GA 12/21 - Wynken, sweet angel forever

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Oh Cara :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:

So very sorry to hear that it was Wynken's time to leave you, but so glad you were with him to say Goodbye and send him on his final journey

This has been a horrid year for LL kitties.....so many have left us.....but Wynken will have lots of old friends at the Bridge to welcome him and keep him company until the one he loves most comes to be with him forever.
Fly free sweet Wynken and land softly cat_wings>o

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I'm so sorry for your loss (((((((((((Cara)))))))))) I know how much it hurts.
Know that Wyken knows how much you love him and is in a very good place right now.
He will be waiting for you, to join him, one fine day.
Big Tears, for you.
 
I am so very sorry... it is never easy, but Wynken thanks you for your decision. Many hugs for you. Know that he will be forever with you, his paw prints will remain forever upon your heart. Fly free little one, land softly at the Bridge.
 
Cara, I am so very sorry to read that it was Wynken's time to go to the rainbow bridge.
I was glad you were able to be with him as he crossed. He was surrounded with love.
This is the hardest of days for you.
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Land softly sweet Wynken:rb_icon:
 
Cara, I'm so sorry it was time for Wynken to leave. Had the exact situation with Smokey in October. After they evaluated and inserted catheter, bought him to us and gave us time with him. They came back and asked if I was ready. All I could do was sob no but Smokey was ready.

It is the kindest, most loving unselfish act to give our babies. Setting them free from pain and failing body.

Prayers and hugs for you. :bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
((((Cara))))

I am so very, very sorry for your losses this year but especially for the loss of your sweet Wynken. Letting them go is never, ever easy but it's the last act and gift of love we can show them when they are ready. We form an extra special bond with our sugar kitties. There are too many of us here who understand this loss and the ensuing change to our lives when we are no longer caring for our sweet babies.

Fly free, sweet Wynken.

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Dear (((Cara))),
Wynken is at peace and content because he knows how much you loved him. All of our GAs are gathering around him, welcoming him to the Bridge. He is "in good paws" there until that wonderful day when you will meet again.
Fly free, sweet Wynken. Watch over your family and send a sign that all is well. You are much loved.

In deepest sympathy,
Ella & Edward, Rusty, and Stu (GA)
 
Cara, I am so sorry you have lost your sweet Wynken. What a caring, wonderful Mom you were for him - always looking for the best care for him. Of course, he knew how much you loved him, and was grateful every day for his loving home, sunny places to sleep, good treats to eat and your warm lap to cuddle up in for pets. You can be so proud for the way you have always cared for and about him, and the wonderful life you gave him. I hope, someday soon, the memories you have will give you joy and peace and smiles.
 
Oh Cara! I am so so sorry to hear this. You were such a wonderful mom to Wynken and you did so much for him. He knew always how much you loved him, as did we.

You gave him the best life he could have and you made the best decision in the end. It's so hard, I know, but it was the right thing to do.

Sending you many hugs my sweet friend...please take care of yourself now. Let us know if you need anything at all...and remember we're here to listen if you feel like talking. But don't feel tempted to try to reply to us all personally...it isn't necessary. :bighug:
 
:arghh:I appreciate so much all your kind messages - they have been like balm to my raw heart. I found today REALLY HARD. :(

Almost every other kitty I have ever lost had been in decline, and over 17 years old. So this was a SHOCK. Still feels unreal.

One kitty death was somewhat unexpected (aggressive cancer, found after she turned 17, and had been feeling poorly even with "ok" bloodwork) But I had almost 3weeks with her (my Bat Girl) after diagnosis, and could prepare.

The image that came to me today was of a physical person in a black cloak showing up at my house and GRABBING Wynken and STEALING him- running off into the distance. I am so MAD at that. :mad: It's like he was stolen by a bad person. :banghead: I want to scream "Too young!"

I am in so much turmoil too because for about 15 months I have been working at getting a job / transfer to Denver.... Massive perseverance in working every angle to make that happen... So, TODAY (of all days) I was called and offered the position I needed to get. :eek::nailbiting::confused::po_O:blackeye::):arghh: This is the gamut of emotions I was feeling, after that call. How could this good news come to me EXACTLY 26 hours after saying goodbye to my precious baby Wynken at 1pm yesterday?!?! They called me at 3pm today.

I'm not even happy. I'm angry and numb. And then I'm sobbing because he will never see the beautiful place I picked out and bought 4 years ago, to move to, with he and Blynken in mind (and all the other kitties too). I've waited so long for this and the last year has been a huge effort to "get there"... And now it's here. Will move in February....

Blynken, who has slways spent nearly every minute around him for over 13 years (litter mates) is really missing him tonight, I can tell... OF COURSE. I am trying to hold her and play with her hard to tire her out with the red laser dot... Which she loves, but she is feeling lonely and it's breaking my heart.

