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Hello,
I don’t know how to exactly word this but I am really needing advice.
I have never gone through the end of life with a pet and I’ve had my Theodore since we was five weeks old for 14 1/2 years. He’s my best friend.

I just really, really need help. I’m heartbroken and I know it’ll be ok but I can’t even imagine actually going through with having to put him to sleep.

The presnidone he is on for severe pain made his blood sugar go high so now he is back on insulin again. I was controlling it with food. But right now I have to control his pain.
Can anyone help me with knowing when it’s time? I am not sure if it’s ok that I post this here, but you are all the only ones I’ve ever talked you and so sweet.

People say I will know. But I don’t! I can barely decide apple or orange juice...let alone when it is time not to be with my best friend.
I can give details to his condition right now to anyone who could please, please help me?? It’s not good. And I don’t want him to suffer because of me but I don’t know what to do! Please help.
 
I know how hard it is, Shawna. You have assess your kitty's quality of life as well as you can - is he eating well, peeing and pooping properly, able to move around with some degree of comfort, willing to interact with you, and so on. You have to look inside yourself and ask the hard question - are you thinking more about the pain of losing your kitty or his welfare? What is best for Teddy? The answer to that question will be your guide. :bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
Is he happy and content more then not? Is he finding joy in life?

I know how you feel. I've been there and it's just the worst.
 
shawna said:
Hello,
I don’t know how to exactly word this but I am really needing advice.
I have never gone through the end of life with a pet and I’ve had my Theodore since we was five weeks old for 14 1/2 years. He’s my best friend.

I just really, really need help. I’m heartbroken and I know it’ll be ok but I can’t even imagine actually going through with having to put him to sleep.

The presnidone he is on for severe pain made his blood sugar go high so now he is back on insulin again. I was controlling it with food. But right now I have to control his pain.
Can anyone help me with knowing when it’s time? I am not sure if it’s ok that I post this here, but you are all the only ones I’ve ever talked you and so sweet.

People say I will know. But I don’t! I can barely decide apple or orange juice...let alone when it is time not to be with my best friend.
I can give details to his condition right now to anyone who could please, please help me?? It’s not good. And I don’t want him to suffer because of me but I don’t know what to do! Please help.
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Be sure you find some clay and make a paw print. You can put a hole at the top and make it into a necklace so you'll always have him with you. You also have to fire it so it doesn't crumble.
 
Kris and Janet,
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for replying. Teddy can’t walk anymore at all. Before he was limping and now he eventually stopped being able to walk and he can’t stand up. He rests on the couch (super comfortable with blankets) and a few times a day I carry him to a wee wee pad for him to go to the bathroom. He goes every time. And he eats a lot. But he is ok presnidone, buprenix and Gabapentin. And insulin when needed. But even with those pain meds if the buprenix wears off even a little he growls/cries when I carry him to go to the bathroom. He has bit my twice now really bad, which I don’t care, but clearly he’s in pain.
As I type this out it seems clear to me his quality of life isn’t good.
But when we snuggle on the couch I start to think maybe it’s ok to carry him to go to the bathroom. And he’s just disabled so he doesn’t need to go to sleep. So then I get confused. And I don’t want it to get too worse to where I waited too long. I don’t know how to figure this out.
If anyone has any honest thoughts and you could tell me I’d be forever thankful.
 
Definitely one of the most difficult decisions in life. As the other's have said, you have to try and take a step back and access his quality of life. Whatever decision you make, we and Teddy know, it will be out of love :bighug::bighug::bighug:.
 
srk3cats said:
Be sure you find some clay and make a paw print. You can put a hole at the top and make it into a necklace so you'll always have him with you. You also have to fire it so it doesn't crumble.
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That’s very sweet and such a good idea. I can’t even do it though. But thanks for the good idea. I’m so heartbroken. I can’t imagine my life without him, he been with me the whole time I’ve lived in Florida. But then I have to realize this is real life and he Lived a good life and this is how it’s suppose to go I think.
 
