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I may be the only one here being pessimistic but personally - I think everyone here is trying to get Diana to keep Yuri but the real truth is.....

Diana please correct me if I wrong - WHEN I read YOUR last post - I read resignation - not enthusiasm to try these options everyone is trying to get you to do. I am strongly feeling that truthfully you want to give Yuri up.

So if everyone wants to truly help - maybe we all need to try to see if anyone wants to adopt Yuri - that is what Diana really wants. We need to recognize this and realize that not everyone can face up to owning a diabetic cat for his/her lifetime. That's just the way life is. Unfortunately........

So Diana - maybe you need to notify Venita who runs Diabetic cats in need here on the board AND post on community and make another post here on health but title it differently and word your post differently too so that we can get the word out better. Also put a link to this post so people won't go to great extents trying to educate someone who doesn't need it.

I wish Yuri the best of luck! And as awful as this sounds - I soooo hope that in the future should you ever decide to adopt another animal at any age or ever decide to have a child - as this is the same responsibility - you think this all thru more clearly - neither are throw away beings. You can make the remark/excuse that you got Yuri at 16 yrs old but you are not 16 now. You are an adult now who really should be making contributions to society and life in general.
 
you can still go out and have your good time. all we're talking here is really around $20 a month more between test strips (contours $30 for 100 on ebay all the time) and insulin. otherwise we're talking the same food and vet costs as we have for any pet cat. what is it, 5 min a day to test and shoot, all together? what an imposition.

please understand that we ALL freak at first about feline diabetes. but there are cheap ways to show loyalty/responsibility to your pet while still enjoying your life. you have plenty such tips on this thread alone. i really have no sympathy for someone looking to dump her sick pet on other people. unrealistic to think that people who don't even know your pet and never raised him would take on the responsibility you're looking to duck. when my cat was diagnosed and at death's door, i never once thought of dumping her on someone else. i was scared and feeling sorry for myself and terrified i'd lose her and of the potential work treating diabetes could involve (before i learned how relatively easy it is), but never in a million years did i ever think of just throwing my kitty away, which is what this amounts to. you are an adult now. part of being an adult is not expecting someone to swoop in and take over our problems. we "man up", and we deal with them.
 
Well, this all reminds me of my cat, Muph. I had her before Sundance. We got Muph when I was 13 years old and when I was 18 years old I was kicked out of my house and told I had to take the cat because she would not cuddle with anyone else but me. So for the next 7 years I had sole responsibility for Muph... She did not get sick but I did have to rehome her when she was 14-years-old because I was moving out of the country. I found her a great home and moved. I came back 3 months later but she was settled and I could not ask for her back. :( That was in 1994.

All I can say is that though that path led me to my best friend ever, Sundance, and though Sundance got FD and eventually died in my arms of pancreatic cancer, the fact that I rehomed Muph and wasn't there with her for her senior years kills me to this day. It breaks my heart and it is one of very few regrets I have in life. That said, the weight of that decision is likely part of why I grew into the person I am who took Sundance's diagnosis on the chin and pushed through it.

I only share all this with you because the pang I feel for rehoming Muph is much different from, and sometimes much worse than, the memory of having Sundance set free.
 
Wow, what a response this thread has had. And rightly so. We all care about you and Yuri.

I just wanted to reiterate that when you do get the new insulin, whether it be Lantus, Levemir or one of the PZI's, please consider starting over at one unit and testing before each shot. And then post here and ask for further assistance.

Everyone is here to help.
 
Patti and Merlin said:
I may be the only one here being pessimistic but personally - I think everyone here is trying to get Diana to keep Yuri but the real truth is.....

Diana please correct me if I wrong - WHEN I read YOUR last post - I read resignation - not enthusiasm to try these options everyone is trying to get you to do. I am strongly feeling that truthfully you want to give Yuri up.

So if everyone wants to truly help - maybe we all need to try to see if anyone wants to adopt Yuri - that is what Diana really wants. We need to recognize this and realize that not everyone can face up to owning a diabetic cat for his/her lifetime. That's just the way life is. Unfortunately........

So Diana - maybe you need to notify Venita who runs Diabetic cats in need here on the board AND post on community and make another post here on health but title it differently and word your post differently too so that we can get the word out better. Also put a link to this post so people won't go to great extents trying to educate someone who doesn't need it.

