GA 8/4 Henry WC. AMPS 350 +6 74 +7 34 +11 45 +13 54 Henry's passing right now, how can I help him?

Suzanne & Darcy said:
John, if you are still around... have you by any chance checked Henry's BG lately? He probably won't be aware if you do it. You don't have a stethoscope at home do you, to check his heart rate? Breaths per minute?
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He's finally stopped breathing. He had about 20 gasps afterwards. I've closed his eyes. He looks peaceful. Thank you and everyone for all their help and support. I'll make a post later. I'm just going to keep loving on him for awhile more and I'm glad he's not in pain or feels like he's starving anymore <3
 
John, you and your little beauty are in my heart and prayers. I want to say I love you and I am having a hard time getting my thoughts out. God bless you, and do not blame yourself for anything, or question all that you have done for your little one.

I've thought about you more than you could know, but I've not had experience with many of Henry's difficulties. The prayers didn't stop. And won't.

I love that you are still loving on him and that all his pain is gone. May you feel loved and know that Henry's spirit remains. Hugs. And peace.
 
John I am so so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. Words cannot explain how I feel
Fly high sweet Henry , you will be missed , no more pain kitties that have passed are waiting for you at Rainbow Bridge, you'll be like a little kitty again, running around and playing
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I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking, but you gave Henry that comfort and always did your best in caring for Henry so you should feel peace in knowing that. It’s really amazing how much we all care for each other’s cats here, and for each other and our well-being too, when we’ve never even met. It just seems like we’re all family here, so my heart hurts for you. I am so sorry John. My thoughts and prayers are with you. :bighug:
 
John & Henry said:
He's finally stopped breathing. He had about 20 gasps afterwards. I've closed his eyes. He looks peaceful. Thank you and everyone for all their help and support. I'll make a post later. I'm just going to keep loving on him for awhile more and I'm glad he's not in pain or feels like he's starving anymore <3
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John, you've done more for this kid than anyone can imagine. You have this whole community with you right now, wishing we could do more. Take care of yourself, you're the best human a kittie could hope for. Best wishes, & hugs - many, many hugs :bighug::bighug::bighug:

cat_wings>o Fly high little guy, take care of your dad from above, he's gonna need you for a bit
 
Max & Lori said:
I am so sorry. This is heartbreaking, but you gave Henry that comfort and always did your best in caring for Henry so you should feel peace in knowing that. It’s really amazing how much we all care for each other’s cats here, and for each other and our well-being too, when we’ve never even met. It just seems like we’re all family here, so my heart hurts for you. I am so sorry John. My thoughts and prayers are with you. :bighug:
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{{{John}}},

I am so sorry. I had a kitty die in my arms once and it was horrible. I know how it has torn you up. I haven't been around the Board much lately, but from all I've seen, you have been an amazing bean to him and have done everything possible for him. Be kind to yourself now. The next few days will be rough. Just remember he knew you loved him and he's not suffering now. No matter how long we have them with us, it is never long enough.

Fly free, Henry, and land softly. :rb_icon::bighug:
 
I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Henry, just know that he knew that you were right there with him until the end. My heart breaks for you :bighug: & prayers from me & Panzer. Fly high sweet Henry cat_wings>o:rb_icon:
 
Oh John I am so sorry :bighug: You did absolutely everything you could, continually went above and beyond for him and he knows it cat_wings>o
 
I’m so sad to read all of this. Poor Henry and poor John! My heart aches for you. We love them so much. It’s so hard to lose them! I am absolutely certain you gave Henry the very best life he could have ever had. And that’s really the best we can do for them anyway. They don’t live as long as us, so we must part ways. But helping them to have the very best life is all we can do. And I know you did that so very well for your amazing cat Henry. Rest In Peace, sweet Henry. Sending hugs and prayers for peace your way, John.
 
