Chances are that Honey, once she gets use to testing will be a co-operative little patient. My girl hates being held and I thought I'd never be able to test her. She turned out to be the best little patient I could ever hope for and often would come get me at test time. I now simply ask her if Mommy can test her and she does a little dance, and then sits down presenting which ear she wants tested. I think they start to understand that we are trying to help them and as long as we are calm, they are calm. And don't worry about hurting Honey because our kitties have very few nerve endings in the test area of their pinna so don't feel much and certainly nothing close to what we feel when poking a fingertip. Most cats don't object to the testing....they object to having their ears manipulated so as Sarah suggested, get Honey used to having her ears played with and then give her a low carb treat as a reward whether she co-operates or not. She will eventually decide that the treat is worth letting you play with her ears.
It also helps to have a special test place. Honey will associate the testing spot with the treat too so eventually you might be able to call her and she'll come running, ready and willing to let you test to get her treat.