I wish Yuri the best of luck! And as awful as this sounds - I soooo hope that in the future should you ever decide to adopt another animal at any age or ever decide to have a child - as this is the same responsibility - you think this all thru more clearly - neither are throw away beings. You can make the remark/excuse that you got Yuri at 16 yrs old but you are not 16 now. You are an adult now who really should be making contributions to society and life in general.
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I don't disagree, but I am torn: I'm not sure Diana will keep Yuri, even if all the problems she identified are resolved (it doesn't sound like it from her last post); however, as Victoria said, it will be easier ("easier" being a relative term) to rehome Yuri if he is regulated. My hope is that, once Yuri is regulated, Diana will see all the problems resolved and learn that she can have a life that includes Yuri and time for other activities as well. Hopefully, as she looks around the board, she will see people her own age and single, people will full-time jobs AND full-time families, and people that have taken on cats with medical problems that are much more difficult than diabetes, and see that it is not impossible to manage all of these things at the same time, if you really want to. On the other hand, if Diana has truly decided she doesn't want to manage her life and Yuri and his diabetes at the same time, then I hope she still makes ever effort to get him regulated. Not only is that the most humane thing for Yuri, but it increases the likelihood she'll be able to rehome him with people who can simply continue his diabetic care.
 
I'm not a regular visitor to this forum but have been hanging out here a bit recently because I'm so worried about my 17-year-old civvie Sophie, who is having surgery next week. I'm freaking out over it but coming here helps me feel I'm in the company of people who understand and care. So that's the first thing I would say - whatever people are saying in this thread, harsh or otherwise, it's because they care. This board is an amazing place and its members put forward a range of thoughts and suggestions for the OPs to deal with in the way that suits them, personally, best.

Diana - I'm a Diana too, but twice your age and in the UK - you have to think long and hard about what's right for you and Yuri as a loving team. I'm sure you want what's best for him, and what's best for you, too. Are they one and the same thing, and can you then work out a plan to improve the situation, or are your goals different? Do you want to be free from this responsibility? Does Yuri love you as most of our kitties here love us, or do you think he would be happier with another bean who can give him what you can't at the moment?

I've only skimmed through some of the other posts here, but I think people are saying that you need a plan of action. Try a different insulin, feeding and testing regime, whatever you can do, and give it a period of time to work, with the aim of you feeling less overwhelmed and Yuri a happier, healthier kitty. If at the end of that time things are still not good, then consider your other options - adoption, etc. At the moment, if you are saying you feel adoption is best, you may not be thinking clearly and if you go down that route you might live to regret it.

Try writing things down, long-hand. A list of practical steps you can take. Write about your emotions, about how much you love Yuri, about your hopes and plans - anything and everything to do with this situation. The act of writing will help you to think more clearly, which is the first step to helping you to move forward and create a more positive outcome for both you and Yuri - the right outcome for you both.

I wish you well.

Diana
 
Dear Diana and of course the Yuri Bunny....

I well remember what a crazy and challenging time 23 , room mates, starting your career, university, putting $10.00 in my car for a week and hoping it would last....was and I know that having a cat with diabetes would easilly have pushed me over the edge. You are in the right place for that support here.

Can we help you to connect with organizations who may be able to foster and ultimately rehome your cat?
I am thinking of diabetic cats in need through venita here, perhaps private message Venita and see what is possible.

I know it is awful to consider giving up your friend, but I hope we all try to support you.
There have been quite a few cats needing rehoming lately, and I think the board is feeling sad, overwhelmed and frustrated that we can't do more when along comes another, so empathy for their perspective is important as well.

Meanwhile.......their is this kitty in your hands, a lack of sleep happening for you and time to manage until a solution can be found.

200 preshots and lows of 100 sound like a pretty well balanced cat and I am wondering if perhaps something like hyperthyroid might explain some of the other crying, eating drinking?
It is not usual in a cat of 7, but I have a hyper T kitty and it sure sounds a lot like what you are describing. An inexpensive blood test would rule that out for you, or diagnose it, and an inexpensive pill is a solution that works miracles.
I give Flame a pill in the am and pm, crumbled on her food and she went from screaming all the time, yowling through the night, and peeing and drinking more...to be her silly self again in about 5 weeks.

Just a though, while we are all reacting to the future needs, perhaps there is something that is solvable in the short term.

((((((hugs))))) you are not alone and we all speak from a place of passion and love for our kitties, even if it comes out blunt sometimes.
 
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