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to those who are grieving the loss of their precious kitties. I must seem so insensitive to come here ranting on about being overwhelmed, and all you would want is to just have one more moment with your babies. My heart aches for you and the loss you are enduring. I have shared many tears today upon reading of the passing of two more sweet souls. And everytime I come here, I shed tears. So maybe that is part of what I'm finding it so hard to deal with, the sorrow in knowing that life as we knew it, no longer exists. And with that comes grief. I am so sorry for all of you who have lost your dear ones. I realize it was inappropriate of me to share this while others are living with such difficult situations.
 
please do not apologize for your feelings. you are entitled to them. we have all been through some tough times. you have every right to vent on how you feel. a part of life is death but that does not lessen how you feel. you need to post for advise or comfort during your difficult times, you do so without feeling guilty
hugs to you
 
I don't think you need to apologize. We all handle grief and stress differently. In March I lost Tucker and with that I lost the best part of myself.

But just because I lost him doesn't make your struggle any less difficult or any less meaningful.

We can help you if you let us. Many of us had to find ourselves after the diagnosis, this new way of life is overwhelming at first, but it really does get easier. You do get to have a life and take care of your kitty. Ask us questions, ask us anything, we can help you figure things out and someday you may find you have a pretty easy kitty to test and treat.

In the beginning I cried so much when I had to test Tucker, I didn't know how to use a lancet, everything was so foreign to me and I was stressed. My stress made him feel stress and we both were miserable. After a while I got the hang of things and it went so well that Tucker actually came to me if I was late. He loved his treats and his special time with me.

Give yourself time to learn and to take it easy on yourself.
 
Jessie's mom
There is no need to apologize.

I remember when Korbel was first diagnosed. I had just bought a house and I really had my heart set on getting a dog, I asked my vet if I should hold off on getting a dog because I didn't want to upset Korbel or have things be hectic for her. The vet told me that if this was going to work Korbel would have to fit into my life, I shouldn't try to fit my life around Korbel and the diabetes because that wasn't sustainable for any period of time. That is the way I handled Korbel's diabetes for 11 years. I didn't cancel plans to be home. If her shot was late it was late. Now granted, I've always lived a pretty low key life so things like that happened pretty rarely, but I didn't worry about it, plus she always was a very easy diabetic.
The shots and testing will all become routine soon enough, and believe it or not your life will go back to as close to normal as you want it to be.

Unfortunately, pets come with grief, it always ends that way one way or another. Don't think of diabetes as a death sentence. If nothing else, Korbel helped prove that-she had diabetes for 11yrs.
 
Also, in case this hasn't been pointed out. Most people post these boards asking for help with problems, so it can give the impression that diabetes is very hard to treat and requires a lot of time and energy. There are many many people with perfectly healthy happy sugar cats out there who don't post on these boards or only pop in from time to time.
 
Dear Jessie's mom -- sorry Jessie and your brother, mom talk,

There is no need to apologize for anything. We feel what we feel.

I can tell you I was an absolute emotional train wreck when Gizzie was diagnosed at age 14. (Others here can verify that if you need them too... Please don't feel that need... I'm really talking train wreck...) Yet, somehow we danced for four years. She lived and loved longer than any cat or dog in my family. And, quite frankly, I attribute that to her diabetes. She ate better (sort of...) and got lots of TLC. Diabetes did not take her. Being like 90, she simply decided her work here was done. And, yes, I miss her to this day -- but, with a smile now...

There's a quote from Irving Townsend that I love. It's called Fragile Circle.

"We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached. Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way. We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan."

We will always cherish that photo of Korbel and Bear. It is forever embedded in our hearts... I will always cherish memories of dancing with Giz...

Love and encouraging hugs,
Deb and Nikki -- and, Giz, forever dancing in my heart...
 
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