John how are you doing, dumb question I know . I hope you can get some sleep
Funny I have never met Henry but I had grown to love him
This may sound weird but I copied his picture and put it in my gallery/photo section.
Tyler's brother Perry passed away last Oct from kidney disease , I hope Perry welcomed Henry to The Rainbow Bridge and they both are running around like kittens again :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
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Diane Tyler's Mom said:
John how are you doing, dumb question I know . I hope you can get some sleep
Funny I have never met Henry but I had grown to love him
This may sound weird but I copied his picture and put it in my gallery/photo section.
Tyler's brother Perry passed away last Oct from kidney disease , I hope Perry welcomed Henry to The Rainbow Bridge and they both are running around like kittens again :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:
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I don't think it's weird at all, it's very sweet. I hope Henry is mousing it up with all his new pals right now including your Perry and my other two.

I had moved Henry to my bed at some point in this whole ordeal last night/early this morning, and cuddled him like we had a thousand nights before but he'd stopped doing since getting sick. I took some much needed anxiety medicine and after I knew he wasn't breathing/in pain anymore, I feel asleep and cuddled next to him for several hours. I then took him to the vet which had offered to provide "after care services" in which they'll make paw prints and do the cremation.

They offered to do a necropsy and I'm on the fence about it, but I gotta make up my mind quick. Not sure the price, but google puts it at somewhere between $200-1500. It would just be nice to know if it was SCL, IBD or something else entirely, but I'm not sure it's worth paying the extra as it really is of no consequence at this point other than I'll probably wonder about it for a very long time.

It's been a rough day, I've needed to be pretty medicated, and I'm still balling a lot, especially after reading everyone's absolutely heart warming responses (:bighug::bighug::bighug:) which is why I haven't responded sooner--I can barely make it half way through without getting too upset. You are all so amazing, and I don't intend to be a stranger around here and hope I'll be able to help out others on this board and pay forward some of the love and support I've received. I'll do a final update in the next couple days. I'm finishing filling out my SS out of habit right now. I do wonder if all the hypo activity egged it on somehow. The alarm on the libre seemed like it was going off non-stop last night and I gave him like 6 or 7 1ml syringes of karo over the night (since he wasn't eating and it was the most karo I think I'd ever given him in a day). I'm just trying to figure out when exactly everything happened. Anyway, more to come soon.
 
in 2014 one of my all-time favorite fur buddies, Rygel, died suddenly at 9 years old....on my wife's chest as she slept

he had JUST been at the vet a few weeks prior and given a clean bill of health. No issues whatsoever, not even any signs of getting a bit older -- seemingly a super healthy and happy kittah.

We also debated having a necropsy performed as we were in such shock, such dis-belief and wanted answers, but ultimately we decided we would just have to accept never knowing what did him in. It is a tough decision for sure, and I know your mind is probably racing with like you said, questions about was it the hypo, was it something else. One thing they told us when we were trying to decide -- they could perform the procedure and still come up empty.
 
I’ve gone both ways on the necropsy. For me, it boils down to what offers the most peace of mind and the least regret. Even though it doesn’t change the outcome, sometimes it helps to get some answers, or confirm a diagnosis, or find a surprise such as cancer that makes you say “oh wow, there really was absolutely nothing I could have done.” Other times you find no real answers, or you have even more questions or doubt. It can be a slippery decision, for sure.

In Henry’s case, it was clear that he was very, very ill and facing a difficult, perhaps impossible, recovery. But cats have amazing healing capabilities so it’s hard to count them out. You tried. I watched day after day as you both fought the equivalent of a street battle with death. And there was hope. Henry was a true fighter and so were you, advocating for him every step of the way.

You don’t get another chance to do the necropsy, so think about which choice will give you most peace. Perhaps you can call the vet and ask what they charge. Either way, I wish you clarity and strength. You will have a Henry-shaped hole in your heart for a long while. I wish all cats could know such love. :bighug:
 
Close friends just went through a similar decision making process. Their cat suddenly became severely ill. What decided them against the necropsy is that their kitty would need to be shipped to a facility where the necropsy could be done and then shipped back. They didn't want to risk him getting lost or delayed in the process. They also wanted the closure of knowing he was with them rather than being shuttled back and forth.

