I hate my mom

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josilynn

josilynn

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My cat is going to die next year because of my mom and her stupid spending habits. I asked her to take him, because I won't be able to afford his vet visits and such, nor his insulin or needles or special food. So I talk to her about it "Oh if we can't afford it he'll need to be put down", she keeps saying I'm in debt to her now because "we" "can't afford this" when she's saving crapload of money to go to effing CANADA and regularly has to borrow 90% of MY money every month. If she would save money rather than blow it on all the new special clothes she wants and crap it'd be a lot better.

If this insulin doesn't help him, we're screwed.
 
You mentioned in your other post that someone had offered to donate some Lantus? Is that still the case? If you can get the Lantus, and get your kitty off the Humulin, then you avoid the insulin cost at least for a while. You can get a meter and strips to start with for just the cost of shipping them to you if you click on the "Home Testing Kits" button at the top of the page. You don't need to buy expensive special food. The grocery store or walmart sell perfectly good canned foods for diabetic cats at a price that won't cripple you. Fancy Feast classics, Friskees Pates, WalMart's Special Kitty.... all of those are fine to feed.

Your Mom doesn't need to be an obstacle to you treating your cat. If you home test, you won't have outrageous vet bills either. You might be able to stop her from borrowing so much money if you can spend it on what you need first. Then you can say "Sorry, Mom, I'm a little short this month".

Carl
 
I would also go to the bank and create a new account in JUST YOUR NAME- at 21 you can do that- and transfer all of your money over to it so she doesn't have access to it. If you have bills coming out of the account either stop them or change them over to the new account.

Sorry- but she is stealing from you. If you went to work and earned the money or borrowed it for school- it is YOUR money, not hers. It is no different than a mugger coming up and robbing you at gunpoint. Her gun, however, is words and actions.

I know people like this- she will never let it go willingly and says she "Just wants what is best for you". You are not a baby, a toddler, or a child any more. Just as you have to take charge of YOUR cat you need to take charge of YOUR life. And doing it when you are angry and have a GOOD reason to be angry is a great time to do it. And now before she destroys ANY good credit you might still have.

Co-dependency is one of the hardest things to get over. Enabling is so much easier to do- even though it kills you inside.

Me, personally, I'd let her get to Canada and pull the money plug. Call and cancel all the cards in your name she is using so all she has left is her overloaded and maxed out CC's. :lol: Yes, slightly vindictive but what is wrong is wrong. That's the passive aggressive in me.
 
I actually CAN'T set up a bank account, because I'm disabled and living on SSI. Which, my mother is my payee and takes all my money to spend on me, I'm currently in debt to her, and I know that, because of the vet visits.
And no, I am no longer getting the pen, I can't afford to pay any shipping for awhile now, having to use all my money on my cat.

And the card is also in HER name because she's my payee, so that wouldn't work.
 
Then I would suggest consulting with a social worker- you should have one- and seeing if there is another option.

Or at least let them know your mom is taking the money meant for you and heading off to Canada. Then again, that might punish you more than her.

So... how can you move out in a year then, if disabled?

This is a topic more for the community forum than the health forum.
 
Josilynn,

Could you please send a PM to whichever member was going to donate the pen to you, and ask him or her to send a PM to me?

Carl
 
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