Yong said:
Definitely one of the most difficult decisions in life. As the other's have said, you have to try and take a step back and access his quality of life. Whatever decision you make, we and Teddy know, it will be out of love :bighug::bighug::bighug:.
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But the problem is I can’t figure it out. And I can’t inagine actually going through with it. And then I wonder if he can die naturally but that would be painful for him right? See I just don’t know what to do :(
 
shawna said:
But the problem is I can’t figure it out. And I can’t inagine actually going through with it. And then I wonder if he can die naturally but that would be painful for him right? See I just don’t know what to do :(
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Or maybe he wouldn’t die for a long time???? I don’t want to end his life early. But then I think he can’t walk and cats are suppose to walk. But then I think cats can be paralyzed just like people and still live. He isn’t paralyzed but he can’t walk. And then I think, well but he is in pain though.
 
The majority of the fur kids we had growing up, we humans had to make the decision. But, we were given very clear signs they were ready to go. The only one to die naturally was actually my GA boy. He went in his sleep on Christmas Eve morning. I don't think that was any easier because he waited for me to leave as I had to go to work so I wasn't there to hold him as he picked up his wings :(.
 
shawna said:
Thank you xoxoxo when you had to make the decision you decides yes? Did you ever have a pet die naturally? I’m going to read it now, thank you
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Yes, unfortunately you are the only one that can make this decision. I have had one that died on their own because I couldn’t get a vet. It was not an easy thing to watch, but his illness was different from what Teddy has. I also worry about letting them go too soon, but after having a few that I held onto too long I now regret that I did. You know Teddy better than anyone and whatever you decide will be the right decision. We will all be here for you, either way:bighug:
 
Sharon14 said:
Yes, unfortunately you are the only one that can make this decision. I have had one that died on their own because I couldn’t get a vet. It was not an easy thing to watch, but his illness was different from what Teddy has. I also worry about letting them go too soon, but after having a few that I held onto too long I now regret that I did. You know Teddy better than anyone and whatever you decide will be the right decision. We will all be here for you, either way:bighug:
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Yes I worry about what if I wait too long too. I don’t want to be selfish but I don’t want him to go. I just keep getting confused when I feel it should be more clear to me. I do need to keep reminding myself this is how life is suppose to go.
I just read your link. It was so helpful. It’s almost like it helps gives answers by doing the surveys. Thanks for sharing that.
 
Yong said:
The majority of the fur kids we had growing up, we humans had to make the decision. But, we were given very clear signs they were ready to go. The only one to die naturally was actually my GA boy. He went in his sleep on Christmas Eve morning. I don't think that was any easier because he waited for me to leave as I had to go to work so I wasn't there to hold him as he picked up his wings :(.
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Thanks for sharing. I’m sorry for your pain too. I’ve never had to face something like this before.
 
Shawna, I don't have any advice to give, but just wanted to say that we are all here with you and sending love to you and Teddy as you face this decision.
 
JanetNJ said:
I'm so sorry you are facing this. :(
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Thanks, I just wish I knew the definite answer. Or maybe I do know and I’m in denial. I don’t know. Last night I started thinking things are pretty bad and I wouldn’t want to wait and let things even get worse? He won’t get better at this point. I just wish it wasn’t a decision. I’m already sucky at decisions :cat:
I hope you’re doing well and I’ll talk to you soon
 
shawna said:
Thanks, I just wish I knew the definite answer. Or maybe I do know and I’m in denial. I don’t know. Last night I started thinking things are pretty bad and I wouldn’t want to wait and let things even get worse? He won’t get better at this point. I just wish it wasn’t a decision. I’m already sucky at decisions :cat:
I hope you’re doing well and I’ll talk to you soon
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I know what you mean. A long time ago (about 12 years) my cat Nikki went downhill fast and we learned she had kidney cancer. She did well for 6 weeks on steroids and then crashed. We kept changing our minds about if it was time and finally decided we would let her go the next day. Well that day before she passed on her own..... And she was in a terrible state.... Clearly in pain.... and I felt so bad that I let her get to that point. I really should have let her go a week earlier. All I could do was apologize to her and be glad she was finally at peace.
 
Incidentally two nights later we heard her several times scraping on the scratching post she passed away laying on. Even our other cat Zim heard it and stretched his neck to look down the hall. It was like she came back to say she was OK.

Zim passed this past April.... He has visited several times that both me and my son have felt him. Love doesn't die.
 
