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rhiannon and shadow (GA)

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I got a call from the nursing home at 2am to come see my mother.... she was not good. The emt's were with her.
By the time we got there, she was already gone. Her breathing has been getting rougher and rougher and our best estimate was that she was in Stage 4 copd.
Her lungs were failing. And night time was always the hardest for her, she wouldn't wear a cpap and she desperately needed it as she was a mouth breather while
she slept.
My DGM and I saw her at lunch yesterday and sat with her for a while visiting until she was ready to take a nap. I bought her some miniature roses at the grocery store
that I was going to take out to her tomorrow.

I was prepared for it as much as I could be. She's been here only 9 days.
My DGM is the same.... we have waited and watched and wondered for a few years.
Our prayer was answered that my DM go first. ( a weird thing to pray for, I know.) We've been afraid for years that my dgm would go first and then things would have been really awful for my DM.
Now my prayer is that my DGM not give up and let go. She's held on so long taking care of my DM.
I hope we have her around for a long while.

It's pretty surreal.
I kept waiting for my mother to take a breath while I sat there waiting for my DH to bring my DGM ( she needed to see her for closure) ..... I am so used to her struggling to breathe.

Shadow and I are sitting up for a bit.
 
(((((Rhiannon)))))

I am so sorry. I know how difficult it is to lose a parent even if you know a chronic illness will inevitably take it's toll. There is no way to be completely prepared. I hope you and your family can find the happy memories and once the acute grief passes, find a way to celebrate your DM's life.
 
(((((Rhiannon))))) I am so sorry. Please accept our condolences. It is surreal and you can't be prepared. Thinking of you.
Liz
 
(((Rhiannon)))

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your mom. I pray you will find peace in the memories you have of her.
Prayers that your DGM can accept the loss of her daughter, and have good memories also.
My deepest sympathy to you, Rhiannon

Barb
 
I am so sorry for you loss of your mom. You can never be prepared. My prayers are with you and your family.
 
BIG HUGE LOOOOOOOOONG HUG Rhiannon. Even when we are expecting it and know it's close, it doesn't make it any easier on our hearts. Lots of prayers for comfort and healing....

Another big loooong hug,
 
((((Rhiannon)))

This is not a great way to meet but I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your mom. I lost my mom 2 years ago to lung cancer that she decided not to treat. I knew the inevitable was coming and I had a hard time looking her in the face. I wasn't ready. She had promised me as a little girl that she wouldn't die until I didn't need her anymore. Through the years she often joked and asked me "do you still need me? I'm getting a little tired" and I would say "Yes, you're not going anywhere".

Point is...we are never prepared. I 100% knew and wasn't at all prepared for the phone call. And losing your mom is so so hard. My heart aches for you.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I wish I could give you a big hug in person but for now I'm sending huge cyber hugs and hoping that with the passing of the days weeks and months your memories of your mom will comfort you.

My condolences to you and your family.

Caryl
 
(((Rhiannon))) I"m so sorry to hear that your mom has gone on. We never really are prepared for that day no matter how much we know it's coming. I just lost my mom this December 8th and it does still feel very raw and almost surreal. I find myself talking to her often and feel her near me. I hope that you find peace in the days and weeks and months to come as your heart begins to heal. Sending hugs and prayers to you and your DGM that you have her around for a long time to come.
 
Rhiannon, I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mom over 3 years ago, after many years of illness as well. My sincerest condolences to your and your family and especially your DGM. Thoughts and prayers to you as you deal with your loss.
 
I'm so sorry Rhiannon. My heart goes out to you and your family. Even after a long illness, the loss of your mother is so difficult.
((((((Many many hugs to you and your DGM.)))))))
 
oh rhiannon, i'm so sorry. our mothers are such a close part of us and it's the most difficult thing in the world to go through, even when you expect it. my heart is with you. i'll be thinking of you as you go through the days ahead. i'm glad you've got your grandma still. many hugs. :YMHUG:
 
(((Rhiannon))) Our very, very deepest condolences at your loss and our prayers as you move through the days ahead. And special prayers for your DGM....I know this will be difficult for her as well.
 
Oh, (((((Rhiannon))))),

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer just 3 weeks after diagnosis, so I understand being as prepared as possible, but you're never really ready to lose your parent. Prayers and hugs for you and your family.

Libby (& Hershey, too!)
 
