Tara to be euthanized today.

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Ken & Tara

Ken & Tara

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She is weak, cold in the extremities, doesn't seem to be able to control her rear legs, so is largely immobile. Every once in awhile she raises her head, such as when I came back from the store this morning. When she was healthier, she always greeted me when I came home from any travel, no matter how short or long of a time I was away. Her breathing is labored, fast and shallow. She just tried to use the litterbox in the big dog crate in which she's been confined, and she couldn't make it, she collapsed.

I shot her this morning, but will not do the sub-Q fluids or any further feeding. Am waiting for the vet to open, he's said the last few times I saw him, come in anytime.

Thank you to everyone here who helped. We believe we did the best we were able to do for her.
 
Oh, ((((((Ken))))))).....
I absolutely understand your decision. It is one that many of us have to make, and it's never easy, so my heart really does go out to you...

On the subject of approaching having a loved kitty PTS the best advice I can give is what has worked best for me...
Breathe. Be present in the moment. Play music (whatever calms you and Tara). Speak softly. Say whatever you need to say. Stroke or brush Tara if she will tolerate that; if she doesn't tolerate physical contact, just back off. That's OK. She will still know you love her. You may wish to offer her food or water if that seems appropriate.

If Tara can't tolerate physical contact, or you don't feel able to talk to her, then you can still 'think' your thoughts to her, and she will get the message.

Will be holding you and Tara in my heart, with love.

Eliz x
 
We think she's lost consciousness. Every once in awhile she takes a breath. We may not need to euthanize her, she's dying at home. She didn't like going to the vet anyway.

I'll respond to everyone individually later.
 
Ken, I'm so sorry it's Tara's time to cross. Yes you've given her every possible chance, her body is just breaking. Remember tho', the part that's Tara will still be right there with you. Prayers for calm and comfort....

Soar high on your new angel wings sweet girl....landing softly back in Papa's broken heart.
 
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Ken, if you think Tara may pass at home then you may find it helpful to try to create a quiet, calm atmosphere in the home. Sometimes, just lighting some candles and sitting quietly can help (either with Tara, or on your own, in quiet reflection). Also, just slow down; in your speech and in your movements. This is a very special and, actually, a sacred time.
And maybe telling Tara (actually, or 'mentally') that it's OK to go, can sometimes help.

But sometimes it isn't that straightforward and it may be the case that you do need to have the vet intervene. Whatever is needed, it's OK. It's all OK...

(((((Hugs))))))....
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So sorry it is time for your Tara to go. May it be peaceful.
Rest in peace sweet Tara. There are lots of sugar kitties waiting at the bridge to greet you. Land softly on the other side.
 
We took her to the vet, she no longer had a heartbeat. She died at home, a place she really loved. I guess I should have placed this post in a different forum, the grief forum.

Shoeskitty said:
I am so sorry. May your Tara RIP.
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Thank you Shoeskitty!

Thank you.
Elizabeth and Bertie said:
Oh, ((((((Ken))))))).....
I absolutely understand your decision. It is one that many of us have to make, and it's never easy, so my heart really does go out to you...

On the subject of approaching having a loved kitty PTS the best advice I can give is what has worked best for me...
Breathe. Be present in the moment. Play music (whatever calms you and Tara). Speak softly. Say whatever you need to say. Stroke or brush Tara if she will tolerate that; if she doesn't tolerate physical contact, just back off. That's OK. She will still know you love her. You may wish to offer her food or water if that seems appropriate.

If Tara can't tolerate physical contact, or you don't feel able to talk to her, then you can still 'think' your thoughts to her, and she will get the message.

Will be holding you and Tara in my heart, with love.

Eliz x
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Thank you Elizabeth. Tara was a fan of classical music. We have an electronic piano, which I used to play, but haven't in several years. That piano has 50 classical piano pieces from the sixteen and seventeenth centuries pre-progammed in memory. Tara always loved listening to those, she actually had favorite songs. Sometimes she would walk on the keys and play the piano herself! We played that for her yesterday and this morning, it did lift her spirits some.


Critter Mom said:
No words, just tears ...

:bighug::bighug::bighug::bighug:

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Thank you Mogs, and for all your help as well. It really was deeply appreciated.
 
Ken, I am so , so sorry to hear that it's Tara's time to cross. Prayers for her, for her journey to her new life at the Bridge, and prayers for strength and healing for you and your partner. (((Hugs)))

Fly free, beloved Tara cat_wings>o
 
Melanie and Smokey said:
So sorry it is time for your Tara to go. May it be peaceful.
Rest in peace sweet Tara. There are lots of sugar kitties waiting at the bridge to greet you. Land softly on the other side.
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Tara died more peacefully than we've had other pets die. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Maggies Mom Debby said:
I'm so sorry. It's so hard to loose our loved ones, 2 or 4-legged. My deepest condolences.
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Thank you Maggies Mom Debby!

Squalliesmom said:
Ken, I am so , so sorry to hear that it's Tara's time to cross. Prayers for her, for her journey to her new life at the Bridge, and prayers for strength and healing for you and your partner. (((Hugs)))

Fly free, beloved Tara cat_wings>o
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Thank you Squalliesmom, Tara has left. She was in pain and uncomfortable, and this was better for her. No more pain! No more struggle.
 