Oh Shawna! What I wouldn't give to be right there to give you a hug right now. This is truly the hardest decision to make. I'd love to tell you exactly what to do, but I can't. I can tell you that I knew it was Gypsy's time to go...she was hiding all day from me, wouldn't stay with me when I got her, wouldn't eat, wouldn't move. Her eyes showed that she was in pain and miserable. I also know that I waited too long with her...I'd give anything if I had made the decision while she still had a few good days left.

I am glad that I was able to be there with her when she passed though. It was a sad but beautiful moment...and though it broke my heart, it's something I can now remember without crying (mostly). She was so peaceful and beautiful and it was HARD...but it has comforted me no end to know that the last voice she heard was mine and that the last sight she had me was me and the last feeling she had was me petting her. Sounds awful I know, but it was actually so good that she had all that. She KNEW how loved she was and that I was doing this for her.

I wish I could help you more. I'd say when he has more bad days than good, it's time. Have you talked to the vet? They might be able to help you decide. They might also be able to come to your house when it's time to make it easier on you both.

Whatever decision you make IS the right one because it's made out of love. That much I truly and firmly believe. :bighug::bighug::bighug:
 
I am very sorry. Losing them nearly kills us. No matter the circumstances, no matter the decision, it will not be easy, and you will probably find things to blame yourself for and beat yourself up about. Maybe try to put yourself in his position. If you had the quality of life he has, what would you want? It is so hard for us not to keep them alive for ourselves, because letting them go hurts so much, but I feel that when I am keeping them alive more for me than for them, it is time. Also, it is very important to me that I be with my babies when they go, if at all possible. I would rather hold them and love them through it than 'find' them already gone.

So sorry. :(:bighug:
 
Rachel said:
Thanks Rachel. xoxox I made an appointment today at 3pm with Teddy’s vet. But I couldn’t go through with it. I just can’t do it!! So I cancelled. His vet isn’t in tomorrow so the next time she is there is Monday. I might have to day the day off to do it first thing in the morning.
I just can’t imagine my life without Ted. My students literally mention him every day (which I love and will still love) but, I moved to Florida and got him almost 15 years ago and he’s been with me every step. And he won’t be here anymore. And I’ll be by myself.

I did talk to his vet, who I love so much, and the vet agrees and I asked her if she was me and she said yes she would at this point.

I understand this is how life is suppose to work but it’s not right. I can’t even stop crying. He’s medicated so he isn’t in pain but he’s just lying on the couch and can’t movr and I just lay by him and he licks me. It’s too much the pain is breaking my heart.

I keep trying to tell myself it’s better now before he gets in so much pain that it just ends horribly. Or something.
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Rachel that message was to you but I have no idea how it ended up in the yellow box. xoxox
 
FurBabiesMama said:
I am very sorry. Losing them nearly kills us. No matter the circumstances, no matter the decision, it will not be easy, and you will probably find things to blame yourself for and beat yourself up about. Maybe try to put yourself in his position. If you had the quality of life he has, what would you want? It is so hard for us not to keep them alive for ourselves, because letting them go hurts so much, but I feel that when I am keeping them alive more for me than for them, it is time. Also, it is very important to me that I be with my babies when they go, if at all possible. I would rather hold them and love them through it than 'find' them already gone.

So sorry. :(:bighug:
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Thank you...yes I feel like my heart is breaking. I had it scheduled and I cancelled out. If I can just get through this.
 
JanetNJ said:
I know what you mean. A long time ago (about 12 years) my cat Nikki went downhill fast and we learned she had kidney cancer. She did well for 6 weeks on steroids and then crashed. We kept changing our minds about if it was time and finally decided we would let her go the next day. Well that day before she passed on her own..... And she was in a terrible state.... Clearly in pain.... and I felt so bad that I let her get to that point. I really should have let her go a week earlier. All I could do was apologize to her and be glad she was finally at peace.
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Thanks for sharing. I just can’t bring myself to go through with it. But I have to if I want to be good to Ted. I don’t think I can ever go through this again.
 
