Okay pretty girl lets make the boys come to you instead of paddling over to them on the sun deck. I know you missed Alska while his mommy was away but you have to set a good example for him. After all you are the old pro here at the Sugar Dance, so show them how it's done.
Please, please miss Autumn show Alska how it's done for he is getting tired of these up high numbers. By the way, you look smashin' in your bathing trusses today!
lol oops Autumn isn't who I meant should have specify..Our House Guest the last couple of days was my step-daughter Alisha who is a recovering Meth addict (120 days clean).. She is at the moment trying to clean up her legal problems and needed a safe and clean place to stay until court yesterday. While she is off the drugs atm she still hasn't quite gotten to the point in recovery yet where she understands that she has to step it up and be responsible for her own fines and jail time. So she still throwing hissy fits when family and friends refuse to come up with the cash to either bail her out of jail or pay her fines.
A large part of it I blame her mother for as she is a special kind of crazy. She apparently didn't take the divorce well and spent a lot of years letting Alisha run wild so she had a reason to contact Jon to "talk about their daughter. " When I came into the picture several years later she completely lost it or at least that's my only explanation for her actions.Like first letting your 14 year old daughter date a 23 year old guy and letting the same 23 year old move in and sleep in your daughter's bedroom with her and then can't figure how at 15 she gets pregnant!!
When Jon and I got married Ava (Alisha's mom) locked herself in her bedroom for a week, now mind you she and Jon had been divorced 8 years by then!!! And from what I have heard through mutual friends Ava is still convinced that eventually she will win Jon back...see special kind of crazy...lol
The ironic part is Alisha calls me mom and refers to her mother by her first name. Both times Alisha has given birth she has asked for me to be in the delivery room and kicked her mother out of the hospital..She learned very early on that she could play her mother but with me NO meant NO and I was completely unswayed by pleas, tears or temper tantrums. That our house had rules and consequences for breaking those rules, so every time we tried to rein her in she would run back to Ava's house where she could do as she pleased. And by then she was of an age we couldn't force a change in custody...sigh
Kids crave structure. This is a perfect example. You gave Alisha the one thing she craved the most and couldn't get from her mom - the love of discipline. Sounds like she pushed all the boundaries and instead of her mom stepping up, she just let it all happen and locked herself in the bathroom so she could blame the dad. I have seen this in my own family - well, not the bathroom part - that is crazy.
Bless you for stepping in, putting up with, saying no to and sticking around for them. And on top of that you want to help the neighbors neglected kitties. You have such a huge heart.