I'm glad she passed peacefully, at home where she was happy and comfortable, with her loved ones, and will have no more pain and struggle. She will live forever in your heart. Rest in peace, sweet Tara.
 
Rest in peace little Taracat_wings>o May you always remember the happy moments you all spent together. I'm so sorry for your loss :bighug:
 
So sorry to hear it was Tara's time to leave you, but if she had to go, it was good that she passed peacefully at home with the people she loved.

Fly free sweet Tara and land softly....there are many at the Bridge to welcome you until the one you love most come to be with you forever. cat_wings>o
 
I'm so sorry. Our doxie Copper died at home too, whereas our other pets we had to take to the vet. Dying peacefully at home is the best option I think, and you comforted her enormously. Perhaps she'll see my little ones on the other side..I hope so! Take it easy the rest of the day, its an adjustment. She's in no pain now, and that's what's important to remember .
 
I am so very sorry for your loss of sweet, beautiful Tara. I know how much you loved her and how much she loved you, as well. It was her time to pass and she was able to do that in the place she called home. Surely that gave her much comfort in her last hours. I hope you can find peace in the wonderful memories she has given you. She will remain forever in your heart, speaking to you whenever you think of her.
 
I am so sorry to hear this. I know I didn't know anything of your little kitty, but I am sending all my positive and healing thoughts to you. Wherever she may be, I hope it is a wonderful and peaceful place with all of the classical music and treats she desires.
 
Ken, I'm so sorry for your loss.
R.I.P. Tara.cat_wings>o
Send your Pappa a sign from from the bridge:rb_icon: for you are so loved and always will be.
 
Oh man I teared up. I am so sorry about Tara. You did everything right. With humans and pets alike, what really sucks is when the caregiver's own emotions start to influence the path that should be taken. All of the time, the elderly, the sick and dying are forced on feeding tubes and life support because the family doesn't want to say goodbye. The reality of it is, that the person (or pet) doesn't want to eat, or be dosed with 6 types of drugs. They want to go. You allowed Tara to go. You listened to her instead of your own personal thoughts and feelings. You did her a huge honor and I just know that she appreciates it and loves you for it.
 
I am so sorry --- We are sending loving peaceful thoughts to you and your family... when I saw your post the other day something about Tara touched my heart and I feel a great loss reading your posts...
Tara will be greatly missed .... I am glad she crossed in a home she loved :bighug:
 
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet little girl Tara... I read through her SS and your posts--she sure fought hard through DKA and a lot of other tough times,and so did you. I just know she loved you and knew and appreciated all you did for her...but still, there is never enough time with our beloved furbabies.

Fly Free Sweet Tara and land softly- You were so loved!
 
Will read earlier posts, but so sorry. it's a horrible decision to have to make, but the kindest. Our dog was on IVs (not diabetic) every weekend at the clinic. She would look at you as if to beg to be let go, but we never gave up. one day when she gave me the look, i told her she had permission to go if she needed, and she collapsed in my arms and that was it. it was a valuable lesson for when my Mom really needed to transition. horrible, but i told her she needed to do what was best for her, and i let her go into my dad's waiting arms in heaven. i hope your baby had an easy transition, and will read above, but just wanted to offer my sympathies and my rambling thoughts.
 
You are truly a gracious and loving cat parent. You loved Tara and she could "hear"you tell her that she could leave her body and be a free and healthy spirit cat. I know the pain. All of us here do and I know we would help take away your pain if we could. Sending love and prayers, hugs and shared tears.
 
I wish our kitties could stay with us forever. Fly Free sweet Tara. May you find peace in all of the happy memories of the love and friendship you shared, until you're reunited again.
 
Oh Ken, I'm so sorry you lost your beloved Tara. Grief has it's place in this forum, too. We can't have joy and peace without experiencing pain and loss as well. Where the Grief forum is good for formal announcements, this forum is about embracing all of Life, including it's final moments.

What a blessing that she passed away at home. You got to spend the last few minutes of her life with her, in surroundings she loved, in a place that was familiar, with smells and sounds that she held dear. No strangers handling her, no cold office noises. Only peace and the gentle caresses of the family who meant so much to her.

Rest in peace, sweet Tara. You will be remembered.cat_wings>o
 
Sparkle said:
You are truly a gracious and loving cat parent. You loved Tara and she could "hear"you tell her that she could leave her body and be a free and healthy spirit cat. I know the pain. All of us here do and I know we would help take away your pain if we could. Sending love and prayers, hugs and shared tears.
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They really do understand. I had a hamster when I was around 14 years old and I loved her so much. She lived to be 3 or 4 which is around 100 in hamster years. One day, I came home and, much like Tara's person explained--her extremities were cold, respiration rapid, and I knew she was trying to leave but fighting it. I picked her up, turned the lights and all the sounds off and laid her on my chest and I petted her and told her it's OK, she can go ahead and go now. She took her final breath within ten seconds of me saying that. They really do hold on exclusively for us sometimes, even the hamsters.
 
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