Hi Win! Is there a difference in your technique when you watch your dad do it? Whether it’s pressure, how much he warms the ear etc?
For us the biggest game changers were making sure the ear was warm, applying a very thin layer of Vaseline so that the blood doesn’t get absorbed by the fur especially since Moonie’s ears are black, and using a 26g gauge to start. I would also sing to Moonie as I did it and I think it would calm both of our nerves. I still do it now because I think it’s fun and she likes the bad singing
Good luck today! And even if you can’t get it today, it’s ok. Each failed poke will help Coco build up more capillaries and make it easier to bleed next time! Just make sure to apply pressure to her ear with a cotton pad each time until it stops bleeding so her little ears aren’t sore