I had a very hard time letting one of my boys go. Bubba had congestive heart failure and his kidneys failed from the medicine. He needed a transfusion that his heart couldn't handle. I hadn't heard him purr in a week. Once he got some medicine and oxygen he perked up and started his unusually loud purr. I knew there was nothing else that could be done but I still took an hour to make the decision. One thing the vet gently reminded me of was that cats hide pain very well and when it gets bad enough to make them act out aggressively-- it horrendous pain. Bubba was trying to bite me when giving meds. It was so out of character for him.
I held him as he head butt me and purred loud enough to put anyone in a trance. The vet sat to the side of us and gave him the medicine to calm him then the other medicine. I cry to this day but I was honestly relieved when I knew he was no longer in pain. He looked peaceful.
It is a very hard decision but with the vet assuring me that his transfusion would be like him drowning to death-- it made it a hair easier.
I took a video of him purring in the hour before I relieved him of his pain. I watch it often.
I don't know if any of my ramblings will help you decide. Please know it is normal to feel completely lost before and after the decision.
Sending peaceful vines for your heart and comfort vines for Teddy.
 
StephG said:
I had a very hard time letting one of my boys go. Bubba had congestive heart failure and his kidneys failed from the medicine. He needed a transfusion that his heart couldn't handle. I hadn't heard him purr in a week. Once he got some medicine and oxygen he perked up and started his unusually loud purr. I knew there was nothing else that could be done but I still took an hour to make the decision. One thing the vet gently reminded me of was that cats hide pain very well and when it gets bad enough to make them act out aggressively-- it horrendous pain. Bubba was trying to bite me when giving meds. It was so out of character for him.
I held him as he head butt me and purred loud enough to put anyone in a trance. The vet sat to the side of us and gave him the medicine to calm him then the other medicine. I cry to this day but I was honestly relieved when I knew he was no longer in pain. He looked peaceful.
It is a very hard decision but with the vet assuring me that his transfusion would be like him drowning to death-- it made it a hair easier.
I took a video of him purring in the hour before I relieved him of his pain. I watch it often.
I don't know if any of my ramblings will help you decide. Please know it is normal to feel completely lost before and after the decision.
Sending peaceful vines for your heart and comfort vines for Teddy.
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Thanks for sharing and I’m so sorry for you going through that. Teddy tries to bite me when I give him medicine now sometimes and he bit my thumb so bad a few days ago.
Right now I’m just laying here staring at him. And he’s staring back. Torture to my heart I think. It’s so unfair to him that he can’t move. But not knowing what is wrong with him (the vet only just saying nerve pain) it’s hard for me to understand that it still can be time to put him out of pain. I don’t think it would be easier if he had something specific, but I just keep thinking what if he can get better somehow??
 
My dear I hope you’re ok! I don’t know what the outcome of your decision was/is about your Teddy. I just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you!
Prayers up for you both. That’s all I wanted to say, that I’ve thought about you a lot. Do what’s best for him & I know how difficult that might be. I’ve had to do this many times in my life & it is always unbearable! But with time the pain subsides. Please do not torture yourself with second guessing; what ifs... Etc... be good to yourself & proud that you are a fantastic cat momma! :bighug::cat::bighug: Peace be with you angel!
 
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My dear I hope you’re ok! I don’t know what the outcome of your decision was/is about your Teddy. I just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you!
Prayers up for you both. That’s all I wanted to say, that I’ve thought about you a lot. Do what’s best for him & I know how difficult that might be. I’ve had to do this many times in my life & it is always unbearable! But with time the pain subsides. Please do not torture yourself with second guessing; what ifs... Etc... be good to yourself & proud that you are a fantastic cat momma! :bighug::cat::bighug: Peace be with you angel!
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Thanks for your sweet message. Means a lot to me. To be honest I’m not ok. This has been the worst day of my life. He was put to sleep around 11am and I was kissing his cheek as he left. I didn’t realize how fast it all happens. I cried so bad, but the moment she gave him the medicine I was able to be calm and just tell him I love him and smooch his forehead. I can’t believe I made it through that. I honestly didn’t think I could.
After I walked out of the vet and got in my car, something made me run back in and ask to quick see him one more time. I kissed him and said bye again.

I didn’t sleep at all last night. I cried all night petting him, kissing him, smelling him and talking to him. I just kept smelling his fur to try to remember him. And this morning the waiting for the time to go was heart wrenching.

