GA Djoko

Marj & Djoko

Member Since 2020
Hello all,

I have not posted in a while and do not know most of the cats now. But I wanted to take the time to thank this awesome forum for all the help and support with Djoko. He would have never lived that long without this help. I would like to thank Elise who helped me a lot regulating his diabetes and who had other tips for his other conditions.

Djoko died tuesday early morning. He could not breathe anymore due to cancer spreading in his body (probably in his trachea and larynx) so I had to make the difficult decision to relieve him of his suffering.
Djoko bounced back so many times so right up until the end, in his oxygen cage, I was still waiting for a miracle. I did not trust the vets so much who examined him in 15 minutes to make their conclusion: it was easy for them in a way, old cat, with co-morbidities and already diagnosed with a mass cell tumor in his neck. I am a bit bitter because Djoko would have deserved a bit more respect at the end. But the conclusion would have probably been the same. It was time to go. He fought until the end, tried to drink water minutes before he passed.

I am grateful that after he got diagnosed with his mast cell tumor in November 2021 which was already very big at the time I decided not to put him through surgery. I was also told it was probably benign. I felt guilt and regrets for that decision but he had just been through a dental and it took him months to fully recover. I take comfort in knowing that he had a full good year after that. Only in the last 2 months his breathing started to be problematic but it was gradual. He still had good days. Of course, I saw an oncologist. On March 3, he examined Djoko and told me he looked good and that his breathing problems were probably because of the histamine. But his trachea was deviated. I suspect there were masses pushing on it that we could not see on the x-rays. It went fast in April but he managed to jump on the sofa, to go outside, and was able to eat until Sunday.

I am trying not to think about the end but I keep I replaying the last months in my head wondering what I could have done differently. I read that guilt is part of the mourning process. I need to accept that I will never know what truly happened.

I am glad I took many videos and pictures of him during his life. These are precious memories.
He is in my thoughts all the time. I truly miss him.

Repose en paix mon bel ange.
Je t'aime.
 
I’m so sorry Marj. Your wonderful care and love gave Djoko a long life and your decision did not come easy but there’s no doubt in my mind that you made the right decision at the right time. It’s never easy. I knew just like Max and Tiffany that he would make you decide when to let him pass peacefully and you did that. It’s normal to look back and second guess but try your best not to do that. Djoko would not want that. Take care of yourself. Taking care of a cat with multiple issues is not easy and leaves a huge void. One day it will be time to let another fur baby into your heart I hope. Take care my friend.:bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Marj I am so sorry for your loss , Djoko knew how much he was loved and you did the very best for him. Please try and remember all the wonderful times you had with him. Please tag care of yourself. Djoko you will be missed but never forgotten. Fly high sweet boy ,I'm sure you are now chasing butterflies with all the other kitties at the Rainbow Bridge :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::rb_icon:
 
Marj I am so sorry to hear Djoko has gone to the rainbow bridge. Such a lovely boy and you looked after him so well. I remember when you first arrived here.:bighug: It is always so hard to see them go ahead.
Fly free Djoko and land softly at the rainbow bridge :rb_icon:cat_wings>o
 
Marj, I am so sorry to hear the sad news. :bighug::bighug::bighug: Both you and Djoko were both such fighters for him. He had a lot going on, and sometimes there just isn't anything left you can do. You are right that the "what if I..." are part of the grieving process. But know that you did everything which was right at that time, including making that final decision when it was time to let him go. Djoko knows you loved him and were fighting for him.

Take care of yourself now. I remember being totally exhausted. You have been running on adrenaline taking care of Djoko, take care of you now.
 
Marj :bighug: You looked after Djoko better than most humans on the planet. You did good. You did way beyond good. The upcoming days are not going to be easy. It's time to look after yourself for a bit.
 
I'm so sorry. Don't second guess yourself. You did the best you could at the time with the knowledge you had. Djoko was lucky to have you. Fly free sweet Djoko. Sending prayers. :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Pozdravljeni vsi,

Že nekaj časa nisem objavljal in večine mačk zdaj ne poznam. Vendar sem si želel vzeti čas in se zahvaliti temu čudovitemu forumu za vso pomoč in podporo pri Djoku. Brez te pomoči ne bi nikoli živel tako dolgo. Rad bi se zahvalil Elise, ki mi je zelo pomagala pri uravnavanju njegove sladkorne bolezni in ki je imela druge nasvete za njegova druga stanja.

