12/10 Tom - Vines needed - update: doing well!

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Sonia & Tom (GA)

Sonia & Tom (GA)

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What are the signs? Tom has been licking and pulling at his genitals since last night. I have tried to follow him to the litter but I have not seen him go.

Tried to feel his blatter, hard to tell if its full. Doesn't seem particularly hard.

I'm worried. Think I will call the vet see if they can see him

ETA got the date wrong. Where is my brain?
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Urinary blockage?

Calling the vet is the best thing you can do if you suspect a blockage. Let us know what the vet says.....
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Urinary blockage? it's not...

He is seriously constipated. Damn. Why didn't I see that?

Vet looked at his mass, it's grown under the tongue. He can't move it well. He's in pain. Do you think he still wants to fight?

I do. But I don't want him in pain. Taking more bupe home. Waiting for estimate. They will keep him overnight.
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Urinary blockage? it's not...

$1500 wow. Sticker shock.
They have to put him under, fingers crossed he'll make it through... We don't have much time left in any event. So s upset right now.
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Urinary blockage? it's not...

We are sending lots of healing energy your way for Tom and hugs for you. :YMHUG:
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

DD and I are back home. Cried all the way back in the car. Wish DH was with us but he works retail and, well, It's December.

Tom is dehydrated. He's in pain cause of the constipation but also because of his tongue. They tried to see if they could manually extract but they couldn't. They are putting him on an IV now, will do xrays and sedate him later tonight and clear the blockage. Sedation is not ideal at his age and conditions but I am not letting him go now for constipation. I feel it's my fault. We are having it done, hopefully he will get through it, and then we take him home for a few more days of time together.
Then it will be time to let him go.
God I am balling my eyes out as I'm typing this.

I feel guilty. Really guilty. I was having a very difficult time giving him squids. I should have fought him harder. Heck, I weigh a lot more than him. He didn't need this additional pain.

Vet will call later to let me know how it went. Please send all the positive vibes you can
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Sonia please don't be hard on yourself...you are doing so much and Tom knows that. :YMHUG: The main thing is you have Tom in a safe place and he is getting help. Sending prayers and healing vines to you both. Please keep us updated when you can. Tom's a fighter and he'll fight his best to get well. Take care of yourself tonight, you'll have a lot to do when Tom comes home.
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Oh, Sonia...this is not your fault and you should not waste a moment feeling that way.
Tom loves you, and you are a wonderful caregiver.

Binks, the girls, and I are sending combined concentrated prayers and healing energy for Handsome Tom...

Hang in there, buddy...we're with you all the way!

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Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Tom hasn't told you that it's his time. He will let you know. In the meantime, sending lots of vines and good thoughts.
 
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Please don't beat yourself up with guilt, you are doing the best you can for Tom. It is easy to look back and see what you would do differently now, but it's not fair to hold yourself to that standard. Hope you get Tom home soon and can have some more time together. Take care of yourself.
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Sending the strongest of vines to Tom, that he makes it through the procedure and that makes him feel so much better.
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Sienne and Gabby said:
Tom hasn't told you that it's his time. He will let you know. In the meantime, sending lots of vines and good thoughts.
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Sienne, I have never done this before. How will I know? I don't think it's now. He is cuddly, purry. Follows us around. I dont't see it yet. But i hate to think he's in pain. How do we know to not take it too far?
I'm struggling with this. Right now, I need to focus on him coming through and coming home tomorrow.
My bed is going to be so empty. Only 2 humans and 2 cats...Tom usually sleeps between DH and I on the pillow...
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

He's your heart-mate, Sonia...

you'll know.

But I agree with Sienne...this is not a cat who's ready....

celi
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

You will know. Tom will tell you. We have a saying on the horse forum I frequent, "Better a day too soon than an hour too late." But I think the animals do tell us when it's time to stop fighting.

(((hugs))) to you and Tom.
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

((((Sonia))))
i too struggle with that....the not knowing....never been thru that myself....so i don't know what to look for....so rather than letting time go by trying to figure it out....i just LOVE LOVE LOVE Rocket each and every moment i have him with me....and i tell him that....

so....

don't blame yourself.....
and....
LOVE him every minute you have him.....

you will never get those precious moments back.....

so no guilt....just abundance in LOVE for TOM!

sending prayers your way and for Tom to make it thru this set back....and it does sound like he is a fighter....so help him fight....
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Regarding how to know if its time, if you are keeping him around for you and not for him, you know. If you know he will still have some days where he can be okay then its for the both of you. Every single day is a gift.

When my Dad was diagnosed terminal, I kept praying for one more day. Then a day came, where it wasn't for him anymore. I prayed for God to take him quickly. We can't help our human family members. But if I could have I would have helped my Dad get to Heaven. I know from that experience I will be strong enough for Nike if she needs me but saying goodbye is so hard. Before losing my Dad, I don't think I would have been strong enough.

Its never ever long enough though. No matter how long they are with us.

Wish I could give you a real hug. Listen to your heart.

Karrie
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

Sonia, you will know because Tom will tell you. He will know how. Until that time, just cherish every moment with your kitty.
Thinking of you tonight, praying that the procedure will go well for Tom, and hoping that he will be home with you tomorrow. Lots of healing vines are on the way to Tom tonight.

Many hugs :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:

Ella & Rusty
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

((((((Tom)))))) (((((((Sonia))))))

I am sending all the very best healing vibes for Tom. I too think Tom will tell you when it's time.

Tom my friend, I hope you start feeling better soon. I wanted to tell you that I got a KISS shirt too cuz I wanted to be just like you.
Leo
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed

(((Sonia)))

I am sending all of my thoughts and prayers for Tom to come home and spend more time with his family for as long as he can. In my experience, if you are still asking if it is time, it isn't. There will come a time when you know in your heart what he is telling you. You are his Mom, and you will know.

(((Tom)))
 
Re: 12/9 Tom - Vines needed - update: doing well!

He got fluids then they sedated him and got him cleared up. He's awake and apparently feels much better now. :-D
I was waiting by the phone. DD woke up when she heard it and asked for an update too. Poor girl, she was so upset but such a great support for me. What a life learning experience for a 7 year old.

Vet will call again in the morning and we should be picking him up. Will get bupe too.

Thank you all awesome board friends. You're the best.
 
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