And now I can’t bear the thought that he’s gone. I want to be with him so bad. I’ve lived alone with him for almost 15 years, he was my best friend.
I won’t ever be able to pet him again or anything. I need him back. He’s just suppose to be here. And while I do believe in God and heaven I’m still feel scared of where is he. I just wish I could always be with him.
Sorry to ramble, I just haven’t stopped crying in days. And the lack of sleep from the past week is starting to wear on me. And the crying comes in bad waves and it’s really bad.

One more thing, I realized last night when I stayed up all night that he would moan and do little cries in his sleep....and he couldn’t move....I realized he really is hurting even on three medicines and the vet said he won’t get any better and my heart knew he won’t get better. And I know if I want to be good to him I had to do it this morning whether I wanted to or not. And I didn’t want to chance waiting just for my sake and then him having to go in an emergency state or having something happen at night or something. So I at least know I don’t have regrets. I don’t think I do. I hope I did the right thing for him.

I understand life works this way. But I need my teddy here with me.
You know last night he licked me off and on throughout the night on my hand and even on my face! He was purring which he barely does. We cuddled all night, well with a few growls here and there. And I just knew at that moment he knew I’ve always loved him and I knew I had to do this for his sake.

I just want more than anything for him to be back. And he’ll never be back.

xoxoxoxo
 
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shawna said:
Thanks for your sweet message. Means a lot to me. To be honest I’m not ok. This has been the hardest time of my entire life. He was put to sleep around 11am and I was kissing his cheek as he left. I didn’t realize how fast it all happens. I cried so bad, but the moment she gave him the medicine I was able to be calm and just tell him I love him and smooch his forehead. I can’t believe I made it through that. I honestly didn’t think I could.
I didn’t sleep at all last night. I cried all night petting him, kissing him, smelling him and talking to him. I just kept smelling his fur to try to remember him. And this morning the waiting for the time to go was heart wrenching.

And now I can’t bear the thought that he’s gone. I want to be with him so bad. I’ve lived alone with him for almost 15 years, he was my best friend.
I won’t ever be able to pet him again or anything. I need him back. He’s just suppose to be here. And he doesn’t even know anyone in whatever kitty heaven people talk about. I believe in God but I’m still scared as to where he is right now.
Sorry to ramble, I just haven’t stopped crying in days. And it comes in bad waves now and it’s really bad.

One more thing, I realized last night when I stayed up all night that he would moan and do little cries in his sleep....and he couldn’t move....I realized he really is hurting even on three medicines and the vet said he won’t get any better and my heart knew he won’t get better. And I know if I want to be good to him I had to do it this morning whether I wanted to or not. And I didn’t want to chance waiting just for my sake and then him having to go in an emergency state or having something happen at night or something. So I at least know I don’t have regrets. I don’t think I do. I hope I did the right thing for him.

I understand life works this way. But I need my teddy here with me.
You know last night he licked me almost all night on my hand and even on my face! He was purring which he barely does. We cuddled all night, well with a few growls here and there. And I just knew at that moment he knew I’ve always loved him and I knew I had to do this for his sake.

I just want more than anything for him to be back. And he’ll never be back.

xoxoxoxo
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend. I absolutely think you have given him the kindest gift you can. He is pain free and you will see him again.
 
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JanetNJ said:
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful frien. I absolutely think you have him the kindest gift you can. He is pain free and you will see him again.
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Thank you and thank you for being there for me this past year and helping save his life when he first was diagnosed with diabetes. He wouldn’t of made it here if it wasn’t for you and the people on this site helping me. You all will always have a special place in my heart. I love each one of you. xoxox
 
shawna said:
Thank you and thank you for being there for me this past year and helping save his life when he first was diagnosed with diabetes. He wouldn’t of made it here if it wasn’t for you and the people on this site helping me. You all will always have a special place in my heart. I love each one of you. xoxox
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Shawna, I'm so sorry that it was time for Teddy to cross the bridge. :rb_icon: Just like we are all connected even though we've never met each other, Teddy is connected to all the kitties here and I am certain that all of the sugar kitty guardian angels welcomed him as he crossed the bridge. And now he'll be your guardian angel and watch over you. cat_wings>o

Grieving takes time, but it does become a bit gentler as the days pass. There is a thread here where many who have said good-bye gather to support each other, and many cities have grief support groups for those who have lost a pet. And of course we are all here for you too!

