12/06 Caturday

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Dyana

Dyana

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J.D. Went To Heaven

Thanksgiving was good. It was good to be with my own kind. Thank yous to Deb and Dian for letting us visit. And it was great to see K.C. and Eleanor. And I always love seeing Deb's mom and Dian's mom.

I took Ginger to PetsMart today in the rain (which she hated going out in) to get her picture taken with her Christmas Dress.

If you go to the Full Cold Moon Party tonight, and if you see J.D., please tell him I miss him, and I love him so much.

Ginger has been aloof, and the Christmas Tree was put up today in a different location to try to change the memories.

On the ride to Deb's house and back there were times when I looked over at Ginger and she was looking directly into my eyes, but I was driving and could not linger there.

That's all.
 
We understand, these times are hard, the loss seems so near the surface. :YMHUG:

Tillie would LOVE to see Ginger in her holiday dress!

Anne
 
I'm glad you had a good Thanksgiving. I bet Ginger looks great in her Christmas dress. Sending more prayers and hugs. :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
(((Dyana and Ginger)))) I'm glad you had a good Thanksgiving with friends- sending more prayers and hugs your way :YMHUG: :YMHUG: Would love to see Ginger's picture in her Christmas dress!
 
i'm glad to see a Caturday update from you! I also can't wait to see Ginger in her holiday finery! :-D It's sweet that she was meeting your eyes - maybe she was trying to send you a psychic message.

It's good to take time for yourself - as much as you need. :YMHUG:
 
((((Dyana)))),
I've been thinking of you and am very glad to hear that you and Ginger had a good Thanksgiving visit with Deb, Dian and the group. Ginger may act aloof, but she sounds very perceptive. She has to deal with J.D.'s passing in her own way.

The kitties are getting everything set up for the Full Cold Moon party. They'll be communicating with their pal J.D. for sure.
Rusty is delighted that Ginger will be there and that she'll be wearing her new Holiday dress.

Hugs and scritches, lots of both!

Ella & Rusty
 
((((((Dyana)))))) It's good to se a condo from you. I'm so glad you could be w/ friends at Thanksgiving. Tess says that will all look for J.D. at the circle of remembrance and give you a ful report on how handsome he looks in his bow tie.
 

Here's an old picture of Ginger in her Christmas Dress.

The PetsMart one didn't come out that well, and she was a wiggly worm and I began to feel sorry for the photographer.
I watched for a while the gray cat that was getting his picture taken after us, with the flashing red plastic ball on his nose, but he was a wiggily worm too, and eventually I wandered off and bought Ginger a couple of cans of High Carb Fancy Feast as a treat for her.

Last night, I didn't sleep much at all. I was watching T.V. in the Living Room and Ginger came out of the Bed Room at about 2:20am and jumped up onto the couch and laid next to me, for almost and hour! She was facing the back of the couch and would not look at me. Whenever her face was turned my way, her eyes were closed. She did knead on me for about a minute or two, just like her and J.D. used to do to each other, and like J.D. used to do to me. It was nice.
 
Ginger is so adorable in her Christmas dress. I'm glad you go to spend some special time with her last night. :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
Ginger is very entertaining, she is so social! Her Christmas dress is stunning. I can't believe that she likes to wear it. And her trips to Petsmart crack me up. I guess to be still for a photo was too much, even for her. We are adjusting to a new normal, too. It's hard because we sure miss our guy. It is getting a little easier though. Hugs to you, Dyana.
Liz
 
Ginger looks even more beautiful in her dress. She is quite a lady to be willing to wear it.

I think she is working through her grief, just as you are, and she will slowly become closer to you. Moments like the one on the couch are a sign that the healing is beginning.

Sending lots of comfort vines and hugs to you both! :YMHUG:
 
I don't have the "heart" to do anything. I have so much to do, and so much time on my hands, but just don't want to do anything because so little matters like it did before.