I am usually the strong one and people turn to me for help, advice, support, and I mostly stuff emotions and hide my feelings... And just keep going...

But this is crazy... Wynken is gone and now (finally-yay???) I get my job and need to gear up to move. I think I may unravel....
 
Cara and Wynken said:
he will never see the beautiful place I picked out and bought 4 years ago
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Of course he'll see it....just not in the way you had planned

Congratulations on the job....as hard as you worked to get it, I hope you can take some pride and enjoyment in it soon, but we all understand how conflicted you have to be right now.

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Dear Cara, I can only imagine the emotions you had today with saying goodbye to Wynken. Perhaps the universe is giving you the "gift" of the job you have so diligently prepared for to help you stay busy and to NOT unravel. Are you able to take some time off between now and the new job to help get back to an even keel and be able to forge ahead with strength and confidence?

As always, lots and lots of hugs and vines of support and comfort.
 
Chris & China said:
Of course he'll see it....just not in the way you had planned

Congratulations on the job....as hard as you worked to get it, I hope you can take some pride and enjoyment in it soon, but we all understand how conflicted you have to be right now.

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Chris, that is an interesting way of thinking of it... Will have to give it more thought. And I know I will be happy about the job sometime, just not now. Too empty.... Thank you !
 
Bobbie And Bubba said:
Dear Cara, I can only imagine the emotions you had today with saying goodbye to Wynken. Perhaps the universe is giving you the "gift" of the job you have so diligently prepared for to help you stay busy and to NOT unravel. Are you able to take some time off between now and the new job to help get back to an even keel and be able to forge ahead with strength and confidence?

As always, lots and lots of hugs and vines of support and comfort.
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Thank you so much Bobbie! I actually do have some time off… Starting tomorrow and I'm going to be flying out to meet my fiancé in Denver for Christmas and New Year's. I will be back on the third. I'm sure that being away from the house and having the cat sitter take care of all the kitties will allow me some relief… she is the best cat sitter in the world! The absolute Epitome of what you would want a cat sitter to do for your babies… I am a lucky lucky woman in that regard.

Other than I am going to be extremely worried about little Blynken.
 
Kathy and TiTi said:
This is so hard. We've all been in your shoes, and understand the special hurt and pain, when we must let go. Wynken is free now. But his love for you will remain in your heart forever.
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Thanks, Kathy. Trying to feel him but mostly coming up bereft. Every grief for me has been different. The amount of outrage with this one has surprised me ... All just stages, I guess.
 
Cara, I found it hard to witness Max's civie Milly's grief when Max was PTS - I remember posting about it on the grief forum - but Milly did adjust, and we found a new 'normal'.
Moving is stressful at any time, and right now it would be hard to contemplate more change, but I hope the new job opportunity and location really work out for you :bighug:
 
sarahtee said:
Cara, I found it hard to witness Max's civie Milly's grief when Max was PTS - I remember posting about it on the grief forum - but Milly did adjust, and we found a new 'normal'.
Moving is stressful at any time, and right now it would be hard to contemplate more change, but I hope the new job opportunity and location really work out for you :bighug:
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Sarah, thank you from my heart... I see that you posted this exactly one year after losing your sweet Max. :bighug:

Blynken is my primary concern now... And I just hate to leave on the 25th for 10 days because all I want to do is hold her... She and Wynk lived seperate from my other cats. As deaf litter mates they never integrated with the others and enjoyed a large sunporch and outdoor enclosure. So now, she is really alone, knowing only him. :(

I may need to figure something out for her in the new year so she is not so alone...

The other civvies are stable so it's ok to leave them for a few days (mostly... I do have a young girl with a huge mammary tumor). I have an amazing cat sitter who loves all of them as much as I do.

I know this morning that we will all be alright. Thanks again.
 
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Bobbie And Bubba said:
You probably don't need another cat, but what about adopting Blyken her own little kittie to be with just her on the sun porch?
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Bobbie-

Yes! I want another cat, or 7.... Especially would love to adopt a diabetic cat in need, through DCIN. But with the impending move and everything it would not be fair to the rest, or to the wonderful man I'm finally (after 6 years!) going to marry soon. He's so supportive and loving with all the cats I HAVE, but it would be quite another thing to adopt one (or 7) more, like I would like to.... ;)

Meanwhile, I'm so happy to have a temporary solution, maybe... My cousin helped me find this online last night and I ordered it to be here TOMORROW before I leave:

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I ordered the white one of course. I'm hoping that just looking over at it will reassure her. I plan to have the sitter move it occasionally to different places he liked to lay.

She and I spent a long time together this morning. The sitter will too....
 