You did the very best thing for him: you wrapped him in your love and you set him free from his body, but he will always be with you. I wish I could give you a hug in person, but for now I pray that comfort and peace would surround you in the hours and days to come.
 
I believe that cats tell you when it's time, if you are truely bonded with them. When they lick your face or put their paw over yours. Every cat you have is special and it's so hard to lose them, even when you have other cats around. Just like Janet, you will occasionally feel their presence. I also took pictures before they left. I have a series of photos of Pogo lying in his favorite place on the couch. In the first few, he's sitting up looking regal, and then gradually he loses energy and lies down. He was purring as he went to sleep and I, too, felt it happened too fast. But I'm sure it's what he wanted. I am crying as I write this. The pain never goes away completely. But I don't feel guilty like I did when I lost a couple cats to coyotes (I shouldnt have let them get out). They died in a horrific way.
 
Shawna, I am so so sorry it was Teddy's time. I know the pain you're in...I've been there. And I know that I can tell you all day long that it will get better but that doesn't help right now. But I promise it WILL...just hold on. You absolutely 100% did the right thing by Teddy and he knew and knows how loved he is. He'll be waiting for you on the other side of the bridge and he will be loving you until you are reunited. I'm sure that my Gypsy is there showing him the ropes and hanging out with him even now...she was that kind of cat. :bighug::bighug::bighug:

Fly free, sweet Teddy! Land softly.
 
My heart aches for you. :bighug:
Teddy was blessed to have such a great friend his whole life. Some say they will send another friend to help ease your pain. I haven't adopted another cat since my Bubba left us but that is mainly a financial decision.
Take all the time you need to grieve. Know that his body may be gone but his spirit lives on and will try to comfort you when you need it most. :rb_icon:cat_wings>o
 
Shawna, I'm so sorry you had to make this decision but I know it was out of love for your precious kitty. As the days go on and some of the hurt subsides it'll be easier for you to feel that you did what was best for him. He's not in pain any longer and you gave him that gift. :bighug::rb_icon:cat_wings>o
 
Oh Shawna I’m so very sorry :bighug: You made the most difficult, and most loving decision for your sweet Teddy. He is now free of pain and while I know it seems impossible right now, I pray that you will find comfort knowing that you did what was best for him even though it caused you so much pain. :bighug:

Fly Free Sweet Teddy, Land Softly, You are so Loved:rb_icon:
 
Shawna, I am just reading through this thread now, in tears for you and Teddy. I lost my first kitty 20 years ago and I still remember it well. But I didn't have a choice because his body didn't' work any longer, and poor Teddy being in so much pain, he is released from that now. I am so sorry, I know it hurts so unbearably much. Wishing you strength and peace in the coming days, weeks, and months. :bighug::bighug:
 
Djamila said:
Shawna, I'm so sorry that it was time for Teddy to cross the bridge. :rb_icon: Just like we are all connected even though we've never met each other, Teddy is connected to all the kitties here and I am certain that all of the sugar kitty guardian angels welcomed him as he crossed the bridge. And now he'll be your guardian angel and watch over you. cat_wings>o

Grieving takes time, but it does become a bit gentler as the days pass. There is a thread here where many who have said good-bye gather to support each other, and many cities have grief support groups for those who have lost a pet. And of course we are all here for you too!

You did the very best thing for him: you wrapped him in your love and you set him free from his body, but he will always be with you. I wish I could give you a hug in person, but for now I pray that comfort and peace would surround you in the hours and days to come.
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Oh the sadness just is so much. Do you think Teddy can see me from wherever he is?
Thank you for your message. I am feeling thankful that I don’t regret yesterday because he was in pain. I just so badly want him here. So badly.

Thank you again for this entire year of helping me with his diabetes. The first time I came here you all literally saved my little sweet Teddy when his blood sugar went too low and you gave me all the information I needed to keep him healthy in terms of his diabetes. Ted and I thank you for that! If it wasn’t for his other medicines and such I could of kept him in remission for diabetes. That’s ok though because because of you all I knew what to do. I don’t know what happened or why he had nerve pain like he did, but that is just something that can happen I guess. I would have spent every last day taking care of him, carrying him to the pad to go to the bathroom, giving him medicine and making sure he was getting enough water, but in the end since the pain medicine wasn’t working it wasn’t fair to him to keep him in pain. Sorry I just keep trying to remind myself it was the right thing to do. It was.
I’m just going to respond to everyone here and then I will not keep writing here. I do want to stay here to offer support to others since I have come to love you all and I’ll forever be thankful for your help with Ted. :) lots of love and appreciation always!
 
