I know you’re probably frustrated that you keep hearing about home testing, I know I was when I first started and I put it off for a long time. It was hard and my cat was uncooperative and it stressed me out, which then stressed her out. But it really does get easier and it’s so helpful in figuring out what’s going on with your kitty. I tried just monitoring her symptoms for a while but she didn’t start to get really better until I started home testing.
I know you’ve probably already been told to warm the ears, but also the more you test the easier they bleed as well. Sophie’s didn’t bleed hardly at all at first. I’m not sure how big of a sample the meter you use needs, but I started out with the AlpaTrak which only needs like 0.3 microliters of blood, which was really helpful. It might also help to get him used to all the motions before you try to test. I know you said he gets suspicious when you touch his ears, so try rubbing his ears and then leave it at that. If he likes treats give him a treat, or do whatever is rewarding for him. Sophie used to fight me anytime I went for her ears and she is a biter, so I would just mess with them a few times a day and then give her a treat afterwards (she’s a treat kind of girl). Same with the lancet pen, if you want to use the pen then click it and give him a treat.
Everything I’ve read says cats don’t have many nerves in their ear tips so it shouldn’t be hurting him. But I definitely know where you’re coming from; I thought there would be no way I would ever be able to home test Sophie, but I now test her daily