{{{Rhiannon}}}

My deepest sympathy on the loss of your mother. There really is no way to be totally prepared for this, no matter how much warning you have. I am glad you were able to spend some time with her on her last day. I'm sure she was aware how much you loved her and appreciated all you did for her. I'm glad things worked out the way you hoped they would, and no, it wasn't weird to pray for that. You had the best interests of both your DM and DGM in mind. I hope you and your family will find peace and comfort in knowing that she is no longer suffering. I'll be keeping you all in my prayers.

Shadow, you be a good baby for your mama bean and don't throw her any curves for a while.

:YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
(((((Rhiannon)))))
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Please accept my deepest condolences.
I am sending prayers and love to you.
 
Oh Rhiannon-
I am so sorry. You have been through so much and barely had them back with you for 5 minutes. I know how grateful you must be that she WAS there with you and not 1000 miles away. And I know how relieved you must be to have DGM with you there especially now, and she you. Hugs to you and condolences to you and your family.
 
((((((Rhiannon))))))
We are saddened to hear that your mother has passed. I hope that her passing was peaceful and that your DGM will be OK. Thinking of you and your family and sending many hugs.

In deepest sympathy,

Ella & Edward
 
((((Rhiannon)))) I am so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of love and comfort vines for you and your family.
 
Oh no :( Many hugs for you and your family. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Many good thoughts and wishes for your family during this tough time.
 
Oh Thank you Everyone!
It's been pretty rough.... and you are ALL right.... rougher than I thought it would be. Tomorrow we will go make arrangements with the mortuary. ( the directors had today off)
I've been full of thoughts about how negligent they were (and they are lax out there).... but I also remind myself that it won't change anything. I know that's a normal reaction too.
If you pushed the button, it would often be over 30 minutes before anyone came. I often would just go do something for her myself instead of waiting.
And the night shift was even worse. It wasn't a great place but it's was better than any other I had ever seen ( for a Medicaid/medicare facility).

I really appreciate all of you . :YMHUG: :YMHUG:
 
Rhiannon,

I wanted to say so sorry again. I lost my mother last May, she also was in a nursing home due to having a pressure sore the size of a dinner plate courtesy of the hospital here. I had no choice as that was not something I was able to treat at home. I don`t think there are many of them that are very good but sometimes we have no other choice for whatever reason.
You did the best you could considering the situation with DM and DGM. Sending prayers for you and the whole family.

Terri
 
Rhiannon...so sorry to hear that you're DM has passed. You have my deepest condolences. We can never be fully prepared for this kind of loss no matter how much we think we are.

Sending prayers and to you and your entire family
 
Rhiannon, I send you my deepest condolences for your loss. I will light a candle for you and your family tonight as I keep you in my thoughts and prayers in the days ahead.
 
Rhiannon, I am so so sorry to read of your mother's passing. We have you and your family in our Prayers.
 
What a terrible way to start the new year. Our thoughts and deepest sympathies are with you. (((Rhiannon and family)))
 
Oh Rhiannon, I am so sorry for your loss. No matter how much we think we can prepare for such a thing, nothing takes the sting away when that time finally arrives. I will pray for you and your family throughout the coming days and send the hope that your grief soon subsides to comfort, love and fond memories of better days.
 
Rhiannon, may you and your family find peace and comfort during this time of sadness. I pray that your DM's soul can rest now and that your DGM fights to enjoy the closeness of her living family. Bless you and your family in this new year with so many new changes. Saying prayers for you and sending love.
 
(((Rhiannon)))) I'm so very sorry to hear about the loss of you mom. I'm still very fortunate to have both my parents and I dread the day I get a phone call. You've been such a good daughter and I'm sure you're mom appreciated everything you did for her. I'm glad you have your grandma...you can be a comfort to each other. I'll say a prayer for your mama. Again, I'm so sorry.
 
(((Rhiannon))) I am so very sorry for your loss. This saddens me so much. You'll be in my thoughts, and I'm sending love and comfort to you and your family.
 
((((((((((Rhiannon)))))))))) I'm so sorry to hear this! No. even if you are prepared for it it is still a shock when it happens. I felt the breath knocked out of me when I got the news on my DM last year, even though she was 101. I hope you and your DGM can move on and that grief doesn't cause her to give up.

We are keeping you and your family in our thoughts.
 
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