srk3cats said:
I believe that cats tell you when it's time, if you are truely bonded with them. When they lick your face or put their paw over yours. Every cat you have is special and it's so hard to lose them, even when you have other cats around. Just like Janet, you will occasionally feel their presence. I also took pictures before they left. I have a series of photos of Pogo lying in his favorite place on the couch. In the first few, he's sitting up looking regal, and then gradually he loses energy and lies down. He was purring as he went to sleep and I, too, felt it happened too fast. But I'm sure it's what he wanted. I am crying as I write this. The pain never goes away completely. But I don't feel guilty like I did when I lost a couple cats to coyotes (I shouldnt have let them get out). They died in a horrific way.
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Oh my heart is sad for you about what happened with the coyotes, that’s a hard thing to carry. It wasn’t your fault and I wish so bad you didn’t have to go through that....I’m so sorry, Hugs xoxoxoxoxox

Ted has been my only pet. I’ve had him the entire time I’ve lived here in Florida and it’s just such an odd feeling that isn’t here this morning. A part of me doesn’t even understand even though I do understand.
Yes teddy would never usually lick my face. And all last night he would rest and then off and on lick my hand and face. Cat licks hurt on the face! Smile! But i didn’t even care. It was the sweetest thing and it made me feel like he loved me so much. It was sweet and I’ll never forget it. So heartbreaking but I’m glad to have that to remember.

Thanks for your kindness and understanding. xoxoxox :)
 
Rachel said:
Shawna, I am so so sorry it was Teddy's time. I know the pain you're in...I've been there. And I know that I can tell you all day long that it will get better but that doesn't help right now. But I promise it WILL...just hold on. You absolutely 100% did the right thing by Teddy and he knew and knows how loved he is. He'll be waiting for you on the other side of the bridge and he will be loving you until you are reunited. I'm sure that my Gypsy is there showing him the ropes and hanging out with him even now...she was that kind of cat. :bighug::bighug::bighug:

Fly free, sweet Teddy! Land softly.
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Thanks Rachel, I hope it gets better, I believe you that it will. I’ve never experienced such pain like this and I just want Theodore back.
Aw that made me happy to read that you think Gypsy is helping teddy. I don’t know where pets go and I just don’t want him to be by himself. I’m going to hope for the rest of my life I can see him again.

Thank you for all the help you’ve given me with his diabetes. I learned so much! And it helped Teddy stay regulated and I will forever be thankful! He could have lived longer with the diabetes, it was the other stuff that made him have to leave now. This site and each of you make a major impact !!!! I don’t know what I would have done had I not found you all when he first got sick. I wish words could express how thankful I am. :)

Much love and thank you xoxox
 
StephG said:
My heart aches for you. :bighug:
Teddy was blessed to have such a great friend his whole life. Some say they will send another friend to help ease your pain. I haven't adopted another cat since my Bubba left us but that is mainly a financial decision.
Take all the time you need to grieve. Know that his body may be gone but his spirit lives on and will try to comfort you when you need it most. :rb_icon:cat_wings>o
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Thanks Steph, teddy has always been my only pet, and right now I would never want another pet because I just want Ted back so bad. But maybe my feelings will change. Not anytime soon for sure, my heart couldn’t take it.
Thanks for everything, so appreciated xoxoxo
 
Kris & Teasel said:
Shawna, I'm so sorry you had to make this decision but I know it was out of love for your precious kitty. As the days go on and some of the hurt subsides it'll be easier for you to feel that you did what was best for him. He's not in pain any longer and you gave him that gift. :bighug::rb_icon:cat_wings>o
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Thank you Kris, And thank you for all your help this year with his diabetes! I can’t even thank you enough. Ted and I both were so thankful because with everything I learned here I knew how to keep him stable.
Yes I’m relieved he isn’t in pain anymore. As much as I do badly wish I could pet and hug him right now, I also know he would of growled and cried when I moved him and that’s not ok. So I am thankful I made it through yesterday.

Thank you for everything xoxoxo
 
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