Summer and Susie (GA)
Member Since 2020
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No one is scolding you, Summer. And it’s really important that what you’ve learned is put into context before you offer it as advice. It also doesn’t benefit anyone on the board in learning if the incorrect information is corrected in a PM. It’s one thing to have a different opinion; it’s another thing if the information given is incorrect for that situation. In the latter case, it must be corrected in the condo so others understand it is incorrect.
The reason Sienne corrected what you said is because your advice was out of context. Let’s look at it in light of Roxy’s BG today.
Deb shot a 56 and, just for the sake of an example, let’s say she fed HC at that time. You said this:
Two hours later, Roxy was at 61. Deb might have thought, “it’s two hours past and Roxy is now up on her own so I don’t need to test again”. But then, Roxy onset between +2 and +3 and dropped to 49. If Deb didn’t understand what you meant and didn’t test at +3, she would have missed a low number.
So it’s all about context. That’s why it’s crucial when you learn something, you also understand how it is applied in many different situations. When I was learning, I would read when someone asked for advice, then I would think about what my answer would be. I would not post it especially if there were more experienced members posting. I would then see what the more experienced member wrote and compare it to what I thought. In fact, I tried not to post any advice at all if a more experienced member was already there posting. It gave me the chance to learn more and understand how what I knew would apply to the specific situation. Even so, after I got more experienced, I still made errors and believe me, Jill corrected them publicly. More learning for me.
Moral of the story: ask Sienne or the more experienced member if it happens again, to explain it to you so you learn something for the next time around. Having a chip on your shoulder doesn’t benefit anyone at all.
I still see you asking for advice so I’m not sure you do know enough to do this on your own. I don’t mean that in a mean or snarky way. I just wonder what is more important….your pride or Susie? I’m pretty sure it’s Susie.
Nothing said here is personal. You aren’t being criticized. If you give wrong information or in the wrong context, it has to be corrected.
Insulting Moderators for doing our job is unkind. Just because it makes you angry to be corrected doesn’t mean we are bad people, “Gods”, or uncompassionate. You know none of that is true.
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Marina & Chico
Member Since 2021
So sorry to hear this Summer, i really hope you will change your mind 
i just wanted to say that i as well gave advice that was corrected by moderators or by more experienced people. When this happened i just had to go back to understand why was my advice corrected. Its not “nice” to be told that you understood something not fully but it made me much more cautious, for example i try very hard not to give an advice without having taken the time to look more thoroughly in the kitty’s SS, when i don‘t have the time to check the SS i prefer not to give advice. Additionally when we express ourselves in a certain way, not everybody has to receive our message in the way we meant it, so its much better having “additional filters”. Having the moderators check the advice we give is actually reassuring, we know we wouldn’t harm any kitty unknowingly and God knows nobody of us would want that 
I know for sure you meant it well yesterday (even if i didn’t see the conversation in question) and remember that you helped a lot of kitties on other occasions, by supporting, reassuring and bringing in the correct people to give advice when the moderators didn’t notice the question or the doubt
take care of yourself and of Susie
i just wanted to say that i as well gave advice that was corrected by moderators or by more experienced people. When this happened i just had to go back to understand why was my advice corrected. Its not “nice” to be told that you understood something not fully but it made me much more cautious, for example i try very hard not to give an advice without having taken the time to look more thoroughly in the kitty’s SS, when i don‘t have the time to check the SS i prefer not to give advice. Additionally when we express ourselves in a certain way, not everybody has to receive our message in the way we meant it, so its much better having “additional filters”. Having the moderators check the advice we give is actually reassuring, we know we wouldn’t harm any kitty unknowingly and God knows nobody of us would want that I know for sure you meant it well yesterday (even if i didn’t see the conversation in question) and remember that you helped a lot of kitties on other occasions, by supporting, reassuring and bringing in the correct people to give advice when the moderators didn’t notice the question or the doubt
take care of yourself and of Susie
Mandy & Rex (GA)
Member Since 2017
I agree with others. I hope you continue to post. I enjoy following your and Susie's journey. I know it can be daunting with so much information with FD.
I have always appreciated reading what the moderators and other people who have been around a long time have to say because they may mention information I hadn't thought of. For example, one day I answered to the best of my ability about no feed after +10 and requested others correct me if I was mistaken in any way. We work together to give the correct information. It can change due to the situation at that moment.
I have always appreciated reading what the moderators and other people who have been around a long time have to say because they may mention information I hadn't thought of. For example, one day I answered to the best of my ability about no feed after +10 and requested others correct me if I was mistaken in any way. We work together to give the correct information. It can change due to the situation at that moment.
