is still pray for ruben no prayers for me give them to ruben, if i feel he is well enough i will be able to leave.
 
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Hi Rubens Mom, I'm a fellow newbie! I hate that you have to deal with this on top of getting Ruben well, doesn't timing suck!!!!
I got my sweet Molly when I was single. She is very much a scaredey one woman cat. I met my husband who was divorced with 3 boys...now my adorable step sons. When we got together I told him that Molly was the most important thing in my life and I could forsee that she would be eventually more challenging than the boys...I was right!!!! This diabetes trip has been challenging particularly as Molly will not let my DH near her, so I am solely responsible for her. If she remains on Insulin then our lives together will be greatly changed. We can't take the boys away for the weekend and turn on her automatic timer etc. However...we are in this together thick and thin. he has put up with me becoming the neurotic momma and the bossy wife (check her water dish...give her food...how much did she eat!!!!). Ourfamily life has had a massive upheaval, but I believe we need to get to a point where this is a normal routine and not the main focus...for everybodys sanity!
My point is.....if you were strong together before this...you can work together 14 years is a long time!! If there were cracks...then reevaluate, but give yourself time to do this rationally for as much as I hate to say this...people stay in our lifes for many years after our pets and they are the ones we will need to lean on when the sad times occur.
sending you (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) Lesley :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
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thank you lesley, the fact tha he has been so awful and unsupportive in this makes me think i can't lean on him, so right now im focusing on getting ruben well enought to leave and if in the process there is healing in the relaionship then ill stay, but all that matters is getting ruben well
thank you. all the advise is taken andmeans a lot to me. wish i was stronger, but i am working on it. one day at a time.
 
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Song for the Day

Just for you.....Happy Valentines Day.

And I think we can start calling this an OTJ trial since 2/11 so tomorrow will be day 5.

Just continue what you are doing. But here are the actual OTJ Trial instructions:


Test at your normal AMPS and PMPS times. Feed multiple small meals throughout the day as much as possible (small meals are less likely to overwhelm a newly functioning pancreas).

If Ruben is green at your normal test times, no need to test further until the next "PS" time, just feed small meals and go about your day. If he is blue, feed a small meal and test again after about 3 hours. If his number is lower 3-4 hours after a meal, then his pancreas is working!

If, after 2 weeks Ruben has stayed in normal numbers, we have a party!

Sometimes the trial doesn't work the first time and we have to give a little more support in the form of resuming insulin. It's not the end of the world if that happens, we just give him the support he needs. Our goal is a strong remission and it's better to take our time to get that than to rush into remission just to have it fail later on.

Congratulations and Good Luck!!!!!!
 
pmbg 129 +3 126 <i'll take it.
bf came home and acted like nothing happened. I am the eternal peace maker so i just rolled with it. again im focusing on ruben being well, once that happens ill be able to move forward. i know what i need to do, but can only do it when i feel ruben is in safe remission.
think im gonna go do a dance to my new anthem-love you marje!!
 
Congratulations Sam!

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I will send more info in a PM.
 
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