11/11 China AMPS 102,+5 61, PMPS 79,+2 62,+7.5 74

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Chris & China (GA)

Chris & China (GA)

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11/10 AMPS 89,+4 64,+8.5 85, PMPS 70,+2 57,+4.5 65,+7.5 75

Deputy LagoonMistress China on duty!!!

She's been a little better about doing her exercising this week too (and last week was a total bust due to dis-interest and me being out dealing with DM so much) so she didn't lose any weight last week....but she didn't gain any either so for that I'm thankful

Been another long day around here. DM told me at 11:30 this morning that she felt good and would be going to PT and to get her hair done....when I went to pick her up at 1:15 she was "too tired and weak" to go and said she wanted to go to the nursing home.

I did go and check and unless she spends at least 3 "midnights" as an inpatient in the hospital, Medicare won't pay a dime so she'd be fully private pay....at $4000 a month ......she has $10,000 left to her name so it wouldn't take long to burn through that but it sure upsets me that for a woman who's worked all her life since she was 12, payed her taxes, did everything right....she has to be destitute before she can get any help.

Don't know what we're going to do now.
 
I'm glad China is doing well. I'm so sorry about things with your mom. It's awful how the system treats people. Sending prayers. :bighug::bighug:
 
(((Chris))), I'm so sorry about your mom's situation. Is she in a senior residence (non-nursing home) now, or is she living in her own home? If the former, you may be able to hire an aide to keep an eye on her, or, if she is at home, a home-health-care aide. We had to move my elderly aunt (at 97 years old) from the senior residence to the nursing home that was affiliated with the residence. We, too, had to "spend down" all the money she had left (about $15,ooo as I recall) before taking on the massive paperwork required for Medicaid. That gave us about 3 months to get everything in order. But the nursing home was a big help with the paperwork and my aunt was able to live in the nursing home until her death, at almost 99 years old. She hated it! But there was no other option. She needed the care that only a nursing home could provide. My suggestion would be to check out a number of nursing homes in your area, visit them, maybe even take your mom if you can manage it. She might be able to talk to some of the occupants and get an idea of how they felt being there, how the food was, the socializing, the programs, etc. etc.

Sending you vines for strength and feel-better vines for your mom,

:bighug::bighug::bighug:

Yo Deputy China, I'm up on shore this evening, but I've got my eye on the lagoon. You are doing a super job!
~LagoonMeister Rusty
 
Hi Chris,
Was your dad in the service? There is a benefit for surviving spouses of WW2 vets specifically for long term care and assisted living. There is a limit to the net worth a widow/widower can have but it sounds as if your mom may qualify.
I'll post some links if you let me know you are interested.
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Chris, I really hope your mom qualifies for some of those benefits. :bighug: I know the only reason we could afford to have my grandmother in a nursing home was because my grandfather had been a veteran (WWII, Korea, and Vietnam).
 
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