Tina Marie (GA) and Jan
Member Since 2019
A key point that I want to reiterate is that in addition to all the FDMB members, there are thousands of lurkers. Many of them try learning to care for their cat based on what they read here.
Often/ almost always, the L/L forum is full of personal info, unrelated to diabetes. The Mods, bless them, have to scan multiple threads to make sure this message board works and has a good reputation for safety.
In the past, I have spent a lot of time studying and prepping what I thought was a good answer, to soon be thankful I didn't post because I was off target. With everything you post, just remember, the world can see it. Love to your home
PS ~ @Marje and Gracie astounded me with her answers (not the first time). Great for me to reread and have it sink in. It would have taken me days to have put her post together, but I feel her answers could have been my own.
Often/ almost always, the L/L forum is full of personal info, unrelated to diabetes. The Mods, bless them, have to scan multiple threads to make sure this message board works and has a good reputation for safety.
In the past, I have spent a lot of time studying and prepping what I thought was a good answer, to soon be thankful I didn't post because I was off target. With everything you post, just remember, the world can see it. Love to your home
PS ~ @Marje and Gracie astounded me with her answers (not the first time). Great for me to reread and have it sink in. It would have taken me days to have put her post together, but I feel her answers could have been my own.
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Suzanne & Darcy
Member Since 2020
I would certainly miss you, Summer. You encourage a lot of people.
I say wrong things at times or, like yesterday, I came off as not being nice in a question I asked, even though I didn't mean that question in a confrontational way. It's frequently so hard to gauge people's intent in a typed message without voice inflection or facial expression, isn't it? I was in a rush and came off sounding very abrupt. Now, I'm talking about myself... not you. I have been corrected just recently as well. I tend to see things through the lens of a high dose kitty, because my Darcy was acro. So I need to be aware that what may apply to a high dose cat is not necessarily appropriate for a lower dose cat, etc.
I hope Susie will have a good, safe day in nice low blues and high green (like you want!)
I say wrong things at times or, like yesterday, I came off as not being nice in a question I asked, even though I didn't mean that question in a confrontational way. It's frequently so hard to gauge people's intent in a typed message without voice inflection or facial expression, isn't it? I was in a rush and came off sounding very abrupt. Now, I'm talking about myself... not you. I have been corrected just recently as well. I tend to see things through the lens of a high dose kitty, because my Darcy was acro. So I need to be aware that what may apply to a high dose cat is not necessarily appropriate for a lower dose cat, etc.
I hope Susie will have a good, safe day in nice low blues and high green (like you want!)
Scdal
Member Since 2020
Summer, please don't leave the forum over this. Just shake it off, in reality we have much larger problems in this world to deal with.
When I first joined this board, I felt the way you do now. I said I was going to quit the forum because I was getting conflicting advice from different moderators. I knew next to nothing about diabetes and I am still learning. I have a few people that I depend on for advice now. If something happens that upsets me or someone corrects me for something I said, I just think about it and then get on with my life.
A mistake I have been making for a long time involves people posting for help with diarrhea in their cat. My cat has had a few days of diarrhea over the years and I always gave him a chunk of cheddar cheese and it would clear it up. I have posted numerous times on this website telling people to give their cat cheese. It wasn't until my cat recently took some antibiotics that gave him diarrhea that I realized how silly my answer seems now. My cat has had diarrhea for weeks now and the vet has recommended probiotics to clear it up.
We live and learn. I appreciate advice from everyone who responds to my posts. Some advice I like and some I don't. We can't all get along all the time. Please just shrug this off, stay on the forum and forget about it. A week from now, you will probably have forgotten all about this.
Noah & me (GA)
Member Since 2016
For @Summer and Susie and any member that somehow feels their opinions and thoughts either don't matter or get shot down.
There is a place here for compassion, personal grief and irrelevant thoughts but beyond all that this is a medical site based on established science. It's no fun being corrected, I once moved a decimal point over and could have killed someone's cat. The moderators are all volunteers and have a lot to deal with, structuring a reply that's not offensive to every last member just cannot happen. Words on a display are a poor way to communicate but it's all we've got.
Summer, you said "I believe I have learned enough to take care of my girl by myself". That means other new members can benefit from what you know. We're all in this together, I'd rather have you here.
There is a place here for compassion, personal grief and irrelevant thoughts but beyond all that this is a medical site based on established science. It's no fun being corrected, I once moved a decimal point over and could have killed someone's cat. The moderators are all volunteers and have a lot to deal with, structuring a reply that's not offensive to every last member just cannot happen. Words on a display are a poor way to communicate but it's all we've got.
Summer, you said "I believe I have learned enough to take care of my girl by myself". That means other new members can benefit from what you know. We're all in this together, I'd rather have you here.