We did get the tree up yesterday, and it stands undecorated except for J.D.'s paw prints at the center of the tree.

I took Ginger out for a walk with her jacket on about an hour ago, and my neighbor (the one with the untrained yellow lab that tried to attack me and J.D. before) came out of her house (without the dog) and walked towards us out in the middle of the big lawn and said that she was sorry about my loss and asked "did you get a new cat?" because she didn't recognize Ginger in the jacket? I told her that I have been looking on PetFinder.com but (as is natural, I guess) keep looking for an exact replica of J.D.

I was PMing with Pat and Raja and Shadow and I agree with something she said. That Ginger needs time, first, before getting a new kitty. She spent her whole life being second. She needs time (maybe 6 months or so) to allow her a chance to be first kitty, which is something she has never known. She is 10 years old and for over 9 years J.D. was diabetic and got most of the attention including going on vacations with me while Ginger was left at home alone :( I owe it to her. She is a smart, wise, and sometimes loving cat.

I know 2 cats are better than 1, but I will do this for Ginger, for now, unless some little wee one that looks exactly like J.D. :) comes scratching at my door or into my life.

I ordered a 20 x 24? canvas print of this

from Photobucket.com (70% off today) and am going to put it up behind the Living Room couch. I am so glad I have so many pictures of J.D.

I hope I am healing. I do hear myself laughing out loud sometimes, and it kind of surprises me.
I must have cried gallons by now.

I thank you all :YMHUG: for your support during these sad times because with out all of you, I don't know what I would do.
 
happily, you have us.

i LOVE that picture of JD - it's going to look fantastic behind your sofa. Maybe I'll get one of punkin all blown up like that. I've got a lot of him too.

Ginger looks beautiful in her dress. that's so cute. I started to say something earlier about Anya and then changed my mind, but I'll go ahead. I love these kittens, but I feel for Anya. She too, played second fiddle to punkin and his needs. She was very happy getting a ton of attention and then i got these kittens thinking they would be good company for her. But they scare her and Frodo chases her. I see her always on guard with them around. She'll relax sometimes in my lap, but often she comes to get up on me and McGee is already there. In some ways I wish I'd waited a little longer for her sake. Just something to think about.

It sounds like Ginger is blooming right now.
 
((((Dyana & Ginger)))) Ginger looks absolutely adorable in that beautiful dress! I can't imagine Tiger sitting still for that for even one second. :roll: I love that picture of J.D. and it will look wonderful blown up large as a wall hanging!
 
I made this up just now of the two of them getting ready to snuggle in for the night.

And that is what I need to do now. I am sooooooo tired. Ni ~Ni.
 
It does sound like Ginger is blooming..... and ready to be a star .
I think waiting could be a good thing.



What a great picture to have center stage.
:YMHUG:
 
Dyana, No doubt that late night is catching up to you and I agree, Ginger is beginning to bloom, I love that picture of them snuggling! :YMHUG:
 
((((Dyana)))),
I know several people who have lost one of their kitties and found that the remaining kitty blossomed. I think you are so wise to wait a while before adopting. Ginger needs you and you need her. She looks beautiful in her holiday dresses. I'm so glad that she is wanting to be with you. She is healing and you are, too (although you may feel at loose ends). It takes time.

Thinking of you and sending hugs (and scritches for Ginger).

Ella & Rusty

p.s. The photo of J.D. is wonderful.
 
(((Dyana)))

I really enjoyed all the pictures you posted. I'm glad Ginger did cuddle with you a bit. Perhaps she just does need time to adjust to the changes. She also picks up on your grief.

I just wanted to say one thing about looking for a cat that looks like JD. It's been my experience over the years that it's better to find a cat that has nothing in common with JD. When we bring home a kitty thta looks like our sweet GA, we expect that kitty to also act like the GA and treat us the same way but it doesn't alwys happent that way and then we are left with kitty that looks like our beloved GA but is different.

Anyway...my two cents.
 
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