10/16 Luci AMPS 218 *Pic 4+ 38 Another reducie...too soon...

Sue and Luci

Sue and Luci

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Tuesday

Yesterday was good for Luci - only one tiny bit of shark chasing in the morning - DH did a great job of supervising and steering her back to safety. I would have traded places with him as my day was grueling. Taking mom out for appointments is getting to be more and more challenging. She started complaining the minute she got into the car at 9:50 until the moment she got home at 2:45 - complained the entire time we were waiting for the doc - who was running late and the staff never informs anyone! Right thru lunch - I though I'd treat her to lunch - thought that would make her feel better and happy...nope...by the end of lunch after a complete re-review of all of her issues and complaints - she finally just said she was depressed...and went right on complaining. Not ONE word about it being nice to get out, thanks for lunch, etc. I just have to breathe deeply and chalk it all up to the advancing dementia - which she admits that she's confused and can't remember anything...but insists it's her low blood sugar - so I gave her a BG test kit - even tested her BG while we were waiting and it was 96...not low...but not high either - looked perfect to me! Oh well...it was a long day...

And today, one more dentist appointment to get that crown - on the tooth I've been dealing with all Summer! Finally!!!

Hope you all have a wonderful day today. Here's most likely the last bouquet we'll be getting from the garden this year. The weather is getting nastier by the day...31 degrees last night prompted a big cutting of the blooms.

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Luci looks good.

I hear ya about the dementia issue. Same with my father. Can't see with the glasses, yet reads the charts just fine. Get new glasses and before he even puts them on, I can't see anything. We just can't win. I now pay to have my father transported to appts and I meet him there. Him and his walker with his bag of stuff (which is mostly paper, but thinks he needs it and constantly misplacing) is to much for me to handle. And taking him for lunch well I just feel bad for the other diners. They should not have to "hear" and "see" the mess he makes.
 
Yikes, sounds like a brutal day for sure. But you know. Even if your mom doesn’t say it, I’m sure those outings mean a lot to her. She probably really does look forward to them.

It’s so hard and punishing to be around constant negativity, but I think a lot of you and Paula because even though it isn’t always enjoyable for the two of you, you still put in the time, you’re still there for your parents even though they aren’t at their best. It’s not easy but you don’t give up. You’re both amazing and I hope of I ever have a similar issue with my mom that I could step up for her too. Even if she’s being the worst:P

Glad Luci was a good boy for her dad last night! Keep it up Luci!!safe surfs only :)
 
Oh Luci! She slipped one over on us today. I was at the dentist and DH was 'on duty'...caught Luci down there chasing the sharks AGAIN! :eek:

I'll worry now...because back to back reductions typically don't work for Luci...she'll be right back in the high numbers before too long...up/down, up/down....darn it...and we were making such good progress...trying to keep her on the same dose for at least 6 cycles is proving to be quite the challenge...who knew she was slipping into her high diving suit at 3+?:rolleyes: When I left she was in a perfectly safe place - 105 - not quite to the lagoon..but I figured she was headed there...DH had the timer set...but she was sneaky and off she went...oh well...we'll have to see what Luci holds for us next!:p
 
Sometimes, like you wrote earlier to me, even though we do everything the same way, our kitties have a mind of their own and they keep changing it:stop: I hope the reduction works:)

So sorry about your mom and your experiences. Unfortunatley, I too am going through this 24/7. Everyone's story is different but oh so similar.
 
yes, cats being cats -- :cat:
and sticking out their tongues at us, metaphorically :p

yes I know a lot about dementia -- seven years of dealing with my dad, who had circulatory dementia, not Alzheimer's .. six heart attacks in one day, that the EMTs brought him back from, during an hour-plus transport to the hospital, left his heart seriously impaired, so it was like a computer with multiple passwords, but you can only remember a couple at a time .... never could predict what part of his brain would be functional at any time --

he didn't complain, instead he told me about what he could see, only it was 100% made up stories, most of the time totally unrelated to what was actually there; I had to get him out of "jail" (excellent nursing home) and find a residential placement that we convinced him was "a boarding house" -- complete with cat -- he lived with us for several years but I finally had to throw in the towel when he started getting violent when I insisted he use the proper toilet rather than the wastebasket, when I insisted he change clothing and bathe, and when he started running outside in the middle of the night without clothing at all (we had locks and alarms, didn't help)

luckily the family who ran the residential home was super good at managing locks and barriers, then he took a couple of falls, bruised himself to the point he would barely deign to walk, made it FAR easier for them (he healed up fine but scared himself)

anyway -- Luci will be fine, you will be fine, it will all work out
 
Sue - beautiful flowers to sooth the soul during hard times. For the last month, I've kept fresh flowers inside, and will continue (thanks Costco). During all the rough things going on in life, the flowers help.
My dad has dementia too. All three grandmothers (I've had two dads) had it. All I learned through my grandmothers, has prepared me some. However I'm finding a parent is much much harder to deal with. I still needed a father, but instead I'm like his mother. Sad, but so very common. I have never lived with, and been sole caretaker for anyone with advanced Alzheimer's. God bless those of you living that life. You must be so tough.
Sending you love and strength to keep chugging along:bighug::bighug::bighug:

Luci - oops! We can hope that this reduction works - paws crossed.
 
all my previous outside flowers died, my rosebush is done for the season, and my indoor geraniums are moping -- I got a bunch of chrysanthemum starts from local bigbox store, and they're holding up to the frost and gloom and rain, very cheerful, interplanted with my solar lights, makes me happy to look out to see them (and they do a great job of disguising the septic tank pump which otherwise looks like a huge plastic garbage bin lid, sticking up out of the ground)
 
Your flowers are Beautiful! The only ones left in my Garden are 2 Miniature rose bushes. I'm surprised they are covered in pink roses. Everything else is gone.
Enjoy your Evening!
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CandyH & Catcat said:
anyway -- Luci will be fine, you will be fine, it will all work out
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Thank you for sharing your story...it does help to know there are many others walking this mile with me!

I know we'll be okay...in the end...and it helps for me to share my tale with others who are understanding and sympathetic. It's just very trying while you're sitting there going thru it...takes every ounce of my patience just to hold my tongue. I mean really, there is absolutely no point in trying to show her a different viewpoint - it just comes off as an argument - best for me just to say, uh huh...yep...I know...yep you told me...I understand...:bighug::bighug:
 
Oh my Luci! She really wants that reduction! Congrats !!

Your dahlias are beauties! I could not cut any today as it poured most of the day. Hoping to get a few more cuttings before the killing frost.
 
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