Let me try to address each of your concerns:
I am inserting it all the way by of the way the vet showed me
Again, the idea isn't to insert the needle all the way into the cat. By doing that, yes you could hit muscle. I believe you will be better with the short needles, as there isn't as much to insert into the cat. You just want to insert it enough so that the opening of the needle is under the skin, so that all the insulin goes into the cat.
I have been trying to get his sides. Not sure of the proper term it's just were the vet showed me. BUT I had much more success this evening closer to his nec
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Look at this picture, this is where you are trying to get if you do the sides (also known as the flank):
http://www.bd.com/us/diabetes/page.aspx ... 01&id=7374
It is where the rear leg meets the body.
However, if you find that injecting into the scruff (back of neck) is easier for you, it's fine to inject there.
After seeing I poked with a little firmer and tuba didn't even squeal but that could just be a coincidence.
With many cats, it isn't so much that you poked the cat or injected him, it's more that he has been confined or detained or held in one place that upsets them. With practice you will get the technique and feel more confident.
He hasn't mentioned home testing to me but I was a hot mess after he told me and after he brought out the needle and I almost passed out he may have known I couldn't handle it all at once.
Yes it is a lot of information to take in at one time. However, it is vital that you learn to home test. Think about it this way. If Tubba were a human child, the doctor would tell you that you must test before giving insulin, otherwise, how do you know the amount and if it is safe to give insulin at all? You don't want to go into this blindly. And I can't stress enough the importance of learning to home test.
I promise it is not difficult, again, you will need to learn the technique and come up with a process for you and Tubba. And no, you aren't hurting the cat by home testing. Actually, you could be hurting the cat by
NOT home testing.
Currently tuba is getting 2cc twice a day (12hrs apart)
I believe you mean units and not cc. So the question I have are you giving 2 units twice a day or 1 unit twice a day for a total of 2 units given in a day?
This is an important distinction as we have a motto here - start low and go slow -
what that means, is you want to start at a low dose of insulin - 1 unit or less and make adjustments, based on home testing in small increments, such as 1/2 or 1/4 unit amounts. Hence another reason why you want syringes that have 1/2 unit markings, it will make it easier to make these adjustments.
What kind of insulin are you using?
the vet gave me purina dm wet and dry for now he said bc tubba was used to it and has lost too much weight.
Dry food of any kind is not ideal for any cat. As dry food can cause the BG's to increase and in some cases has been the reason why a cat became diabetic to begin with.
Although today I made a run to Walmart with my list off of here bc he doesn't like the wet food. I got the fancy feast classics. I'm really not sure how many he should get a day???
Fancy feast classics are perfectly fine to feed. As to the amount, well it really depends on the cat. Before Maui got regulated with insulin, she could eat 2 1/2 cans at one time and I fed her 2-3 times a day. And yes, I allowed her to eat all that. As she got regulated and her need for food lessened, she dropped down to 1 can at each feeding.
Today, she may eat an entire can at one feeding, or she may graze it on all day long. I do leave the food out all day, for her and my other cat to eat at their leisure. I also add about 1/2-3/4 can of water to each can of food. This does a few things:
1) it keeps the food moist longer
2) it ensures she gets plenty of water in her system without having to drink separately
3) it keeps the kidneys working well as water is important for kidney function
Or how important timing of the insulin shots are with food.
It is important that when giving insulin, your cat is eating at the same time. Again, think about a human diabetic, when they inject themselves, they typically will eat within 30 minutes of injection, otherwise they could have a hypo episode. Again, it's the same with cats, you want them to eat when injecting insulin, to help keep the BG balanced. This is another reason why it's important to home test, as you will know where the BG currently is and if it is at a level that is safe to inject insulin.
I live in Arkansas I haven't figured out how to edit my profile or add a picture of tubba or anything. I'm REALLY trying to take this all in. Wow it's a lot. I'll do anything for my baby don't get me wrong im just panicking.
I'll see if there is another member in Arkansas and direct them over here to help you. And don't worry about the pic or profile. What's more important is that you don't panic, you understand that you found a great group, who will help you and that you ask questions so that we can better assist you.
But when I do it right, she doesn't notice at all.
that really has helped my confidence I think. I just hope he knows it's bc I love him. I'm going to the vet tomorrow and first thing on my list is to tell him about home testing if he doesn't say anything. I am also going to ask about the shorter smaller needles. Is there somewhere else I can order them. ?? I paid $25 for this box of 100. Yes I meant 2 units twice a day of lantus (the box says 100 units/mL u-100) it cost me $125 is this a normal price? 
