Lol, I was going to call it a merry-go-round, too! It may be a contender for one of the least merry, merry-go-rounds.
Thank you for asking all of the questions because it helps me sort it out in my mind, too.
Yeah, I really don't think I can do this anymore and she can't either.
Correct.
Ultrasound one was done at her vet's clinic on Friday. Imaging was done by a vet there who is trained to do imaging, and then sent to be read and reported on by an IDEXX boarded radiologist. Her vet transferred her to a hospital Friday night because she was still doing terrible, not eating etc, plus they thought there was something very serious going on with her stomach.
Ultrasound two was done at the hospital early this morning by a boarded IM vet.
The IM vet who did ultrasound two has the absolute best reputation in these parts. He is the guy who handles all of the complex feline GI/endocrinology cases. The ER vet said even though the ultrasound was an in-house consult, I could book Butters in to see him for a general consult without a referral from her vet. I'm hesitant, though.
I'm going to try to get hold of her regular vet and/or the vet she saw on Thursday and Friday at his clinic while he was on vacation. I'd actually look to them to hopefully sort this out with all parties, since the first ultrasound was done on their watch, and also they have a great working relationship with this IM vet, who is considered the best in my part of the world. It was just a coincidence butters got to see him this morning for the ultrasound, but her regular vet had planned to consult with him on Butters's case back in November. So much happened since then, he never got around to making the referral. But he would actually be the guy to put together a plan for her

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Having had this expectation set of a high level of care from him makes what happened even worse.
As for neuro, one of the other vets in her GP clinic is married to a neuro vet. So her vet is planning to speak with him about butters just to get a gut check on what to do in that regard.