I’m not an expert here. But I have a family member who has said something similar in past.
Personally, I’ve come to think it’s not an all or nothing scenario. You don’t have to just either fight him about food forever, or make him miserable. A few thoughts I have - again not an expert, just also have an SLGS (mostly) cat with similar numbers issues right now (though lower dosing):
1.) If Jack likes gravy foods, have you tried puréing some pate with some bone broth or even just water? Or just anything to make it more gravy-like in texture? Maybe add a little fortiflora or brewers yeast to the mix to make it more enticing. (My Jackson gets a lysine supplement sprinkled on his food that has brewers yeast as a base, and he seems to like that.)
Yes, we have tried broth, water, even gravy from cat food like the filets and chunks on the pate. I've lost count on how many brands of pate cat food we have tried. We had a stint where I used a jealousy trick about giving his siblings food and not him for a bit, but that novelty eventually wore off. I will try brewers yeast...that's a new one for me, so thanks for that suggestion.
2.) If kitty is a kibble addict, low carb kibble is better than high carb wet food. Some cats are super carb sensitive, and having almost any at all will send them into BG spikes for days or even longer. That happened to my Jackson about a week ago and we are on our second increase in that time already, trying to break back through the resulting glucose toxicity. I know that eating no dry food at all is the ideal, and some people are very passionate about that. But sometimes kitties don’t give us ideal. If this sounds like your Jack, look up Young Again Zero - my Jackson eats that between wet meals, and he will only eat his wet meals if there are some crunchies in his bowl for him to graze on later, even though he doesn’t actually eat much of them at a time. They just have to be there. Psychological I guess.

It’s not cheap, but it’s only 1% carb. Even their non-zero version is only like 5% carbs. As long as your cat is a good drinker, it’s supposed to be kidney safe too (that being a caveat with dry food/moisture intake in general). And I’ve read that some cats are actually more stable through the day when they can graze a bit, particularly when on SLGS or similar (since TR already accounts for mini meals). My Jackson is also one of those, I’ve found via trial and error. Also, grazing can keep away ketones.
He is definitely a kibble addict. Jack's kibble is a 50/50 mix of Dr Elsey's Pure Protein chicken (lowest carbs of all the flavors) and the YA. I did try to get him to do all YA as well as a 75/25 YA/Elsey mix but he gets diarrhea if I give him more than 50%.
3.) If he still needs higher doses of insulin even after he gets on a lower carb diet, maybe he’s just not destined to live without it. (Although his needs should drop without the carbs, to at least some degree.) As much as we all want remission, some cats realistically just won’t. It’s okay to have to give him higher doses
if that’s what he needs, and if he can get stable on it. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed him or that you’re a bad mommy, just that that’s his biology (if it comes to that). Shedding the carbs in his diet one way or another I think would give you a chance to get a better idea of that.
My other cat was in remission in 9 months, so I guess I just had high hopes for Jack. He is a MUCH different personality though.
I went into all this with the ideals in mind: wet food, TR, quick remission. The bumps, mountains, and valleys since have taught me some patience and humility. I guess my viewpoint over the past few months with my boy has now become: Find compromises when you have to. Despite his stubbornness, Jack is your beloved friend, and trying to reach any ideal or perfection isn’t worth ruining your relationship if you can instead find some way that becomes “good enough”, that still doesn’t risk his health.


