Nat & Fluffy
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Hello guys. It's a been a few weeks since I've been on here. As you can see by my spreadsheet, I have literally no idea how my mom has been taking care of my cat.
She's inconsistent with how much to feed him. (I tell her TWO CANS OF T&T Fancy Feast CLASSICS; then she goes and and buys the GRILLED version and she says "Oh I didn't feed him that". I had to go back to the grocery store, return them, and buy the Classics Fluffy needed; I've done this before too.)
She doesn't write the BG #s down and when she took them.
She doesn't warm his ear before the prick.
She takes too small blood samples which tends to skew the results.
She feeds him inconsistent amounts, like if she feeds him 2 cans in the morning, she'll feed him 1 can at night, and switch it up, so he eats around 3-4 cans a day?
She feeds him sometimes 30 minutes before the shot.
She says she's been giving him 2.5 U of Lantus 8:30 am and pm, but who knows if that's really true.
I call her. Text her. Leave notes. Kindly remind her if she needs help or clarification with anything.
But "she's too busy" taking care of two kids. She spends her time in the house while they're at school. I'm a student, no car, only way of getting home is for dad to drive me back and from the university. He leaves at the morning around 5. I tried going back and forth from home to uni (everyday I have 8 am classes), but then my grades began to suffer, my sleep, and my relationship is struggling as my partner has some tendencies towards drug addiction. I already have terrible anxiety. I don't go out. I don't have a life except for school and my cat and relationship issues.
Anytime I try to kindly correct her, she lashes out at me. Says "I should even be grateful for the cat being taken care of." "You should just put him to sleep." "Who cares, he's old. You need to suck it up." She doesn't care for Fluffy like I do. She grew up in Mexico where she owned a lot of cats that lived inside, outside the house, died, she's been through it all. But I've had Fluffy for 16 years.
It's driving me crazy. I hate going home for the holidays because I have to see my cat right there reading numbers in the 200s and 300s, and I feel like I can't do anything. I have tried to be very patient with Lantus. I know I can't expect quick results. I've had him on Novolin where he dipped into very healthy green numbers, but spiked back up. I'm even wondering if there's anyone who's used Novolin to get him down from very high numbers, and then at the end of Novolin's nadir, gave shots from Lantus to help level it out. I don't know, I'm probably just making it more complicated.
I am a control freak, and I accept it. I can handle feeling uncomfortable with his numbers, because at least I can know what to do from there and try something else. But not knowing data, not knowing what to put in my spreadsheet, not knowing whether or not my mom is doing the right things; it's making me feel sick.
I don't know what to do. I've tried everything to help make this easy for her, to make her involved. But I feel bad for all the burden my poor sugar kitty has put on her. I am thinking of sneaking my him into my apartment. My roommates are very kind, quiet people, and have said before that they would have no problem with Fluffy staying with us, but it worries me a little because we are not allowed to have pets at all. Our landlord has never inspected our area though so at least I could feel comfortable with that. And I don't know if the change in environment will be stressful for Fluffy; though it may be even better because we are all very quiet people and it is a very quiet neighborhood.
I'll be home for the next few days and I'll be watching him closely, but I'll have to be gone for a week for finals. Then I'll be home for the next three weeks until the next semester starts. You folks at this forum have been so helpful to me, I just am wondering your opinion on all of this. My main concern is my cats health. Thanks
She's inconsistent with how much to feed him. (I tell her TWO CANS OF T&T Fancy Feast CLASSICS; then she goes and and buys the GRILLED version and she says "Oh I didn't feed him that". I had to go back to the grocery store, return them, and buy the Classics Fluffy needed; I've done this before too.)
She doesn't write the BG #s down and when she took them.
She doesn't warm his ear before the prick.
She takes too small blood samples which tends to skew the results.
She feeds him inconsistent amounts, like if she feeds him 2 cans in the morning, she'll feed him 1 can at night, and switch it up, so he eats around 3-4 cans a day?
She feeds him sometimes 30 minutes before the shot.
She says she's been giving him 2.5 U of Lantus 8:30 am and pm, but who knows if that's really true.
I call her. Text her. Leave notes. Kindly remind her if she needs help or clarification with anything.
But "she's too busy" taking care of two kids. She spends her time in the house while they're at school. I'm a student, no car, only way of getting home is for dad to drive me back and from the university. He leaves at the morning around 5. I tried going back and forth from home to uni (everyday I have 8 am classes), but then my grades began to suffer, my sleep, and my relationship is struggling as my partner has some tendencies towards drug addiction. I already have terrible anxiety. I don't go out. I don't have a life except for school and my cat and relationship issues.
Anytime I try to kindly correct her, she lashes out at me. Says "I should even be grateful for the cat being taken care of." "You should just put him to sleep." "Who cares, he's old. You need to suck it up." She doesn't care for Fluffy like I do. She grew up in Mexico where she owned a lot of cats that lived inside, outside the house, died, she's been through it all. But I've had Fluffy for 16 years.
It's driving me crazy. I hate going home for the holidays because I have to see my cat right there reading numbers in the 200s and 300s, and I feel like I can't do anything. I have tried to be very patient with Lantus. I know I can't expect quick results. I've had him on Novolin where he dipped into very healthy green numbers, but spiked back up. I'm even wondering if there's anyone who's used Novolin to get him down from very high numbers, and then at the end of Novolin's nadir, gave shots from Lantus to help level it out. I don't know, I'm probably just making it more complicated.
I am a control freak, and I accept it. I can handle feeling uncomfortable with his numbers, because at least I can know what to do from there and try something else. But not knowing data, not knowing what to put in my spreadsheet, not knowing whether or not my mom is doing the right things; it's making me feel sick.
I don't know what to do. I've tried everything to help make this easy for her, to make her involved. But I feel bad for all the burden my poor sugar kitty has put on her. I am thinking of sneaking my him into my apartment. My roommates are very kind, quiet people, and have said before that they would have no problem with Fluffy staying with us, but it worries me a little because we are not allowed to have pets at all. Our landlord has never inspected our area though so at least I could feel comfortable with that. And I don't know if the change in environment will be stressful for Fluffy; though it may be even better because we are all very quiet people and it is a very quiet neighborhood.
I'll be home for the next few days and I'll be watching him closely, but I'll have to be gone for a week for finals. Then I'll be home for the next three weeks until the next semester starts. You folks at this forum have been so helpful to me, I just am wondering your opinion on all of this. My main concern is my cats health. Thanks
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not at all. Thank you so much. I think I'm at that point where I need to bring him to the apartment because I can watch him better, thank you. Okay, I will move the notes to my remarks. 
