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Karisa and Tasha(GA)

Karisa and Tasha(GA)

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This is hard to figgure out how to say, so I'll just dive right in.

A week or two ago, I posted in a thread from my sister Sandy96. That post I felt was right at the time. It wasn't. I have come to realize that I am still in what our mom calls "Mama Bear mode." It started last year when I lost my mom-in-law to pancreatic cancer. I thought I had shifted gears so to speak and gotten out of that mode. This September when Tasha was diagnosed with oral cancer brought it back to the forefront. When in this mode I am highly sensitive to things that are said or done to what I consider mine (yes sis if you read this you are mine :lol:.)

I didn't just jump off the handle, I dove off, and for that and any missunderstandings, I appologize. I know things are often taken out of context due to not being able to hear or see a person, just what is written, and I missed big time.

This past year or more has been a long and bumpy road.

Karisa
 
I am not sure what all happened, but I know we all understand on here how stressful life can be and how things can be said that we want to take back the minute they are spoken .. I am sure there are no hard feelings ((hugs))
 
I dont know what had happened but : You are a very brave person to come out & admit what you did & appologised.
I am sure your sis will understand :YMHUG:
 
I do and appreciated her stepping in at the time as I was very overwhelmed with what Bug was going through. I too want to add my apologies esp to Sienne and Marje as they were the 2 that got hit the hardest by Mama Bear mode and it was unfair as they were just trying to help. It does turn out that there wasnt anything that could be done for Bug as she was sliding down hill despite the fact even up to the day I put her to sleep other than her Hgb hct and rbc counts, her labs showed she was a perfectly healthy cat other than diabetes. We dont know what caused her to stop making rbc's it could have been anything but she was in distress and I couldnt watch it anymore or add anymore distress onto her little body.
I do want to Thank My sister for Mama Bear mode as it gave me time to step back and think before I posted what I had typed up and I realized that what I had posted wasnt right either. Please forgive both of us for the misunderstandings that happened.
 
:YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG: :YMHUG: I think there were misunderstandings on all sides. Know that everyone here is only trying to help and no offense was ever meant.
 
There are times when people post and they attack in a way that is very personal. Neither of your posts felt personal to me. It was a high stress time and I didn't have all of the information that you both had. Written communication isn't always the best mechanism to conveying intent or nuance. I've also been here long enough to know that not all vets are invested in working hard to help a kitty. From what you've said, you've got a good vet who put the well being of Bug first. Again, this is information I didn't have at the time. At difficult times, even asking a well intentioned question may not have the desired effect.

As far as my feelings, no harm, no foul. But thank you both for taking the time to say something. It speaks volumes -- in a good way -- that you did so.
 
Karisa,

Thank you for taking the time to come back and apologize. I agree with Sienne, it speaks volumes about your character.

We all have stress and it's easy to be upset; the rest of this understand this and there is probably not one of us who hasn't felt the same way. I just want you to know there was never any intent on our part to judge what you all were or were not doing; we were just trying to provide information. I would never second guess a caregiver's assessment of their kitty's QOL. We only want to give options to consider and it's the CG's decision. We are here to support and comfort.

Thank you,again, for your post.
 
I want to thank everyone (yes dingy, even you ;-) ) for their understanding, patience and hugs. This has been incredibly tough time.

On to other news, Tasha is still as onery as ever, calling her miss priss, queen of the groans. Has a nicer ring than miss drooly face. :lol: She is doing better than anyone expected. Just about everything I have read on OSSC says life expectancy is maybe 6 weeks from diagnosis, she is around 10 weeks out.

I need to buy stock in her "ear goop" transdermal bupe something or other. It's gotten to where I just call and say it's ear goop time and they fill a couple of syringes for me haha_smiley (like I just did).

Karisa and Miss Priss, Queen of the Groans aka Tasha
 
Karisa's cat still hates me to this day.....All I did was pick her up at the vets office 11yrs ago. I figure as long as she has the strength to his and nip at me (or Karisa if shes there) she must be doing good
:RAHCAT
or shes confused :dizcat
 
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