Cara and Wynken said:
Bobbie-

Yes! I want another cat, or 7.... Especially would love to adopt a diabetic cat in need, through DCIN. But with the impending move and everything it would not be fair to the rest, or to the wonderful man I'm finally (after 6 years!) going to marry soon. He's so supportive and loving with all the cats I HAVE, but it would be quite another thing to adopt one (or 7) more, like I would like to.... ;)

Meanwhile, I'm so happy to have a temporary solution, maybe... My cousin helped me find this online last night and I ordered it to be here TOMORROW before I leave:

Joy for Cats

I ordered the white one of course. I'm hoping that just looking over at it will reassure her. I plan to have the sitter move it occasionally to different places he liked to lay.

She and I spent a long time together this morning. The sitter will too....
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That is an awesome solution!!!!! I hope that it comforts her!

And I want to say congrats for the upcoming nuptials! How wonderful that he is a cat lover too.
 
Cara and Wynken said:
Thanks, Kathy. Trying to feel him but mostly coming up bereft. Every grief for me has been different. The amount of outrage with this one has surprised me ... All just stages, I guess.
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You feel cheated; so have I at times, and the accompanying anger tends to mask everything else.
But don't worry, because that mask will blur and vanish. Your heart will re-appear. Wynken's love for you will triumph.
 
Cara - this is all such a massive turn of events - it's hard to wrap one's head around this
It does seem like some kind of message from the universe - such sorrow with losing Wynken so unexpectedly but then such incredible relief the move now settled and the job came through (maybe it was Wynken nudging it along) and getting married to this great guy. Wow!!
Is there any way to take Blynken with you to Denver for the 10 day trip?
 
Dear Cara,
I'm fairly new to LL and I apologize for not writing when I first read your condo about Wynken. I felt such heartbreak for you and also the memory of a similar recent experience, that I could not put thoughts into words.

Our near 24 year old Maine Coon, Bo, joined the spirits in October, within a week or so after he became partially paralyzed (both hind legs and one front leg) by what might have been either a clot or spinal tumor. Each beloved and each situation is unique. But the time alas always comes for us to make choices, the hardest of choices because of the love shared, and with the deepest of love and respect for our beloved. I believe that they know and cherish that we are honoring the pact we make together to not suffer.

Your love made Wynken's life in this world joyful. That same love makes his journey in the next life lighter. That love will always be with him and with the Universe of all spirit.

There are times when I crumble in tears missing Bo when I realize that I am preparing one less dish, his. I haven't yet been able to put away his favorite cuddle toys. But he is also a joyful presence, a great comfort.

I hope I am not upsetting you. The passages of loss and grieving are so tender and oft tenuous.

You are a wonderful mom to your Wynken. And as I have experienced in these months in LL and in many crises including Bo's passing, we are not alone in these journeys. Blessings abound even in sorrow.
With hugs heart and vines for sweet dreams.
Sina
 
HWright said:
I hope I am not upsetting you. The passages of loss and grieving are so tender and oft tenuous.

You are a wonderful mom to your Wynken. And as I have experienced in these months in LL and in many crises including Bo's passing, we are not alone in these journeys. Blessings abound even in sorrow.
With hugs heart and vines for sweet dreams.
Sina
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Sina...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I am so very sorry for your loss of Bo! How incredible that he was 24 years old…. It doesn't seem to matter how long we have with them, it is never enough! You are correct, though… That we are not alone. I have lived alone for over 15 years, but I have found many like-minded and like spirited people online. There are not very many people where I live and work that totally understand the way I feel about my cats, like the people do here.
I do have three close girlfriends that think I'm a little crazy to have this many cats… And I probably am! But they are very supportive and very loving when I have a loss.

I appreciate what you wrote, it was very sweet.

Cara
 
I apologize for not offering my condolences sooner.

As cat lovers, all we can hope to do is to give them the best life possible during their pit stop on Earth. From what I can read, Wynk enjoyed a beautiful and joyous life with you. And when the time came to move on, he was blessed to be surrounded by your presence, in a serene place, and to have your boundless love light the way to the next part of his grand adventure.

He'll forever be your Christmas angel.

Fly free sweet Wynk. Make sure to let your mama know that you're checking in on her from time to time :rb_icon:
 
@Cara and Wynken (GA) I am new to this site and I did not get to know you or Wynken. But I feel the love and heart break you are sharing. Maybe Wynken knew he wouldn't make the trip with you and you may have missed the opprutunity and all the hard work if he'd stayed. I believe the universe knows what we need and definitely our fur babies kmow. Maybe this was his gift to you too. Wynken will see this beautiful place you have chosen, you just have to take him with you. I still talk to my fur guardian, and she's been gone since 2011. Warmest hugs and healing light to your broken heart.
 
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