((((((((Rob))))))))
Warren's numbers have improved so much!!! That is going to make
such a difference to things.
Is he getting a B12 supplement? If not, could you start an aggressive B12 supplementation programme with your vet straight away? Now he's in better numbers his nervous system will have a chance to recover from any damage due to higher BG levels. If Warren has subclinical diabetic neuropathy this could be at the root of his elimination problems. Now that you have made such an advance in regulating his numbers, if it is neuropathy in play then the B12 could resolve the problem. I've seen it resolve the problem in a number of cats since I joined FDMB. If this is the problem, then it may take a little while to help BUT with the better-regulated numbers Warren is likely to be drinking less and peeing less because his kidneys won't be working overtime to get rid of excess glucose.
I really do have great sympathy for you all with the inappropriate elimination difficulties: there is no denying that it's unpleasant. That said ...
My wife is slamming doors around here she is so mad.
^^^ This ^^^ is really not going to help matters. Stress can bring on UTIs in cats, and anxiety can cause elimination problems, too. I appreciate tensions are running very high, but it is possible that displays of anger about the situation may actually be a major factor in perpetuating it.
I would suggest:
1. Talk to your vet about the B12.
2. I know it's awkward but let the vet know that there are some 'life stresses' in the home environment (no need to be specific) and you're concerned Warren may be picking up on it. (NB - I can hear how anxious you are, too, and Warren may also pick up on that.)
3. Ask the vet to double-check that Warren doesn't have a UTI or cystitis (stress can induce the latter).
4. Maybe ask him about something to help Warren with anxiety. Obviously tell him about lack of success with the Feliway collar. I have read that fluoxetine (Prozac) may be prescribed to help cats who are struggling with inappropriate elimination problems.
Note: I've never given any of my cats anti-anxiety medications so I don't know what the risks and contraindications might be. Please ask your vet to detail risks and side effects if he does consider prescribing something to help Warren. (I have read that diazepam isn't great for a cat's kidneys.)
Some links:
Detailed article on elimination problems and clinical / behavioural signs that may give more clues as to the nature of the problem.
Advances in Understanding and Treatment of Feline Inappropriate Elimination - Vet-authored,
very comprehensive article. Includes things to check when making a diagnosis (has recommended tests to order, and also includes diabetes as a potential cause of elimination problems - maybe show your other half this as evidence that elimination problems most definitely can be as a result of diabetes). This article goes into fluoxetine treatment, guidelines and side effects (most relevant for a diabetic being that it may suppress appetite a bit.)
I hope some of the above helps. I've only scanned the article in that second link: it looks really good.
I am really hoping your wife will be amenable to giving you a chance to let Warren recover further. It is so heartening to hear how well he is looking and acting now. I think you've turned a corner. I hope you will be able to persuade your other half to explore all treatment options. My heart goes out to you ...


(((Rob & Warren)))
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