Djoko je umrl v torek zgodaj zjutraj. Zaradi raka, ki se je širil po telesu (verjetno v sapniku in grlu), ni mogel več dihati, zato sem moral sprejeti težko odločitev, da mu olajšam trpljenje.
Djoko je tolikokrat odskočil, tako da sem vse do konca, v njegovi kisikovi kletki, še vedno čakal na čudež. Nisem tako zelo zaupal veterinarjem, ki so ga pregledali v 15 minutah, da bi naredili zaključek: njim je bilo na nek način lahko, stari maček, s sočasnimi boleznimi in že z diagnozo masnoceličnega tumorja na vratu. Malo sem zagrenjen, ker bi si Djoko na koncu zaslužil malo več spoštovanja. A sklep bi bil verjetno enak. Bil je čas za odhod. Boril se je do konca, poskušal piti vodo minut, preden je podal.

Hvaležen sem, da sem se odločil, da ga ne bom operiral, potem ko so mu novembra 2021 diagnosticirali tumor mastocitov, ki je bil takrat že zelo velik. Povedali so mi tudi, da je verjetno benigno. Čutila sem krivdo in obžalovala to odločitev, vendar je bil ravnokar na zobozdravstvenem pregledu in potreboval je mesece, da si je popolnoma opomogel. Tolaži me dejstvo, da je imel po tem polno dobro leto. Šele v zadnjih 2 mesecih se je začelo pojavljati težave z dihanjem, vendar postopoma. Še vedno je imel dobre dni. Seveda sem bil pri onkologu. 3. marca je pregledal Djoko in mi povedal, da je videti dobro in da ima težave z dihanjem verjetno zaradi histamina. Toda njegov sapnik je bil deviiran. Sumim, da so nanj pritiskale mase, ki jih nismo mogli videti na rentgenskih žarkih. Aprila je šlo hitro, a mu je uspelo skočiti kavč, ven,

Trudim se, da ne bi razmišljal o koncu, vendar si v glavi nenehno ponavljam zadnje mesece in se sprašujem, kaj bi lahko naredil drugače. Prebral sem, da je krivda del procesa žalovanja. Moram sprejeti, da nikoli ne bom izvedel, kaj se je v resnici zgodilo.

Vesel sem, da sem posnel veliko videoposnetkov in slik o njem v njegovem življenju. To so dragoceni spomini.
Ves čas je v mojih mislih. Resnično ga pogrešam.

Repose en paix mon bel ange.
Je t'aime.
:velik objem: :velik objem:
 
I’m so sorry Marj. Your wonderful care and love gave Djoko a long life and your decision did not come easy but there’s no doubt in my mind that you made the right decision at the right time. It’s never easy. I knew just like Max and Tiffany that he would make you decide when to let him pass peacefully and you did that. It’s normal to look back and second guess but try your best not to do that. Djoko would not want that. Take care of yourself. Taking care of a cat with multiple issues is not easy and leaves a huge void. One day it will be time to let another fur baby into your heart I hope. Take care my friend.:bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
Thank you again for all your help and for these kind words.
 
Marj, I am so sorry to hear the sad news. :bighug::bighug::bighug: Both you and Djoko were both such fighters for him. He had a lot going on, and sometimes there just isn't anything left you can do. You are right that the "what if I..." are part of the grieving process. But know that you did everything which was right at that time, including making that final decision when it was time to let him go. Djoko knows you loved him and were fighting for him.

Take care of yourself now. I remember being totally exhausted. You have been running on adrenaline taking care of Djoko, take care of you now.
Yes. This is wisdom. Thank you Wendy for your help.
 
Oh Marj, I'm so sorry to read this. I remember you and Djoko from my and Minnie's early days here. It is never easy to say good bye but it is the last act of caregiving we can bestow on them.
prends soin de toi :bighug::bighug:
 
So sorry that your little Djoko left! You loved him and did everything that could be done. Sometimes we try so hard but at one point, there is nothing more we can do and we have to accept this. This is what I keep telling myself about my Ti-Mousse.
Sweet little Djoko, take good care of mama; she needs to know you're there with her. :bighug::bighug::cat::bighug::bighug:
 
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