I am so very sorry for your loss.
 
I am terribly sorry, John, about your precious Henry and send my deepest condolences. I’ve followed your journey through the other moderators and those who have helped out and your dedication to your boy has been wonderful. FD is not easy.

My Gracie had SCL and IBD. She passed from a spontaneous intestinal rupture which I later found out us not uncommon in SCL cats, particularly those on steroids, which she had been. Thankfully, when we saw she had a GI bleed, we took her to the ER. She never seemed in any pain but, since we were there when they diagnosed it & only gave her 25% chance of making it through surgery and 5% after surgery, we elected to help her cross.

I only tell you this since you mentioned SCL & IBD and what can potentially occur. I wish you peace in making a decision on the necropsy and also in the months ahead.

Gentle journey, Henry cat_wings>o:rb_icon:
 
Hi John, I don't really know you or Henry but reading this post this morning my heart breaks for you over and over again. It seems you gave him such wonderful life and put so much effort into taking care of him.
May he fly high, free of pain. And until you meet again keep him close in your memories and your love for him will help you heal.
Sending lots of prayers and thoughts your way during this difficult time :bighug:cat_wings>o
 
John & Henry said:
I don't think it's weird at all, it's very sweet. I hope Henry is mousing it up with all his new pals right now including your Perry and my other two.

I had moved Henry to my bed at some point in this whole ordeal last night/early this morning, and cuddled him like we had a thousand nights before but he'd stopped doing since getting sick. I took some much needed anxiety medicine and after I knew he wasn't breathing/in pain anymore, I feel asleep and cuddled next to him for several hours. I then took him to the vet which had offered to provide "after care services" in which they'll make paw prints and do the cremation.

They offered to do a necropsy and I'm on the fence about it, but I gotta make up my mind quick. Not sure the price, but google puts it at somewhere between $200-1500. It would just be nice to know if it was SCL, IBD or something else entirely, but I'm not sure it's worth paying the extra as it really is of no consequence at this point other than I'll probably wonder about it for a very long time.

It's been a rough day, I've needed to be pretty medicated, and I'm still balling a lot, especially after reading everyone's absolutely heart warming responses :)bighug::bighug::bighug:) which is why I haven't responded sooner--I can barely make it half way through without getting too upset. You are all so amazing, and I don't intend to be a stranger around here and hope I'll be able to help out others on this board and pay forward some of the love and support I've received. I'll do a final update in the next couple days. I'm finishing filling out my SS out of habit right now. I do wonder if all the hypo activity egged it on somehow. The alarm on the libre seemed like it was going off non-stop last night and I gave him like 6 or 7 1ml syringes of karo over the night (since he wasn't eating and it was the most karo I think I'd ever given him in a day). I'm just trying to figure out when exactly everything happened. Anyway, more to come soon.
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John take all the time you need. Just know you did everything you could for Henry.
You both fought a good battle. I still ball sometimes when I think about Perry, it's to be expected. You gave your heart and soul taking care of Henry, just like I did with my Perry. I love Tyler like crazy but Perry was my heart kitty. Remember all the good times you had with Henry. He'll always be with you in your heart.
I'm glad you cuddled with Henry for several hours . I hope in time you will stick around because if you don't we will miss you!
Sending you lots of hugs. :bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:♥
 
Dear John :bighug::bighug::bighug:
I am just seeing this as I haven’t been around for a couple of weeks.
I am so so sorry to read this about dear Henry. He was such a trooper and you did every possible thing you could have done to help him.
It is so hard to lose a beloved kitty, especially when you have been fighting to help him get over his illnesses.
He certainly knew how much you loved and cared for him.
Take care of yourself and know you did every possible thing you could have to help Henry.
Bron
 
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